What are some tips for a woman to be more of a tease in the bedroom?
My husband has expressed that he wants me to be more of a tease in he bedroom. As a very natural submissive, I’m finding it difficult to take myself seriously. Can you please share your ideas on how to be subtle, seductive, and enticing? Thanks everyone!
raven_79: It’s great both that he’s encouraging you and that you are making the effort.
* Make eye contact.
* Touch for a bit, then pull away. Touch some more, then pull away (keep this up until you’re both cross eyed and foaming at the mouth horny)
* Talk softly, even whisper in his ear- and be graphic, like kiss him on his neck, press yourself against him and whisper “I can’t wait to have your cock between my lips,” “I’m going to squeeze your balls so softly,” “My pussy is aching for you. I need you inside me,” “You have to promise to fuck my brains out,”
* Back off and touch yourself for a bit in front of him, and stare him straight in the eyes when you do.
* If you’re on top or in control during, before it gets really intense, pull away and stare him down before you re-engage
* If he’s on top or in control during, touch him, grab him, squeeze him, smack his ass.
* Breathe in and out through your mouth. It opens you up but also helps make you more vocal.
Basically, torture that poor lucky bastard before, during, and after you two eat each other alive. Be creative and have fun.
RoxsMySoxs: Start before you get to the bedroom. Naughty text messages, racy photos, small comments through the day.
In the bedroom…dress up sometimes, prime yourself with toys and tell him your wet and ready. Tease him all over his body- use your tongue, nails, hair, etc. But the key isn’t doing this all the time because it becomes expected. Always change up the routine.
Also ask him, he may have some of his own ideas that he wants fulfilled.
yardini: Before you’re alone in the bedroom, whisper suggestive things to him, brush/rub against him briefly with your breasts or ass. Send suggestive texts. Tell him what to do.
Don’t let him get naked, and rub against him through his clothing. See if you can get him to precum through his clothes. Touch everywhere BUT the places you know he wants you to.
Cover his eyes (sleep mask?) and make him lay still and run your fingertips over his body slowly. Pay attention to his physical reactions and repeat anything that gets a reaction (a gasp or a moan), but not too often. Dangle your breasts or genitals over his face or run against other parts of his body. Ride his face but don’t let him use his hands to touch you.
deadliftsanddonuts13: My SO (24M) likes to give massages where the massager dictates what the receiver can do during the massage. The other day we switched and I (25F) gave him a back massage. I think he expected me to give him some actual task to do during the massage but instead made him just lay their and do nothing. Eventually he turned over and tried to initiate sex, but I told him I wasn’t done yet. I slowly kissed my way up his chest and neck and whispered in his ear that he could either touch me or get a BJ. He chose the BJ. I’d stop periodically to ask how much he wanted to touch me but told him the deal was still the same. Eventually he gave up the BJ to touch me which lead to some fantastic sex I hope this helps!
WeirdBumblebee_23: Play with him before you go hear his ding dong, like a massage and then slowly play with his ding dong, drives men insane
Whereishumhum-: Two tips off of the top of my head
1. Build anticipation. It doesn’t have to be anything explicit, but most importantly give your man some room for imagination. Teasing text messages, footsies under the table at dinner, a little bit of awkwardness and clumsiness, a little bit of touching on his shoulder/arm/waist/knee when you’re sitting side by side etc.
2. Dynamics. Ups/downs in the signals you send him. Give him hints that you want him so much, but playfully push him away, throw his shirt around his neck and pull him together with you towards the bed/couch, let him massage you, guide his hand towards your sensitive parts and let it linger for a moment and then throw it away, etc. Generally let him feel that something good is about to happen, but don’t know when and how, and that he can’t have it just yet. This also apply to BJ/PIV, slow down once in a while, bite his ear & tell him how much you want him, grabbing his junior and staring into his eye then slowly teasing the tip after you’ve already gone at it for a while etc.
It will drive him crazy and he’ll want to devour you whole.
Have fun & best wishes!