Could exercise make my (32f) fiance (42m) more active in the bedroom?
We have sex once a week (if I’m lucky). Neither of us are very active but we’ve been trying to eat pretty well. I’ve been wondering if exercise could make him want to be more sexually active. Anyone have experience with this? Any particular type of exercise work better than others? Anything else you can think of that could help – food, meditation, etc? I’m open to trying just about anything. We’ve talked about it but nothing has really improved. Thanks for your help!
amplified_cactus: It depends on why he’s not having sex. If the reason is that he feels like he has no energy, or he feels too tired, or he feels psychologically low, etc, then exercise will almost certainly help with that.
pepsiicat: For sure! It not only gets the testosterone flowing, but it starts boosting your self image. Not being active, you get into a slump, physically and mentally. A body in motion, stays in motion, especially for sexy time 🙂
LarryDavidAlways: Yes. More exercise (weight lifting, specifically) = more testosterone = higher sex drive
pokerbrowni: 40 is around the time when testosterone can start dropping off in men too which can have a profound impact on sex drive. So exercise is certainly a good choice, but he should also have his hormone levels check by the doctor along with his next Lipid Panel. Or if he doesn’t go to the doctor annually, he should just call and ask them to order the blood test.
Iceberg_surfer84: Yes, exercise can help with libido. It’s a variety of factors – improved vascular flow, improved mood (regular exercise is as effective as an antidepressant) and altered body image amongst others.
The ideal mix would be a combination of aerobic (elliptical, swimming, running etc) and resistance (free weights or machines).
It can be slow to see the results, and challenging to establish a routine especially if someone isn’t all that keen to change. A good diet helps, as does mindfuless based meditation.
askredditaccountcln: The most HL GF I ever had was a lazy stay at home do nothing fat body who spent all of her time watching soap operas and masturbating. She would ask to suck me off multiple times a day on my days off, I’m talking like she’d suck me off at 5 AM, again at 7Am, again at 9AM, like a clock! And she’d HUNGRILY slurp on it, like, she ACTUALLY enjoyed it being in her mouth.
My lowest libido GF is actually my current wife who looks like Kristen Bell, has a GREAT body, is 42 years old, has had no kids, has never masturbated in her entire life, thinks men who do are “pigs”, hates to be naked, hates her boobs, hates her butt, hates her vagina, hates body smells, hates body juices, and just in general hates sex. Funny thing is the two years leading up to our marriage she had plenty of libido to lure me in.
I actually find myself a lot of the time, ignoring the yoga moms, and hotties, in exchange for staring hungrily at the fat girls with FUPA’s wondering if they still have the fire.
My buddy calls it resource allocation – He says this: Skinny attractive women have no shortage of resources, so they don’t RESPECT sex or how hard it is to achieve, they are, metaphorically, the rich kids who never had to pay because Daddy always did. Heavyset less attractive (Still attractive tho!) women have a resource shortage, they HAVE to respect sex and acquire SEXUAL SKILLS in order to compete, this is why you hear tons of stories of big girls having tons of bedroom secrets and like, eating pineapple rings off your dick, or integrating toys and allowing you to cum where you want to, etc, are all strategies to ensure they receive the same amount of resources as their more attractive and less hard working counter parts.
I don’t know though, my luck, I’d divorce my wife, get a big girl, and find out she has a pelvic floor issue and no libido from her condishuns and medications….
So take my story with a grain of salt, according to Science, women in shape SHOULD want more sex, but according to my real life experiences, women in good shape tend to want more GYM not more sex…
TertiaTotius: Holy shit, yes.
I’m late 30s and recently lost 30+ lbs. and things have drastically improved. We went from a few times a month to a few times a day most days. Went from having ED and PM to boners-on-demand and going the mile with the forever-nut.
Seriously, getting in shape has made my life so much better, in every way.
All I did was download MyFitnessPal and use a calculator to figure out that at my age, and weight, I should be consuming 1500 calories a day if I want to lose 2 lbs. a week.
It’s slow going, but it’s been so worth it.