Big dicks are not always a good thing.
As an owner of an 8” penis, it’s pretty annoying sometimes.
Special underwear because the normal ones are uncomfortable. Large condoms became the regular ones feel like they’re crushing your penis and have more chance or ripping. Constantly having to stop during sex because you hit the cervix all the time. Can NEVER hide an erection no matter how hard you try. Bulge is an issue in dress pants at work/formal occasions. There is always teeth during blow jobs.
Sex is probably the most annoying once because unlike in porn, most real people don’t like having their cervix hit. Very rarely do you find someone who can take the whole thing comfortably, Trust me, having a big dick isn’t all it’s made out to be.
thatkittymika: Some girls have deeper vaginas than others, you just have to find them
secretsex6999: As an owner of an average sized penis that’s a comfort of sorts
talkinboutfuckin: >Very rarely do you find someone who can take the whole thing comfortably
But if you do, it’ll blow your mind. Not just the fact that it feels good, which it does, but the fact that it’s even *happening*. It actually kind of takes you out of the moment because you keep thinking “how is this even possible???”
boffo019: Average sized guy here. I dated a girl who loved the big cocks. She once said something about the ‘trifecta of pain’. Girth was one of them, hitting the cervix (something I’ve *never* accomplished) was another, and I can’t remember what the third thing was — I think I blanked out after she said “hitting the cervix”
Side note: Funnily enough though, that relationship went on for a few months afterwards. It ultimately ended because of me and my inferiority complex.
Foxrich: Yea, but no one will talk shit about you and you don’t have to worry about not being enough, there might be some downsides to having a big dick, sure. But with a small one existense can be a fucking pain sometimes..
I lost both my partners cause they wanted someone with a larger dick, and my last bf had this pretty shitty exuse of just being mesmerized by this guys amazingly huge bulge and how awesome it was getting fucked by a 25cm dick.. i just don’t fucking buy it anymore, that size doesn’t matter part is bullshit, it only doesn’t matter when you’re at least average
CthulhuLovesMemes: I dated a guy years ago with a 9″, and I only had sex with one guy prior to him. I loved him madly, but regardless of foreplay, sex was usually pretty damn painful and he was alwwaaaaayyys excited around me.
Going down on him was an adventure… a gag enducing adventure. It was just too much.
Another awkward thing was sometimes, yes you could see his bulge and women would stare.
Responsible_Pin: there is a r/bigdickjoy there isnt a r/smalldickjoy
b_spline: Not always. Just most of the time.
cocksuckaddict: But all in all, there are more pros than cons.
girthybynature: I completely agree. It’s a double edged sword. I am not even as long as you, but my girth has given me problems in the past. At the end of the day, I wouldn’t change anything, but it has causes issues in the past 🙁
0llie0llie: Lots of unhappy smaller-sized men in here. As a person with a standard-sized vagina, I endorse this man’s message. I prefer average, but I’d rather have a little too small over a little too big.
davehodg: My heart bleeds.
schandels: My fiancé is about 9 inches and it took me close to a year to become comfortable. We still can’t do certain positions but that’s ok. As for underwear try SAXX. My fiancé loves them, they are pricy but they are apparently very comfortable.
dmp_vcp: It took my ex almost a year to take mine comfortable and not bleed.
bootsieOG413: Waaaaaah, my dick is too big.
CosmoPeter: In my experience good dirty talk and an average sized dick is the perfect way to get a girl off. Oh, and you gotta be able to last or go multiple times in a session
wyoroam1: I’m an old guy, about an inch longer than average and very girthy. I always see these threads and can offer advice (been around the block).
1. Teeth. Fact of life unfortunately. Petite ladies tend to have small mouths and holding their jaw open as wide as possible isn’t very sustainable.
2. Vagina size/depth… no real correlation to height in my experience. Also, after having children doesn’t increase the depths at which you can, uh, go. Might increase pain tolerance but that isn’t what we are hoping for.
3. Be careful and learn compatibility. Don’t just pound away. There are positions that just don’t work with most women, don’t torture them. Deep missionary pounding is usually the worst.
4. Improve compatibility. Yes, it can be done. Lube and increasing dildo or sex toy size can prep you both and the sensation of immediate, full penetration (without pain) is wildly rewarding. Get a toy as big as you and its awesomeness after a bit of playtime.
5. Last but not least, pregnancy. Women I’ve been with over the years are very horny and orgasmic when pregnant and when a bit further along, can easily (sorry) take it all.
FakeJamesWestbrook: I have a big penis.. It’s been awesome.
sevendimes9: Op you just need to find women who appreciate your talents. Size queens are out there. Teeth aren’t always an issue. Jaw structure can matter a lot as well as talent during blowjobs.
It isn’t true that most women don’t like having their cervix hit. Some hate it, some love it. Most it is situational as when they are getting close to orgasm they love it.
Just gotta find a compatible play partner
redhead2183: The condom size is an easy fix. Take a look at TheyFit condoms – https://www.theyfit.co.uk/
Over 66 sizes to choose from, with the ability to find out what size you are through printing off their tape measure.
Jrmental: I’m an average swinger – can hit all of my wife’s buttons so I am good with it.
Now unerect – I look like a 7yr old. Almost a little stub. I’m a grower not a shower, but I’m very self conscious around other men (gym/pool/etc) because I don’t hang out at all.
Meowhug: Yeah, not to mention the girls that you can’t fit in at all… last time I said it wasn’t all great with a large penis I got downvoted though. :p
NotCoder: Finally someone answers my question.
So it is true bigger dicks will feel mire uncomfy in underwears thus needing special underwears.
Teeth that sounds painful.
kimbalinapea: Seriously! I have a regular sized SO now but I used to have a bigger partner. I had to go to the gynaecologist for really bad cramps due to air getting trapped in my uterus from his penis hitting my cervix and pushing air into it. No fun!
UmadImStylnOnU: I agree, it’s very frustrating. Especially if you do watch porn and you see these women doing things and taking it like a champ because then it gives you false hopes because when you try stuff with your partner it’s nothing like what you seen.. Sometimes it can actually hurt the relationship because you expect for your partner to be able to do what you see this girl on film doing and they will always fall short.
MolecularEXE: I totally agree with this post plus one thing you didn’t mention is the big dick rubbing on the vagina lips makes the girl sore after about 5 mins or intercourse.
actuallytommyapollo: Never the size of the sword but how you swing it.
ORGASMO__X: Learn how to drive your dick properly and wear tighter underwear.
stutterpug: My boyfriend is pretty big as well. I have a fairly small vagina.
We have to take care and be extra mindful of the foreplay, otherwise I’ll rip like nobody’s business.
Often, I enjoy his size. Sometimes, though, I wish we could just go straight to sex without foreplay.
venting98: I’m sorry but I’m gonna have to agree. My boyfriend now is a great size, when he’s hard I even feel that he’s big, not really big but probably 6&3/4 or something. He’s super self conscious and thinks he’s too small but I can’t stress enough how it’s PERFECT.
My ex was big, really big. And honestly we never had good sex, it was always so damn painful, he always finished because I just took it cause “momma Ain’t raise no bitch” but I didn’t enjoy it. I try explaining this to my boyfriend (we’ve been together four years and have talked a lot of our previous sex experiences) and I try telling him it’s not what it’s cracked up to be.
He says if I had it I would enjoy it but that’s absolutely not the case, I love my boyfriends penis, sometimes it gets pretty big if he’s super hard and I think it’s the perfect size. Not huge by any means but just perfect. He used to be extremely self conscious over it but after all this time he says he finally doesn’t feel bad about it, I guess I boosted his ego which makes me happy. Plus, I hear it’s not about the size but about how they do things and my boyfriends just great at sex.
SultanaVerena: Thank you for this post.
Statistically speaking, women universally only fit 6-7 inches of length, with a small few being shorter or longer.
Statistically speaking, men on average are 5.5-6 inches of length, and men who are 8 inches or longer can expect to have a hard time having sex, and at certain lengths can actually become dizzy and lightheaded when having erections.
I dated a man who had a pretty lengthy member, not so much girthy but certainly lengthy, and I can tell you that it just plain hurt. I don’t think I have much length and that I’m very tight, so it just was not going to work without pain. I hated every moment of it because it hurt, but I didn’t want to tell him. Sadly, it was the only person I’ve ever had sex with at this moment, and it’s somewhat ruined sex for me already.
My boyfriend isn’t as blessed, in fact he’s quite average though a little more girthy than the ex in question. He goes on and on about how it’s so important to have a big member and whatnot. It’s saddening to hear. The worst part is that there’s no way any “blessed” man would work out with my ladybits, and I do tell him that, but he still gets upset about it.
It’s heartbreaking that, in this day and age, people are so self-conscious about their length/girth/tightness thanks to what we see in porn. That’s another reason I don’t like to watch it, and look to art instead.
dstlny_97: I’m a pretty average sized guy length wise, bit thicker than average girth wise. Even i hit cervix with my girl in a few positions, i’ve made her bleed on a few occasions too. I’ve been insecure about my
length for the longest time, but honestly i fucking own it at this point. If i make my partner cum, which i do, then i’m happy.
Bio_Hazardous: I’m 7″ long and about 5″ girth and every day I wish I was smaller. I’ve been with my long term gf for 4 years now and we’ve had sex 3 times. She is extremely tight and even attempting just causes her pain so we don’t even bother and haven’t bothered trying again in over a year. She’s still very enthusiastic sexually and enjoys the other aspects of being sexual but actually fucking just doesn’t happen.
It’s honestly frustrating for me but it’s the cards we were dealt so we make do with what we have.
hiphoplarry27: Yeah my boyfriend isn’t that big length wise but girth geez it took me a while to deal. Legit tore my vagina with all the lube in the world from the thickness
asabove_sohilo: Ever thought of sleeping with heavier women? Speaking from experience – I am formerly fat currently chubby – average dudes get about 2-3 inches in unless my ankles are at my head. Everything being fluffier requires a couple extra inches.
No shame to smaller penises of course; some of the best lovers I’ve had were well below average. It really ain’t what you got, it’s how you use it.
Slothfulness69: Thank you for bringing this up! Seriously, so many guys out there don’t believe it and they feel bad about having “small” penises but honestly (no offense to you, OP, just different strokes for different folks) I’d rather have sex with a penis that was too small than too big. My SO is average/5”, and he feels perfect. If his dick was any bigger, he’d hit my cervix constantly. He still does in some positions, and I like it, but it’s not a sensation I’d wanna feel *every* time I had sex.
MissNobody90210: I [f27] had sex with man who are above and under average. With the guy who was above average size sex was painful no matter how careful he was. And with guy who was under the average size I couldn’t feel hmm…full. I also had sex with man who was average length but girth was under average and it was the same like with small penis. So sorry but size does matter.
Conundrum1911: As someone who is larger, much like the OP said, it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows. Sure, I’m glad I’m on the larger end of the spectrum than the smaller, but it does lead to more problems issues, both for sex and also just day to day life, especially if you are on the “shower” end of the spectrum. Thankfully even though I work in an office environment, jeans are ok as slacks are really an option in regular underwear (unless they are black and looser fit).
Also, when girls do say they like bigger, more than likely they really mean 6-7 vs 5-6, and not larger. Also their eyes might like 8″, but their vaginas, mouths, etc…not so much once it is in them, at least until you learn their limits.
frans42000: I’ve read this so many times this summer.
I am so so glad that I’m blessed with a 6” penis.
Apparently I’m right at the top of the “most pleasurable experience for women” scale.
It’s rather uplifting to the spirit.
DigbyTheDogKing: If you can’t hit the back make sure to bang the hell out of the sides
OmegaMale12: I can confirm. My penis size is about 9 inches and I’m still a virgin. Whatever I do I can’t get laid and I open have awkward boners that can’t be wastebanded because my huge size. I sometimes where small shorts or no underwear at all
Apprehensive_Plum: Keep looking – those girls are out there. Big dicks aren’t everything but I wouldn’t want to live without one.
netkcid: Airport security with the X-ray machines is fun too… everything single time …
VagrantValmar: A fat dick is better than a long dick
whalesizedildo: this guy fucks!
omega_dawg93: here’s what i call the truth:
if you line-up 100 men, both men & women will agree that most, if not all, will be built differently… from length to shape to girth. and guess what… we can literally see the differences.
but with women (and some men), if you line-up 100 women, for some strange reason, both women (and some men) believe that **all 100 women will be built EXACTLY the same**. uh, mother nature doesn’t work that way.
as much variation as there is in men… there’s variation in women. some women are born with naturally deeper, wider, and more elastic vaginas. iow, just like there are some big cocks out there, there are some very big vaginas too; they exist.
if you’re truly over 8″, it will be tough finding a woman that can take you completely as 95% of humans fall into what is the ‘average’ range; you are above average by about 3 inches. you need to find an above average woman. she exists, and it has nothing to do with her weight, height, size, race, etc.
the ONLY thing that correlates is the length of a woman’s torso. you can google it, but there’s a study that shows that women with long torsos can take it really deep. examples of porn girls include:
1. angel smalls
2. valentina nappi
3. haley reed (very, very deep)
4. carolina sweets (she can really, really take it)
5. charity crawford.
each of these women have scenes in the blacked series where they take the biggest guy in porn currently. they all handled him with no issues… balls deep, esp. haley reed.
the “hot dog down a hallway” joke is real. some average men just don’t fit well into some women; they’re just too wide and/or too deep. women will argue that the vagina can adjust… and it does, but men (if they’re honest) will admit that they’ve ‘fallen into’ a few vaginas.
there’s tight, and there’s no friction or pressure available. sometimes, we just aren’t sexually compatible.
WingedShadow83: I always hear people talking about liking big penises, but they always seem to be talking about length. This surprises me. I’ve always found girth to be much more important than length.
OP, the good thing for you is that, while it may be a hassle, having an 8” penis can be overcome by using positions that give a shallower thrust, etc. Aren’t there even some kind of sleeves that can be worn on the base of the penis that prevent the last few inches from going in?
Whereas, there’s not really anything you can do to lessen the effects of a really thick penis.
Sorry, that’s probably not super comforting.
throwawayRMD: I’m below average and a virgin because I dont feel confident in myself with my package (4″ hard and 4.5″ or 5″ girth when hard). When I’m not hard, I basically have a buried penis. This has been messing with me my whole life and I have yet to overcome it. I hope one day I will.
kamikazecow: I didn’t even realize they make underwear for larger guys. Any recommendations?
kernsomatic: our second pregnancy was a disaster with full blown placenta acreta, increta, you name it. (google it for horrible details). basically the placenta grew abnormally large and grew into the cervix and merged with the uterus wall. baby was totally fine. yay! but after a partial hysterectomy the doctor had to remove part of the cervix (or all of it?). now when we make love, my 7” feels like 10”. lots of discomfort, pain, some positions just don’t work anymore. even bleeding a year after the surgery healed. so fucked up. i was getting all the big dick porno reactions out of my wife only they were legit PAIN reactions. not all that pleasant. now it’s better, and i just revel in the fact that my medium size is now considered large by my wife.
smartyr228: A small price to pay I’m sure.q
Rollec: I’m a size 11. It’s very important that I get a shoe size that fits me. Size 12 is too big and loose. Size 10 is too tight and painful. Size matters in the context of what makes someone comfortable. Some women like a penis that’s big because that’s what gets them off. Some women like smaller/average dicks because it’s just perfect. Some women give zero fucks (like my gf). She can’t get off through penetration along.
It’s about finding the shoe that is a good match for you.
Lexam: Don’t forget the witch’s kiss.
B0h1c4: I have found that it becomes more critical that you get her good and turned on first.
Not only does the extra wetness help, but also when women are very turned on, they experience “vaginal tenting”, which is basically the vaginal canal getting longer and the cervix pulling up deeper into their body.
So having a big dick doesn’t mean you can’t have *good* sex, it just means that you can’t have deep, spontaneous sex. If she isn’t properly warmed up, then you can only put the first 5 or 6 inches in instead of going to the hilt.
DeuceSevin: /u/19WithDepression, here is someone you need to talk to.
ishbu789: Dude I’m like 7.7 and teeth during bjs sucks!
Leon1811: 8-6 incher here, only had sex a couple of times, ¿is geting your dick hurt cuz the girl keeps getting her teeth in your donger a normal ocurrence for a size like mine? and i also got a lot trouble using normal condoms, especially when it comes to girth, ¿does this get better if i use bigger ones?
fakethrowaways: I’m 7.5” which is a perfect size in my opinion as in large enough that I’ve always “wowed” women but not huge where it’s totally painful.
Been in a few situations where I’ve had issues not being enough of a BBC though. One girl loved with dick and I was too small and ended up not being able to get it up because she wouldn’t shut up about it.
bluskyzz: I wouldn’t mind having or taking a BIG dick, that’s for sure! And I appreciate a nice big cock bulge when in see one, that’s for sure!
AlfredJFuzzywinkle: Get good at oral. Going down on a lady and bringing her to a series of climaxes first has a way of making subsequent intercourse far more enjoyable.
xxdavidxcx87: It is annoying when you hurt someone by hitting thier cervix, it’s also a problem as some girls aren’t very deep so I don’t get much out of it but it’s far better than being too small.
Segmentum: Not buying it. Im 8.5 and have never had a complaint only gracious compliments lol. Find a deeper hole.
Southrncomfortjm: A girthy seven inches seems like the sweet spot. All but the shortest girls can take it all and when baby girl talks about Daddy’s big cock, you know she isn’t lying.
Iaintshitsu: My dick is legit 8 inches and about 6 around. I never have these problems. Idk if it’s the dimensions of my body since I am short (5’11) with big legs but it feels like my dick is average.
I don’t even send dick pics.