Everyone says that sex is fun and that it feels good. I’m a virgin and curious — is that really true?
saltedfish: Obviously, sex is something you have to experience yourself to really understand. But yes, it can be fun, and pleasurable and helps connect people. In my personal experience, when my partner is someone I love and trust, it can be fun. Like, an actual physical activity that makes me laugh and feel happy. You know you’ve got a good partner, in my opinion, when even the act itself is fun and leaves you satisfied, with or without a climax.
It can also be hurtful, scary and unrewarding if done for the wrong reasons. Letting someone manipulate yourself into sex, or failing to use protection in a questionable situation, or breaking a promise to a partner can all lead to shitty sexual experiences. To say nothing of other people forcing you into things. I would hazard a guess that the least satisfying sex comes when both people are purely focused on their own orgasm. I know it gets said a lot and even I used to roll my eyes (especially when I was a virgin), but building a connection with the person you’re fucking *really* does make it better.
alittlebirdy1: Why would people continue to claim these things if they weren’t true? Is it a conspiracy by “big sex” to get you to buy their product?
Porkchop_69: Yes, otherwise we would have stopped having sex years ago and the human race would have died out
throwawayhastaway: No one can answer that except for you.
I’m a guy, and yet, to me, eating food feels better than having sex, honestly.
To me it’s a “take it or leave it” kind of thing, meanwhile most of the people I know are practically addicted to sex… As in once or more every single day, irregardless of their actual drive.
Then again, I’m gray-asexual… So that may affect it.
UsernameForSexStuff: Yes, it’s fun and feels good! BUT people who haven’t had sex tend to build it up as this earth shattering, world changing thing, and it’s not necessarily that. Let me put it this way: It’s pretty much the best thing ever, but it’s like one level above whatever the second best thing ever is. It’s not in its own category altogether.
Lexam: Only one way to find out.
OceansideCa: It’s true.
brittbrat1190: Very true.
edubkendo: If you’ve never masturbated, that is a good place to start, to find out for yourself how good it can feel.
goldenstream: Sex is fun and usually does feel good. It is also something too many people obsess over and worry about. There is no need to feel pressured into sex or to rush into starting your sexual life – assuming you are young, you have many decades of exploring this ahead of you.
Are you sexual now? Do you masturbate? Are you able to orgasm?
shootorshoot: you kinda just answered your own question
adelinarose: If you asked me “Do you want (average) sex or an ice cream sundae?” It’d be no contest, I’d pick the sundae any time. I’d say go out and try sex so you can stop wondering, if you want to. Sex is good, but it’s not always awesome either. It has been a unique feeling for me though, so I’m still “addicted” to it. Because when you’re doing such an intimate thing with another person…it’s hard to stop.
It’s like they’re accepting your flaws and naked body, and want to pleasure you. You won’t do that with 99% of the people you meet in life.
Coidzor: If it’s not fun then something has gone wrong somewhere, at some point in the process or leading up to it, yeah.
lionsden337: Take your time and do it when you are ready for it yourself (DO NOT let anyone pressure you into something you don’t want, and you can always say no at any time). Do some research if you are curious about certain things, and I’m sure the people here would gladly help out. Make sure you are relaxed, ready and doing it with someone who cares for you, you care for him/her, and you trust eachother. Things might be awkward the first few times and you might get nervous; that’s all normal and ok. Communicate with your partner and be open about what you do and don’t like (they can’t read your thoughts unfortunatly) most of all, enjoy! Sex is something special that can be amazing.
MrsValentine: It’s sometimes true and sometimes not. Sex can be absolutely amazing or absolutely boring or really scary in a bad way. Just depends.
Snesgamer83: Most people like it to some degree, some are “asexual” or find parts of it painful and don’t. No way to tell in your case until you have it, especially since you’ve given us no other detail, other than the fact you’re “curious” (which bodes well!)