Alexandra Daddario [‘Braless’]
Olvido Hormigos [Topless]
New generation of girls more comfortable with sex…?
Don’t know if this is just because I browse is niche categories, or if because of my own experiences of sex and discussing with my friends, but I feel like sex is a wayyy more comfortable subject for girls than it used to be.
I guess I mean, as an 18 year old girl, I feel very comfortable with my own sexuality and when with a new partner I never feel afraid to vocalize what I want / don’t like / etc. I’ve noticed a lot of my friends say the same thing, especially when it comes to being safe or introducing kinks.
But from what I’ve read online, I feel like the generations of women above me have talked about how they don’t speak up, or once didn’t feel comfortable with doing such.
What do you think could contribute to this? Boys who have had experiences with lots of girls – do you see a difference? Is this just something my friends and I have noticed, because it’s in our own friend group?
CantStopStaring: I don’t mean to sound reductive, but you can thank feminism for *a ton* of that. Before feminism, women were socialized to conceal their desire because it was ‘shameful’ and a woman’s role, sexually, was to produce babies for her husband once she was married (and avoid ever having any sex, *ever*, before that).
The “shotgun prom” pics, the “rules for dating my daughter” shit, all of that is basically linked to the idea that women should only have sex when all the men in her life agree that it’s time. (And conversely, if those men aren’t around, she can be raped and threatened into silence, because if it gets out that she was raped *her* value is diminished.)
So fast forward: now we’ve got birth control and good STD education, and the internet. Girls and young women can talk with each other about sex, ask questions of older women, read comics like OJST that compare sex toys, and buy sex toys and condoms online (a revolution in itself). Girls can read up on feminist theory and learn about the power structures that are designed to keep women in (metaphorical) chains.
It’s sort of all connected and tangled up together, and it didn’t happen overnight. My generation thought BJs were ‘kinky’ and guys were socialized not to reciprocate oral sex, but every generation has pioneers and laggards.
sandybeachclam: 49 F here , it seems more young women are comfortable discussing sexuality and having sex than in my day. I think it is overall , a positive thing but does come with extra issues for sure. I’m mostly impressed at how quickly non -hetero sexuality has become normalized.
MeepoXL: You haven’t lived through previous generations to know this?
Anyway, one thing you’ll find is that as you get older sex becomes less of a taboo subject. I was quite surprised that once I got to about 21-22, sex was treated like a normal topic of conversation that people just have because it’s interesting.
Even as a guy in his teens, sex wasn’t exactly a normal topic of conversation. Sure “omg she’s hot I’d fuck her so bad” was repeated to ad nauseum but that wasn’t exactly “sex talk”.