Awkward Sex Questions, Answered
Physiologically, a woman is at her sexual peak at age 19, says Brizendine, a neuropsychiatrist at the University of California, San Francisco. That’s when estrogen, which sustains vaginal lubrication, and testosterone, which stokes sex drive, max out. But really now, 19? That’s not the age most women would say they’re having or have had the sex of their lives. And that’s precisely the point. The best sex isn’t about physiology, it’s about psychology.
“It’s different for every woman,” says Mintz, “but what I’ve noticed in my practice, is that sex gets better with age. Women who become comfortable with their own bodies and know what they need and what they like, they have the best sex.” (That’s just one of 40 things you should know about sex by age 40.)
“It often takes time to develop sexual awareness and a real comfort level with it,” adds Kerner. “So I think the best sex comes when you can share an extremely hot sexual fantasy or desire with your partner. That’s when you’re truly ready to get what you want—and often, that’s when you do.”