[22F] How to be more sexy and flirty with guys?
I need to know how I can be sexy and flirty around men. It’s a long, depressing story but basically I was sexually assaulted a few years ago and it made me a very anxious and nervous person and I pretty much avoided guys. However now I’m feeling better and I’m feeling very sexually frustrated as I’m still a virgin but whenever I talk to a guy I get really nervous and shy.
People are always telling me I’m very good looking/pretty but I feel like guys get bored of me because I don’t really know how to flirt and be sexy but I want to be confident and tease a guy and I want men to find me sexy, not just cute or pretty. Like if a guy gets flirty with me I always just nervously giggle/laugh and blush and look away, I hate it!!! How do I act more confident and sexy around men??? Please any advice?????
Georgiadaddy4u: Eye contact and smiling will take your a long way!
RottenRedRod: So, do you actually WANT to be more sexy and flirty, or do you want to as an means to an end (i.e., date and have sex)? Because, guess what. You don’t HAVE to act flirty. Plenty of people are uncomfortable with being flirty and still date + have sex.
You need to do 2 things: be up-front about your desires and feelings, and be yourself. If you’ve met a guy you are attracted to, you don’t have to flirt! You can just ask him out. Say, “Hey, do you want to go out and [get a coffee/get a beer/go to a museum] with me?”. If things progress, instead of being what you imagine “flirty” is, just ask him if you can kiss him. Then do it!
It’s ok to be awkward. It’s ok to be inexperienced. It’s ok to not be good at (or not enjoy, or not wanting to, whatever your reason) flirting and being sexy. Just be honest and direct about what you want.
wahldennis: You can always practice on here. Build more confidence and apply it in the real world
MateusSwipes: You giggle …and blush? Do you run away right after that, or do you keep giggling at everything he says? Because… that **is** flirting.
armchairepicure: Look, half of flirting is having fun and being fun to be around. Cracking jokes, witty repartee, and being genuinely interested in getting to know someone are staples of that.
Add in a playful attitude, lots of interested eye contact, some eye lash batting, some lip biting (when you are learning new information about someone and your are sort of “chewing it over”) and some light physical contact if the opportunity presents itself (like if his hand is on the table or bar and you agree with what he says, patting his in affirmation. Or lightly bumping up against him when you walk somewhere together, like you are just a bit clumsy, but in a cute way) go a really long way.
NOT_a_sex_robot: 1. Keep the subject on him. Don’t respond with a personal anecdote. Ask more about his life. But, be eager when you are asked about yourself.
2. Laugh at his jokes
3. Ask if he wants to go somewhere. Even if it’s to the bar to get a drink. It gives the impression that you two are together or that you at least want to be around him. “Hey, let’s get some air. Hey, let’s sit over there. Hey, let’s go talk to Karen. Hey, let’s take a walk.”
4. Say “I really enjoyed getting to know you. Let’s do this again. Will you call me (in two days) and we can do something?”
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