Model Laura Mestre: ‘Attic Girl’ by Jonathan Fiedler for NAKID Mag (September) 2017
Jonathan Fiedler, is a photographer that finds his inspiration from memories, people walking down the street, music, other photographers no name a few. He submitted this set he shot with model Laura Mestre exclusively for us here at NAKID!
“In photography I found a way to express myself, to show a the world through my eyes, trying to share feelings, moments and dreams. That’s what I try to achieve in every photoshoot, cause every photo is part of me.“
Would you rather have bad sex or no sex?
Specify your gender if you will 🙂
RiggsBoson: I think it’s usually harder to get from No Sex to (any) Sex
than to get from Bad Sex to Good Sex.
So my answer is Bad Sex.
EDIT: Male (forgot to specify, as OP requested)
whiskey_pants: I’d rather have no sex than lazy sex. Lazy sex turns me off and I would rather masturbate. At least then I can control having an orgasm versus being the vehicle for someone else’s orgasm while being bored.
Yarzeda: No sex
I have had bad sex, and it left me thinking the entire thing was a waste of time and effort. I would have been better off going home early and getting a good night’s sleep.
medievaleagle: No sex. Been with my husband 13 years, we have vastly different sex drives. Mine is higher- i would much rather have no sex, than have sex he doesnt want.
Shpongolese: This is a rough one. On one hand(heh) i can achieve some awesome orgasmic sessions by myself using porn/fantasy and edging myself. On the other, pussy feels absolutely amazing compared to your hard man hands, and even if she just lays there it can still be marginally enjoyable. However! If you define bad sex in a different way such as the person being abusive, intrusive, or otherwise, then i might have to pick no sex. One time i had a girl who was a dead fish, that right when i was about to cum, looked up and said “are you almost done yet?” it literally killed my boner, i ended up leaving with a sour taste in my mouth and some blue balls. While its not abusive, it is very offputting.
duggysgirl: no sex
Curiousdragon: Sex is like pizza, even cruddy pizza taste OK.
wanderingdev: no sex
SWRer: Dealing with this myself currently. Painful sex vs no sex.
I get moments where I think bad would be better than none, but then I second guess it.
It’s hard to go from amazing to anything else.
ireasearch: Truly bad sex means I am not attracted to the person — I would rather no sex.
Sex with someone that is bad at it, but, wants to improve and is making some effort to get me off — I would take the bad sex.
22Livia: No sex.
more_than_a_feelin: I guess it depends on how bad haha because I’m not gonna pick someone being mean to me or something but yeah as long as it’s reasonably bad, I say bad sex is better than none. I love sex. I need to have sex. I always tell my husband it’s cool in those times where it’s not great. I’d rather still do it even if one is tired or whatever. They can’t all be fantastic times… thats what’s makes the fantastic times stand out.
canon12: I would rather have bad sex occasionally with the person I truly love than good sex with someone I don’t.
NoSexThanks: No sex, thanks.
AsAlwaysItDepends: I would like to feel desired, so if I had to choose between no sex and people wanting me sexually and then the sex turns out bad, Id choose the second.
dappled-and-drowsy: People didn’t specify if they were male or female. I wonder if gender makes a difference in their choice.
harleygirl94: I guess no sex. My dh has so many issues with erectile dysfunction to blowing his load in 10 seconds I’m not getting anything out of it. He’s so upset afterwards that I’m left on my own anyway.
Nousrie: I would have to say no sex is better than bad sex…and trust me I know. You get your hope up that you might actually get to come only for it all to be over before you even got close. And then to be left awake and needing to come, it’s just soul destroying.
zeebopbiddlywop: No sex
katzluvme: Currently in a bad sex situation. I’d take no sex over it because each time it’s bad it just rips my heart out even more and I cry alot.
subbadubbdubb: How, exactly, are we defining “bad” here?
If “bad” is “being treated like a self-heating sex doll”, then definitely no sex. If “bad” is “awkward”, then bad sex.
Fuzzatron: I’ve been choosing no sex for a year and a half. So far, it’s the best decision I ever made. So, that’s my vote.
Holeshot75: Definitely no sex.
trash_panda2: No sex is better than bad sex. Self service is always an option.
8livesdown: The question assumes we can predict it in advance, right?
Trouble is, our hopes cloud our judgement.
Despite all past indicators, we hope this time will be different.
So like fools, we keep trying.
Ygsvhiym: Will issue vs. skill issue. If it’s bad because they aren’t into it/just doing it because/don’t care about pleasing their partner, it’s a no for me. If they lack skill, I’m okay with bad sex and all too happy to respectfully show them the ropes.
BatFace: No sex
rayin: No sex. I feel like my time is being wasted. I can just masturbate and give myself a lovely orgasm.
strawberry-bunny: No sex for sure. Had terribly boring sex with someone a few times and hated myself for hoping it would get better each time. I wish I would have stopped after the first terrible time!
ChipsAhoyMcCoy72: No sex.
sprqman: Bad sex
ScorpioLoverboy: Bad sex
mmmlollypop: I’m really torn on this one. I’m so horny I usually will take bad sex over none. However, if the bad sex is of the depression “can’t feel any joy” type that I HAVE witnessed, nothing makes your own mood plummet more than feeling like they hated everything that just happened.
JaniePage: At this point in my life I’d have to say no sex. It’s been ages and ages since I’ve had sex, because I can’t stand the thought of having a boring sexual encounter than one where I *feel* something for the person who similarly feels something for me.
TKCerbs: Depends, if I’m dry for a long time I’ll take bad sex, but if I have the option of bad sex or no sex, knowing that I’ve recently had good sex or will again soon, I’ll pass on the bad sex.
BNN01: I would rather have no sex, with another person. As long as self stimulation isn’t out of the question I would just make myself happy, no person is going to no my body better than me! Also with all the free internet porn and toys that are available sometimes its easier just to do it myself I can make it better than being with another person!
SquidwardsLef10tacle: I feel like you should of asked for gender with this question. Female here, bad sex could very easily mean uncomfortable or even painful for me. I’d rather just rub one out.
phorne: Bad sex usually results in me feeling shitty about myself (regardless of why the sex was bad) so I’d opt for no sex.
Bad as in slightly awkward and not quite on point but has the potential to improve? I’d give it a try if I was into the person.
Bad as in fumbling, painful, hitting all the wrong spots, not listening to feedback, arrogant partner, etc? I’d rather just masturbate and then go about my business.
Luckily, this is a non issue. My husband and I have been together so long, sex that isn’t great is still, typically, very good. And even if one of us is having an off day, we make up for it later.
I guess that’s another element. I’d rather have somewhat bad/off day sex with someone I love than bad sex with some rando/ONS.
missimudpie: Bad sex
RIPcherryboyRIP: Male,considering sex has never once been an option, I’ll elect bad sex. It is too general of a question. Why is it bad, how bad? Depending on that I would change my mind. Until then I’ll assume that she isn’t the most animated and it is left with one side primarily doing the work.
Edit: though if bad implies bad for both parties, then I’d pick no sex because I’d would not do that to a girl.
GFLIEG23: I think most of the no sex replies comes from females. As a guy I would definitely have bad sex over no sex.
Coidzor: Depends, could the bad sex improve to not be bad sex? Then I’ll put up with it while it improves.
Or can I leverage the fact that I’m having bad sex regularly with someone into more easily getting a relationship or starting to have sex with someone else instead?
Mrlousyhusband: Good or bad I don’t care. I just want her to her interested in being there having the sex with me…
absurd_maxim: How bad can sex really get…?
Ergund: I don’t remember what is sex so I can’t answer that 🙂
mistaken_fluorophore: None, probably. I have a tilted uterus apparently and that shit can hurt.
Crabpeoples: Sex is still sex.
Harlequin81: This seems like an impossible quandary for me because, on the one hand, I masturbate freely whenever I’m unable to have sex (wife works nights), but I derive sexual pleasure from the other person enjoying what I’m doing for them anyway while having sex. I guess as long as I don’t fuck things up, I’m good.
Mandrake158: Well.. I’ve had no sex ever so having bad sex wouldn’t be too bad
meta-ape: My friend used to say that a good shit wins bad sex anytime. I still agree.
mindfulminx: I just had bad sex and I can say that I would rather have No Sex than bad sex. I have felt icky about it for days…
irontoaster: Male, no sex.
VampArcher: No sex, for sure. I’ve had sex so bad, it’s left me in emotional distress for weeks afterwards.
PositivelySexual: Male here. It really depends.
If I haven’t had sex in like over a month and don’t know when I’d be able to have it again, I’d definitely take the bad sex over nothing. So long as we’re not talking like penis-breaking, soul-crushing or rapey bad… just kinda deadfish or unemotional or whiskydicked I’d still do it.
If I’m having sex pretty regularly, like 2-4 times a week, then I’d probably rather skip the bad sex and do something better with my time. It’s a pretty easy choice when you know you can have sex again soon.
RampagingKittens: No sex, female..
If its casual sex and the guy demonstrates he’s not even interested in my experience, I kick him out. It’s hilarious how shocked they are when they realize they don’t get to finish. They think I’m a bitch, meanwhile they’re the asshole who’s content to get their own. I’m a giving and communicative partner and if a hookup won’t reciprocate then they’re getting dumped curbside. Either both of us enjoy it or neither of us get to do.
If it’s casual and he cares but is unskilled, I’d still pass. I’m not having casual sex as a charitable gesture. No virgins, and no guys who lack basic confidence and adventurous attitude.
If it’s a relationship the above more or less goes out the window! I’m more willing to teach and such, and am willing to measure my satisfaction over the long term rather than the immediate short term.
Bruised_up_whitebelt: Male, bad sex. Because bad sex for me is still better than no sex.
k3ziah: Transgender female, no sex. Bad sex is just…. Ugh.
RedditSexAccount51: If bad sex is just the girl laying there and let me use her to basically masturbate, bad sex. This can be pretty fulfilling if she’s allowed you to do this.
If bad sex is like… The exact opposite of what I want out of the experience entirely; something like hate sex or rough when I don’t want rough, I’ll just stick to my tenga flip and no sex it.
If you couldn’t guess, I’m male.
jogdenpr: Male, no sex. I’d rather masturbate to good porno that have bad sex.
VeryFewLimits: Define “Bad Sex.” I need to know what you mean by that before I can decide.
KingPing27: Depends on how bad the sex is. But I would rather have bed sex then no sex at all. But I have low standards.
Geometricheaddress: No sex.
Bad, selfish sex just leaves me empty inside and that’s a worse feeling than not having sex in the first place.
abbiyah: Bad sex! Dick is usually better than no dick
Alanyinyang: No sex. As in id rather get blown or jacked off if i know the girl is going to be a bad fuck
tropisms: No sex, male.
Kevinmac59: No sex. Bad sex leaves me with an instant depression
Rinininja: If I’m single? No sex over bad sex. If I’m interested in someone? Bad sex can be turned into good sex, but if it doesn’t ger better after a few times I’ll go back to no sex over bad sex. Female.
burntskiexx: no sex
uniformedsplatter: Depends on how long it’s been.
If you are walking through the desert for 3 days without water and come upon a scum filled pond, you’ll drink it, and feel better. If you have been lost for a few hours, you wouldn’t bother.
BigHairyApeMan: Male – Bad sex, treating its like a wet box to masterbate in.
alarbus: Who are you, my ex wife?
snarledapus: The only bad sex is no sex.
HighZenDurp: Depends on how hard I have to work for the bad sex… I am a male that identifies as a female that identifies as a male.
idodumthings: There is no bad sex. All sex is good sex compared to no sex.
WayneCider: Sorry, there’s no such thing as bad sex. If she sucks in bed, flip her over and take charge. Be responsible for your enjoyment. It’s not someone else’s job.
wickster1: Men approve of premarital sex until daughters are born.