Girlfriend is afraid of becoming addicted to sex
My girlfriend believes that we have sex too much (roughly 2 or 3 times a day) and that she will get addicted to sex. She is a kind of naive Vietnamese girl. She also believes that by having a lot of sex her vagina will get bigger. I try to be patient but she brings this stuff up more and more often and it gets frustrating trying to explain that this stuff isnt going to happen can anybody give me some advice?
eversnowe: Many cultures have taken an approach of keeping ladies misinformed so that men have the sexual upper hand. There’s probably tons she doesn’t know. Together talk about the basics of sex and let her ask any question.
Now_N_Laterz: She trying to tell you it is too much sex for her. I not the one to talk as in I have a lot of sex too but just ask her if your routine is too much for her.
Don’t say your girlfriend is naive, I mean you really pounding her 2-3 times a day that could be a lot for some women.
Some women like to drop hits are are more modest about sex, may be she not forward or direct, please ask her.
nosaure: “kind of naive Vietnamese girl” is kinda patronizing, just so you know. She’s not going to be addict or larger from sex, but consider that 2-3 times a day is a lot (couples have sex in average less than twice a week), so as someone put it maybe she’s trying to tell you that it’s too much.
Cdub7791: Are you sure she’s not signaling to you that 2-3 times daily is simply too much for her, and the “addiction” and “bigger vagina” reasons are just face saving excuses?
frappypants: She could be misinformed or the product of a conservative upbringing… but she could also be trying to signal in a modest way that 2-3 times per day is *too rough on her lady parts*. A lot of cultures expect women to be modest, or never say “no” to their husband/boyfriend… so they will try to find indirect ways to signal that they don’t like something. It’s hard to know without more context. If she is bringing the issue up more frequently, it means she is trying to signal louder and louder that *she doesn’t like the current state of affairs*. Whatever the reasons, 2-3 sessions of sex per day is a *lot* of friction down there, even with lube.
From googling around, it sounds like Vietnam also has very culturally conservative attitudes towards sex. She may be caught in a cultural catch-22: she doesn’t want to deny sex to her partner, but she may have been raised in an environment where sex before marriage is taboo.