I was dominated and degraded in bed… And I felt great after?!
He did something he hadn’t before. He does love me a lot, but he had sex with me in a way he hadn’t before – almost in a dark, sadistic way. I loved every second of it. When he was done, I felt ecstatic, and for a whole week since, I was in a great mood, felt really wonderful, and felt sexier than I’d ever felt.
Have you experienced this? And why do we feel this way?
azureleash: No. No no no to most of these replies. Do not just pull out your Dom stick and start treating your girlfriend roughly. Some women do not like this. BDSM requires CONSENT.
Talking about it beforehand does not diminish the experience at all… In many cases communication is sexy IF it is a mutual interest. So… Talk about it, k?
To OP, cool, it sounds like you had a positive experience and that’s great. If you want to continue I still highly recommend you talk to your BF.. continually. Establish boundaries and a safe word at the bare minimum.
Edit: also, be aware of “sub drop” it doesn’t always happen, but often times BDSM does create a chemical high…. And sometimes that is followed by a chemical crash. Make sure you’re getting what you need after being dominated (cuddles, affirmation are common needs for example). If you start to feel depressed or down a day or two after a heavy BDSM session, know that is normal and may just be an after affect of the sex.
ireasearch: I have been abused by a man that fancied himself a dom and insisted that ALL women, note ALL women, want to be forced to have sex the way the man wants to have sex.
I am totally turned off when a man tries to get dominant with me. I can’t enjoy it. I am in bed for mutual pleasure, not his pleasure or amusement.
If you are planning to dominate your girlfriend, fwb, FB or ONS, find out if it is okay first.
For me, it triggers PTSD… once that is triggered, neither of us is having a good time.
twitterfly23: wow, this attracted some serious trolling replies. I love rough sex but have ever really felt dominated. it’s thrilling because he’s showing me how much he wants me. he lost/lusts over me all because of my feminine charms lol
I do always talk out everything though. no surprises, and the rough sex I do is all my idea…so if you want to experience this again it doesn’t have to be all his idea, you can work it out yourself if you want.
edit: also don’t take the replies here srsly please. many guys are really concerned with treating their partner right in bed. many also love being sub in bed themselves…
candylove23: We like it because in real life we are independent, so sometimes it’s nice for the man to take control and be dominant. I love it when my boyfriend gets physically controlling. It shows he’s in charge of my body which we desire from men
OneBrownBear: What did he do? Because I’m planning to do something similar soon with the gf.
curiouskittiousity: I like for a man to take it when I say no. If he’s not dominant, then I’m not feeling it. I used to think I was strange, because it freaked a few guys out. However, when I took Western Civ in college I learned that it’s normal. When The Spartans got married, the female would go to the home alone that night. Her [new] husband would break into their home and rape her on their wedding night. It was tradition..I f’king love it!..ha. If my husband doesn’t do this, we aren’t meant to be. Not every woman is into it though..obviously.