Please don’t ram a girl’s cervix. (If she tells you it hurts.)
My dorm-mate just had a very horrible experience with a man from Tinder. She tells me that she repeatedly told him that he was hitting her cervix and that it was painful. He decides to test the theory and struck it with the head of his penis very hard and she ended up screaming and curled up in a ball of agony.
He panics and sends her home and keeps telling her to stop crying because it looks like he’s raped her or something.
Men. Please. If a girl tells you it hurts, don’t act like the porno studs and keep going because that shit isn’t real…She’s still puking from the pain and it’s been a night.
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drmini125: If the pain persists for a while let her know she should get it checked out…I knew someone that had this happen to, and they ended up having an ovarian cyst that had ruptured as a result of that kind of roughness…
tall__guy: Does she have an IUD? I VERY MUCH accidentally went too deep on my SO one time and her IUD perforated her uterine wall 🙁 Please do encourage your roomie to seek treatment if the pain doesn’t do away.
SusieMyerson: “keeps telling her to stop crying”
this is not how this works
Ippherita: Did it just happened? Go see a doctor!!!
There might be some torn if she is still feeling pain.
AsaTera: Typical inexperienced guy thinking he’s beating up the pussy. I’m so sorry your friend went through this.
It_Is_I_Merlin: I once slipped and ended up ramming my ex’s cervix (hand slipped out from under me and my body weight hammered me in) and she had a bruised cervix. Continual pain died down in a few day/a week but she couldnt climax because vontraction irritaded the bruise. Took about a month for her to be able to have sex.
RubberBoardCentral: He responded by saying WHAT
she_makes_a_mess: Damn. What an asshole
ArchaeoAg: Had this problem for a while with my husband. He’s very good about responding when I say hey that hurts but it’s like he forgets that because of his size he shouldn’t thrust as hard and as deep as he can.
GisellePalmer: Let me just say as a porn star, that any actual porno stud worth his weight, if you cut the scene and tell him you are in pain from getting hit in the cervix, he will take it easy! If not he’s totally unprofessional and the girls all gossip about how awful of a fuck he is.
I hope your roommate feels better and doesn’t think men are all like that. What an asshole. For me, breathing exercises and laying on cold tile is the best cure for that weird intense cramping you get. Happy tindering y’all
Not_a_unicorn1: What a douchebag
This goes back to my point that bigger isn’t always better. Doesn’t matter how big it is if you don’t know how to use it
Obnoxiousjimmyjames: For all the men out there, I read an article once (wish I could find it again) it basically explained what it is and why it hurts. In a nutshell, it feels exactly like getting punched in the balls. So this Tinder asswipe “punched her in the balls” and when she said “Stop, it hurts” he punched her again. That. Is a fucking asshole.
reggieLedoux26: Can’t ram the cervix if you can’t reach the cervix (points to side of forehead)
MarukiChan: Porn has ruined many guys this way… “oh, it’s hitting my womb/cervix, I’m going crazy!”
I feel very fortunate enough to be made aware that girls don’t actually like this before I had sex for the first time, I confess… However that guy was a total fuckwit. “oh the cervix actually hurts? Derrrrr let me check and find out if that’s true!” idiot.
Shreddedwheatpaste: Omg I’ve had a similar pain from my guy who’s pretty big but he wasn’t an asshole like that guy
Reading it just made me feel that sicky pain you get in your stomach
I am sorry for you friend 🙁
established82: It’s the equivalent to getting kicked in the balls.
This is how I explained it to my husband when I was pregnant and he fully understood.
Sufficient_Bollocks: What a twat. I touch my GFs at times. She says it doesn’t hurt but I am still super paranoid I am hurting her. It’s not even a good feeling why would a guy do that..
But maybe if it has been a night she should go to hospital. If she is still in that much pain for that long. He might have done some damage.
Whosinthebox: Yeah guy sounds like an asshole. Hope your friends ok
Felstag: Don’t physically hurt someone. Understood.
holyshithestall: So pretty much don’t assault people?
TaeKwonDoQueen: Please give your friend a hug and a bucket of ice cream from me.
What an inconsiderate cockwomble. If that were me I’d tell people what he did and make sure no woman will go near him again.
rufiogd: The second my gf tells me to stop, I stop. I don’t want to put her in a position she’s uncomfortable in.
CarsWithNoFloors: I’ve got my SO’s before, you can see it hurts a fucking lot, why make it worse..
Osmea: This could be considered sexual assault considering she told him to stop. Maybe have your friend think about if she wants to look into that- especially if he’s done actual damage.
Paranoidmuffin: I’m hoping she is feeling better. Why would some ass hole do that anyways .
hazboobs: This makes me sad. Your poor friend 🙁 I would be so pissed if this happened to one of my homies. We’d all be on Tinder hunting him down so we could tell him off lol. I’m actually kinda thankful that my boyfriend’s isn’t long enough to do that to me (and my cervix is high enough, maybe). I love not even having to worry about it.
ZukoAlone: ITT: A bunch of dudes taking this opportunity to inform us about their penis size.
guygxld: Lord. This is the worst pain in the world, I can’t believe he was really such an asshole about it. That shit takes days to recover from.
bluesky747: Omg what a douche!! This has happened before and it fucking hurts!!
My bf accidentally did this one time when I was bent over and he was behind me. I shrieked out in pain, and unfortunately for me, we decided to do it in a park, so I had to walk back all limpy and in pain. It hurt for two days after. Luckily for me, he was remorseful, apologetic, helped me walk back, and didn’t give me any crap about the fact we couldnt finish.
Duke81ist: Maybe it was a cyst. I would get it checked
munene50: When you take smashing literally, it’s not right.
dstlny_97: This is exactly why i am perfectly fine with my 5” len but thicker shtick and exactly why my girlfriend prefers guys who are smaller. And whilst i have hit her Cervix a few times it isn’t like i’m slamming my dick against it, it’s more-so like i’m gently caressing it. Plus i can be about as rough as needs be and she still feels full-up, so it’s a win-win. #LessThanAverageDickMasterRace.
EbbingEuphuist: It sounds like this was an assault. If she repeatedly asked him to stop doing something that was hurting her and instead of stopping he does it harder then this qualifies as physical assault and he can be charged for it, regardless of whether he was just copying something he’d seen in porn.
LabraderpTrickster: I’ve had a similar thing happen more times than I’d like to think about, but all accidental and I quickly flinched from it and recovered, able to continuing on. Even from that little poke it wasn’t something I’d want done with any amount of force especially on purpose. It’s SO PAINFUL. I imagine it’s similar to a kick to the nuts.
DoveFuji: Oh no, I’m sorry for your friend. I’ve had bad cramps that have made me have to leave school so, in a way, I kinda know her pain. If she’s still in pain after another day, definitely take her to a doctor. Hopefully he didn’t cause major damage and I hope her pain stops soon.
springwanders: Any guy that doesn’t stop when the girl said no, is a douchebag. Seriously, what is wrong with them.
I hope your friend is ok :”(
Dorien_Green: I know the feeling. I did doggy with 7incher (I didn’t know) and he got a bit enthusiastic and rammed me a bit hard a few times and I had tears welling in my eyes and the next day…wow! I couldn’t really sit and was in aching abdominal pain for a few days.
But that’s so terrible for your friend. Jerks will be jerks and unfortunately a lot of them seem to use tinder in my experience, probably because of the lack of emotional connection they can do what they want and not care?
Give her support and maybe she could see a counsellor if she is willing as sometimes it is beneficial to talk to someone removed from the situation.
mariecrystie: Douchebag. He’s probably bragging to his friends about how his big dick caused pain. I’m sorry for your friend.
interwebbed: I’m so sorry for your friend omg, that sounds fucking awful, fuck that dude.
Michalusmichalus: You’ve got ton so much good feedback.
I needed to be another person that lets you know it’s better to get this looked at be be told its fine than to not get it looked at and have a serious issue.
EmDeeEm: Looking at you, Rocky Flintstone.
Stud-Muffin69: That wasn’t a real man – that was a lump of crap pretending to be a man.
A real man cares for the lady.
Fuck him and the sack of shit he slid in on.
redbadger91: Fucking piece of shit asshole!Now that I’ve got this out of my system: I’m truly sorry she had/ has to endure that. Nobody should ever continue doing something during sex after their partner told them to stop. There’s a reason they tell you to stop. This is awful. Whenever I hear of such stories I am appalled by how selfish and egotistical some men seem to be. If you can call them “men”.
Edit: You should really go see a doctor if the pain persists.
T3hoofs: Puking? I’ve hurt a woman like that before (and of course backed off) but this is the first i’ve heard of puking. Edit: Puking and/or crying for that matter. Guess i can chalk it up to the diversity of women’s bodies.