I like blowjobs waaaay more than sex and it’s becoming a problem.
I’m a 20 year old straight male who loves getting a blowjob more than I’ve ever enjoyed sex. I feel like a selfish douchebag every time I ask a one night stand to just blow me, I even have a hard time getting it up/ keeping it up during sex, but I’m ROCK hard during head. A good deal of it may be the performance anxiety I experience from sex which I don’t get from BJs, is there anything I can do to condition myself to enjoy sex more?
drunken_klingon: If you are having performance anxiety you need to get to the root of that. Are you jumping into the main event to soon? not building up enough sexual excitement or enery? If it is nerves giving youreslf enough time warming up will make you so ready to go nerves wont be an issue. Also maybe try girl on top see if it is better letting her perform.
snook342: It doesn’t have to be selfish. Instead of sex, you could both just go down on each other? Either take turns or 69 or something?
PrincessPincushion: I think it’s bad manners to ask a ONS for a blowjob unless you were upfront about wanting just a blow job.
Talk to your doctor and deal with your performance anxiety. You should be able to enjoy every form of sex you want!
Coidzor: > I feel like a selfish douchebag every time I ask a one night stand to just blow me
That would be because you’re being selfish and exhibiting bad behavior when you do that. Unless you told her from the start when conversation started turning sexual that you just wanted her to blow you.
> A good deal of it may be the performance anxiety I experience from sex which I don’t get from BJs, is there anything I can do to condition myself to enjoy sex more?
Deal with your performance anxiety. Don’t let yourself use blowjobs as a way to run away.
LoveCurlyHairedGirls: I am a 35-year old female, who loves giving blowjobs more than vaginal sex. It would be a dream come true for me if I could marry a man who likes to receive blowjobs more than piv sex. I can’t give advice on performance anxiety, because it’s not my expertise. I hope you find something that helps you with piv. It’s totally okay to be someone who likes oral more! I have accepted that about myself. 🙂 I am straight up with partners on what I prefer to do.
Lifes2shortyo: Same here. I mean I can stay hard for both but enjoy bjs more.
LolNowWhat: I have absolutely nothing to add except that you describe my feelings perfectly, even down to the age. Just know that there’s other out there like you!
GiantsFan2017: Why is it becoming a problem?
randomFcukery: If you’re looking for just a BJ, you might try out r/randomactsofblowjob there are definitely women who love giving bjs without reciprocation.
sevendimes9: No. There’s nothing you can do. Some guys like oral sex more than PIV sex. Its just how you are wired. Find a girl who likes to give head and ya’ll will be fine. It isn’t selfish to ask for your sexual needs to be fulfilled.