Please help me learn to orgasm with my boyfriend! I am afraid to bring it up
I have been with my boyfriend for three years. He is the only person I have been with sexually and I have never had an orgasm with him (PIV or otherwise). I know I can orgasm through clitoris stimulation, because I can do it to myself and it’s really good. However, we have never been able to get me to that point together. Everything feels amazing but I just can’t get there.
It has become an awkward subject to bring up with him, as it’s gone on so long without being addressed. I don’t know how to talk with him about trying stuff so that I can orgasm during sex too. When we have tried stuff in the past, it never works and becomes discouraging for both of us. I don’t know what to do to fix this. I’ve never orgasmed in front of him and now I actually feel so shy about doing it. When he has tried to do stuff orally or with his hands, it feels good but not enough to get me off.
Laxcotton: The biggest thing is having him understand what’s going on down there
First time I went down on someone I had no idea what I was doing, I had a week vacation afterwords and found this video and watched the whole thing 5 times. After that, needles to say it’s been smooth sailing since then.
I strongly suggest you have him watch
It’s not just a porn video but a very informational video on how cunnilingus works.
Have him watch the whole thing but I personally found the most useful and effective methods from jack Lawrence “25:26”
Another thing is communication, yea he will probably be offended and upset when he finds out he hasn’t been pleasing you correctly for the past 3 years but in a year you’ll be having great sex and laughing about this.
Redheadguys: I would be excited if you brought this up with me. It shows you taking charge of your own satisfaction. I would like you to explain what I do that seems to get you close. Then what you do alone that works. Maybe you can guide me a bit or we can interactively explore some sensations and see if we can assemble a recipe that works.
mandagard: My boyfriend always makes me cum before we have sex. He’ll touch my nipples, kiss my neck, and all that. Foreplay is super important! He usually always fingers me and rubs my clit until I cum. Usually I think of my sexual fantasies while he’s touching me to get me off, whether they involve him or not. That really helps me cum hard. I’ve never been able to organism during regular sex though.
FedorDosGracies: Smoke cannabis before sex, problem solved