Kathleen Sorbara by Sarra Fleur Abou-El-Haj
Are vaginal orgasms actually different from clitoral orgasms?
I’ve never had a ‘vaginal’ orgasm in that I’ve cum while being penetrated alone. However, I have cum while being penetrated and playing with my clit at the same time. This is really not much different from a regular clitoral orgasm besides the fact that there’s a dick inside me, so yes, there are some heightened sensations.
When I’ve read about vaginal orgasms it usually DOES involve manipulation of the clit somehow. I’m yet to read about anyone getting vaginal orgasms while their clitoris remains totally untouched. It’s just that some women seem to not need as much stimulation to achieve orgasm so the more indirect manipulation of the clit derived from penetration is enough for them to cum.
Yet I read so often about vaginal orgasms being such markedly different experiences from clitoral orgasms, and i feel frustrated – wondering about what I’m missing out on! Am I having vaginal orgasms when I cum while masturbating during intercourse? I’m wondering if it actually is different physiologically, or if a large part of it is psychological and/or has to do with the penis inside you?
pantypandora: I am a woman who can have vaginal orgasms with no clit stimulation. They do feel different for me. With clitoral orgasms the pleasure builds from, well, the clit! With a vaginal orgasm it’s very dependent on rhythm, and the area where the pleasure swells outward from is mostly the g spot.
However, before you despair let me say that up until about a year ago (I am 36 now) I could only have clitoral orgasms after a good 20 or so minutes of oral sex from my husband, and no vaginal orgasms ever. I, like you, spent time researching the elusive vaginal orgasm and thinking I would never experience one because I was not one of the lucky few.
I attribute my newfound ability to hitting my mid-late 30’s sexual peak, and also working very hard on getting out of my head during sex and just focusing on the feelings. I used to build and build towards an orgasm that never happened during PIV sex, I just would hit a wall and wouldn’t get to the finish, though sex was still pleasurable. Eventually I started focusing on that feeling and kind of…cultivating it I guess? I had decided in my head that vaginal orgasms would never happen for me so there was pretty much a block. When I relaxed and just “felt” it, focused on it and allowed it to progress, I started having them.
So they exist, and don’t worry if you haven’t had one. That doesn’t mean you will NEVER have one.
KeepYourClawsOut: I have clitoral orgasms, and I squirt. I find I get no pleasure from squirting other than the force it takes makes me tired in the best way. But it’s in no way similar to orgasms.
Earendyl: All orgasms are clitorally based. The “head” of the clitoris is only a tiny part of it, it extends into the body and when you are engorged it wraps around the vaginal canal and can be stimulated through penetration
ireasearch: I have had vaginal orgasms. They are weaker then clitoral and I don’t enjoy them as much. They can go on for a long time… but, I never feel satisfied afterward.
Jezzy12252016: DEFINITELY! Vaginal is so much greater! At least for me, lol. Clitoral stimulation was quite different
notnotilinca: Recently I squirted for the first time ever. My boyfriend ate me out and I came (via clit) and we proceeded to have (or rather continue the interrupted) sex. There is for sure a difference in the feeling of penetration after having cum (via clit). You feel way more and it feels much better. Eventually it led to me squirting, for the first time ever. But as it was happening I didn’t know what was happening. It felt like I was peeing (though I was sure I actually wasn’t, or I hoped so at least) and it wasn’t til after noticing the sheets that we realized what had happened.
I don’t know if squirting is the same as vaginal orgasms? But I know that an amazing feeling (inside) built up to an orgasm in itself I guess, but the actual cumming (? i.e squirting I guess) just felt like peeing in the moment. I’ll have to pay more attention next time, now that I know I can do that lol.
I only just recently turned 20 but after having watched a lot of porn and having enough sex that lacked vaginal orgasms, I thought that I just couldn’t have them. And right when I had fully accepted that notion and was no longer disappointed, it happened.
I guess the “best” way is to not over think it. I would say most women out there need at least some clit stimulation to have vaginal orgasms, as well as satisfying and pleasuring penetration.
Best of luck ! Don’t despair and just believe in yourself.
MissQuickening: I’m not 100% sure if I’ve had a “clitoral” orgasm (I’ve never orgasmed without the presence of penetration–fingers, a penis, or a dildo), although a little over a week ago I had a “normal” orgasm (radiating waves of awesome pleasure erupting from my pelvis throughout my body that feels truly otherworldly to me) and then about two minutes later, I had an orgasm like I’ve never had.
It was super short and condensed but insanely intense and very much consolidated to my vaginal area. The context for this is that I was on top, so while the penetration was stimulating my G-spot/the internal part of my clit (where my orgasms have always originated), my (external) clit was getting a lot of stimulation from the angle of the shaft.
I really don’t know if that’s the difference between G-spot and clitoral orgasms. I know I should be happy I get orgasms from PiV, but I too am curious… on the other side of the fence from you. I wonder what a “clitoral” orgasm feels like?
fallingfiddle: They may be different strengths but they feel the same to me.
Paracordkitten: Imo they’re completely different. I’ve only had 3 vaginal orgasms, and it was a completely different sensation for me. Clitoral tends to be super intense and borderline painful. Extreme to th extreme. Vaginal I can keep it working, and ride it out without fleeing the sensations.
KewPea: I can orgasm from vaginal penetration alone, and yes, they are different from clitoral orgasms. Clitoral orgasms are really intense but over quickly. Vaginal orgasms are very slow building, all over feeling, and they last longer. I don’t believe that it’s different just because of the penis, because fingers and toys give the same vaginal orgasm as a penis does.
And even still, a clitoral orgasm from oral feels different than orgasms from other stimulation.
The brain is the biggest sexual organ, so I’m definitely sure that the differences have a lot to do psychological reasons. But the physical differences are also apparent to me.
balloonwhale: They feel different to me too! Clitoral orgasms build up quickly, have a short but intense peak, and fall away just as quickly. Vaginal orgasms build up more slowly, have a less intense peak, and fall away more slowly. Both are awesome.