How big of a turn off are very saggy boobs, honestly?
Hey guys! So I am 22 and since puberty hit, I quickly developed large breasts (wearing an E cup). They were quite saggy (they have a weird shape, they are long, not round) for as long as I can remember with VERY large areolae. A couple of years ago, I gained a lot of weight due to depression and BED but I have finally lost it and now by boobs sag even more.
As you can tell, I am feeling really self conscious about my breasts, to the point I am not comfortable in being naked around anyone. During sex, I always think if positions in order to hide them. Nobody has explicitly said anything about them, in fact, my last serious boyfriend emphasized on the fact that they were large and that he was very happy about that. On the other hand, another guy I hooked up more recently stopped insisting on taking my bra off after the first time we had sex, so there is that (he never said anything though).
At this point I know there is nothing I can do to fix my problem except surgery, which I am really afraid of, but it’s something I am contemplating. It just makes me sad, when I read comments all the time saying “girl, don’t worry about your small boobs! Men love all boobs, small or big, as long as they are perky!”. Like, it’s not my fault I have these boobs 😕
For some reason, everyone thinks that just because a girl is young, her boobs MUST be perky, or she has done something wrong. I think that men don’t actually realize that this could be a possibility, for boobs not to be that pretty. I feel like I am the only one with this problem and that every guy who has seen them was secretly disgusted.
So my question is, to what extent my insecurities are true? Obviously, men prefer perky boobs with cute small areolae, but is it all that important? Am I making it too big of a deal or you would you find very saggy boobs majorly off putting?
Paper-Cutter: I love swinging boobs and perky ones dont do that
daddio3311: I was never a boob guys so perky or saggy doesn’t matter to me.
RIPcherryboyRIP: I like small – huge areaolas. i also like girls that have areolas that are puffy. I liked this girl I saw that had no visible areolas, just nipples.
Saggy is totally fine, I kind of expect it from larger ones. Especially at your size. Pretty normal imo.
Maybe he stopped insisting because A he had to keep insisting and B he sensed you didn’t like it.
PM_MeThatBody: Honestly not at all that’s life
11teensteve: anyone that is mature enough to be with should know that perfect big boobs are rare and that you are beautiful. asswipes pretend that they have standards that only allow “perfect” boobs and butts and whateverelse but the reality is those guys are lonely dicks with a pile of tissues by the bed.
anonymoustwin: it’s not a turn off for me
nextmanonthemoon: While there are some men that like some ‘type’ of boobs more than others, but well that counts for all in life. Some guys like girls in heels, while others prefer bare feet (to name another common example).
You are you and I say you make a bit too big of a deal our of something very litte. Although I can understand you with regards of insecurities.
As for myself I don’t like those made up quadrupple E plastic tits (not to degrade them, simply not my thing). Everything natural however, yes please.
matts2: I require that “my girl” be more perfect than I am. Luckily (or not depending on your views) that is not a problem for 99% of women.
Seriously, men have a wide range of views but for most men getting to see/touch boobs is the point, not how they sag.
>Obviously, men prefer perky boobs with cute small areolae
No, that is not obvious. Some do, some like yours, some don’t care.
hyg346: I love tits of all shapes and sizes and whether they sag or are firm makes no difference. Be proud of and happy with what you have because I’m sure they’re great!
CJ198085: It’s about the whole and not the sum of the parts for me. no particular type of breasts is a dealbreaker for me.
ScorpioLoverboy: Literally do not care, have never cared, never will care. Not even something that’s crossed my mind at all when looking at boobs. I’m an ass man for what it’s worth, but even so, I don’t care about the shapes/sizes/level of sag of girls tits and asses.
neverletmeknow: I’m with you. Mine have always been large and saggy. I am not super happy with them, but I’m only had good or neutral reactions. Anybody who doesn’t like them is welcome to go fuck somebody else!
threefidddy: If it’s casual sex then i guess i prefer perky. But it’s not that important once you get to know someone
subbadubbdubb: Speaking as someone who was a natural 28G at your age and was clearly showing the effects of gravity, I can tell you that I’ve never, *ever* been kicked out of bed or turned over/around by a partner to avoid looking at them. There’s a good deal of truth to the statement a lot of guys make: “My favorite type of boobs are the naked ones in bed with me.”
HanksaLumberjack: I can honestly say I’ve never thought about this one bit as far as it being a turn on or not. The things that turn me on are rarely appearance based but like everything else it’s probably a personal preference thing
DrFrenchkiss: The question should not be wheather men will like or dislike your breasts. It is about you feeling comfortable with your body. If you are not, I would suggest surgery. You will surely feel much better about yourself in the long run. I once had a lesbian colleague who was 22 at the time who had them “done”. It changed how she felt about herself so much, it was the first thing she showed me when we met after her surgery, she was so proud, and I am a guy.
salientsapient: Almost every woman I have ever been with seems to think her body is weird and bad. They are pretty much all just normal real women’s bodies.
Women see some specific example of bodies is porn, or just regular movies or magazines. They see things that aren’t even possible naturally — either surgically augmented tits, or bodies that are photoshopped to hell. And then they internalize some subconscious definition of “normal” that is based on either “super unusual model picked by producer with very specific preferences” or “physically impossible.” And of course they aren’t normal by those standards, but that’s the majority of the women’s bodies that they have really looked at because most heterosexual women don’t see the naked bodies of many real women all that often.
So, take a deep breath. Calm down. Learn to love your body. If you love you, he will too.
And besides, there are whole subreddits dedicated just to chicks with saggy tits. So it’s not even that you don’t look like girls in porn — it’s just that you don’t look like the girls in the specific arbitrary porn that you are comparing yourself to. Different guys have different tastes. Some guys won’t be specifically into your style. That doesn’t mean you are bad — just means you may have to do a little extra digging to find the guys who do dig your particular style.
Coidzor: >Obviously, men prefer perky boobs with cute small areolae, but is it all that important?
It’s not important enough to enough men to justify being neurotic about it, no.
Just fuck the dudes who are neutral to or like your breasts or like you enough that they don’t care about your breasts.
fappington-smythe: I honestly don’t care. It’s more important to me that they’re sensitive, and you get turned on when I touch them.
HappySubbie: Oh my God. You’re like me! I was a young (now I’m in my mid 20s), petite Asian with 32DD tits and a cute face. What’s not to love about me?! Well, these SAGGY 32DD tits!
I have never been fat. The heaviest I’ve been was 110 lbs. But those tits had never lived a day of perkiness. What in the fuck?! They depressed me. They made me feel like shit. And guess what?
No. It’s not the price of having big tits. I have seen other breasts that are slightly smaller than mine, but quite perky. I have felt them, and the flesh was simply, um, less soft than mine? My flesh is just too soft, if that makes sense. My friends have held my hands and commented on how soft they were. We’re all girls. So it’s like I just got dealt a bad hand of too-soft flesh, and the boobie fat just didn’t hold up.
There is this Chinese saying, “There isn’t one ugly 18 year old woman.” Meaning, women in their youth are always pretty.
Yeah right, fuck that.
Anyway, so, my first boyfriend commented on their saggy-ness, but not in an intentionally hurtful way. It hurt me nonetheless.
My 2nd and 3rd boyfriends never said anything about the saggy-ness. My 3rd boyfriend especially LOVED my boobs.
I never came to love them. So I worked hard, saved up money, and had a breast lift surgery. The price was a lot of money, and scars. I contemplated getting rid some of my boobie fat, and put implants in to remain the same size. Because I thought implants would last longer and better than natural fat. But in the end I opted for no implants, only lift.
My breasts are the BEST shapes ever now (ok maybe not the best, but a lot nicer), but I still have the scars. My scars didn’t heal quite well. That depends on the body. I think different bodies handle scar healing differently. Despite the scars, I think it’s worth it. They look great, they feel great and natural to the touch, and I did not lose any sensitivity.
My current boyfriend didn’t give a shit about the scars, and is obsessed with my tits. The guy who we had a foursome with didn’t give a shit about my scars either. He seemed to love my tits too.
I would totally do the surgery again in 20 years when my tits become saggy again.
So, yeah. There’s my story. Is it that big of a deal? Do all men care?
The answer is no. My past boyfriends didn’t seem to care.
I only did it for myself, because it made me happy. But it was not a rash decision. I 100% knew what I wanted, and did my research.
I hope one day you feel good about yourself, with or without surgery.
icymi88: As an average guy I’m here to tell you, there are NO bad boobs! Natural boobs, soft, firm, sagging, perky, shape, color… THEY ARE ALL sexy, beautiful and fun. Store bought boobs are fun too (no bad boobs) but natural boobs are best no matter what type you have. Be proud of what you have, treat them like the special gifts they are.