There is a big difference between turning a woman on and courting her. With courtship, you look to build trust and evoke feelings of affection over a long period of time, sometimes years. With seduction, it’s a matter of hours at most and requires that you be on top of your game. It calls for effective navigation, with little room for error.
Many men understand this, and it makes them all the more nervous and insecure. In women, sexual desire is more psychological than biological, and the secret to seduction lies in seducing her brain.
The following tips on how to turn a girl on can help you turn a casual hangout into a sexual encounter with any woman, but I’d be doing you a huge disservice if I didn’t also provide you with a link to the gold standard for creating sexual attraction with women.
Here’s how to turn her on…
1. BE THE BEST VERSION OF YOURSELF
Women are attracted to men who are 100% comfortable in their own skin. They can easily tell when a man is lying or trying too hard to impress her. It’s very off putting and a huge turn off.
One of the best ways to turn on a woman is to present your true self to her with confidence. Stand up straight, be a real gentleman, and treat her with respect as an individual even if sex and getting her into bed is your focus. Radiate confidence without being an ego maniac as the line between turning on and turning off a woman sexually is very thin.
2. SET THE SCENE
Women think about sex just as much (if not more) than men, but you need to create an ambience that evokes sexual desire. According to Men’s Fitness, women have a weakness for candles whether lit or not. Certain colors (such as red) tend to stimulate the sex related areas of the brain, so a sneaky tactic is to use red lighting or red themed decorations. Dimming the lights will also help her get comfortable because women are very subconscious about their bodies.
Playing with her sense of smell will also help turn her on since women have very strong olfactory senses. Individual smell preferences differ from one individual to another, but it’s hard to go wrong with incense and sandalwood.
3. USE VERBAL CUES
Tone of voice and voice inflection are important aspects of seduction so use them wisely. Keep your voice low and husky, but strong and assured. Talk seductively in a slow, flirtatious tempo. Speaking the Language of Lust will help you arouse a woman very quickly.
Flatter her genuinely, taking care to notice aspects of her appearance where she has put in a lot of effort. When looking to seduce a woman, full on flirtation is an effective tool. Talking about sex is a great way to get a woman aroused, but it needs to be subtle at first, then amplified gradually as she gets more comfortable with you. Start off too strong, and you’ll just come across as the creepy guy who wants to get in her pants.
4. LOOK FOR ISOLATION
It will be easier to turn a woman on if you aren’t in the presence of a bunch of other people. Both of you will be more comfortable and less inhibited “talking dirty” if you don’t have to worry about someone else overhearing your conversation. This also helps you avoid any of her friends who might want to “cock block” you.
Find an excuse and invite her somewhere where you can be alone. Just make sure it’s somewhere she will feel comfortable. Taking her to a dark alley, for example, won’t be a turn on. To get her isolated, you can use lines like…
“I’m getting a bit hungry. Join me for a quick bite to eat.”
“It’s loud in here. Come walk with me. We’ll only be 10 minutes.”
“Hey. I need to step outside for a sec. Come with me.”
Once you’re alone, don’t let the anticipation die and pick up where you left off.
5. CLOSE THE SPACE BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU AND INITIATE PHYSICAL CONTACT
Let’s end our discussion of how to turn a girl on by talking about personal space and distance. If a woman responds favorably to your verbal cues, then turn her on even more by bringing her closer and becoming more physical.
Put your body in contact with hers. For example, grab her hand, touch her shoulders, or brush your legs up against hers. If she continues to respond favorably, then move on to more sensual things such as whispering in her ear and touching more erogenous body parts such as her neck, her waist, her lower back, and eventually her breasts. At that point, it’s game on!