[Dating Apps] Have apps like Tinder/OkCupid made dating more focused about sex?
I have noticed that since I started using dating apps it has become and less and less about dating and more about sex.
I have had women send me nudes without even asking, women cool coming straight to my apartment. My brother in college has had the same experience people don’t go on dates most people just hook up.
Is sex just a less stigmatized? I am not complaining about it, I just find it crazy how much of an impact technology has had on dating.
catjacket12: Yes many things about sex are less stigmatized today. And those apps make it easier to meet one time lovers. It’s best to establish what you’re looking for in your bio on those apps.
flaker111: I think those who do use tinder to find casual sex fall into certain categories of 1: be hot 2: be hot otherwise it feels like a echo chambers sometimes.
Plus the endless swiping everything as a guy cuz you never know right ?
Maybe just sour grapes on my end?
_trinidad_: Sex as a whole has been destigmatized by society. Technology allowing easy access to porn and other sexual resources has certainly helped that process. The apps themselves haven’t changed how dating is approached. There’s just two different sets of people using the apps. Some are using them with the intent of finding a date and others are just looking for sex. That’s why it’s important to make it clear what you’re looking for in your bio. If you want a relationship, then stay away from lines like “I’m looking for a good time.” If you just want sex, then be forward about it. The apps themselves haven’t changed dating and technology with a limited scope like that will never cause a wholesale change in society. Technology just enables the shift. Outside of sweeping changes like the introduction of the internet or cars technology just gives the ability to change. It’s rarely the cause of that change
kate2400: I 26yo Female have had tinder for a few years. I have used it for both, but I don’t use it much for hookups any more because I’m a little older and enjoy getting to know people before sleeping with them. I just never put myself in the situation where I would even be tempted to have sex the first night if I’m interested in seeing a guy again. Gotta keep it exciting! I think you just gotta find girls who want to meet for a drink/play some pool or cards and just talk. That is my go to. It does change dating for sure and makes it more about sex BUT that’s not everyone in there and you just have to find whatever you are personally looking for. That’s insane that women have sent you nudes like that!!! 😵
meow813: Interestingly, my experience on tinder has not been so sex centered. I match with a lot of guys, but the majority of them don’t just come out and say that they want to hook up. Sure, some do, and I just ignore those. With all the guys Ive met up with, we went on dates, and whether we went back to one of our places was felt out. Also, only one of them I didn’t go on at least a few more dates with, and that was my choice. So even though the stigma of Tinder still exists as a way to just one and done people, I really have had a pretty positive dating experience from it. I think maybe in the past it use to be more about hookups, but now I know many many people who just use it for finding actual partners, and most guys who talk to me seem interested in dating, not hooking up. By the way, I’m 22F, senior in college, and the guys I meet from tinder tend to be way more willing to date and less interested in only sex than most guys I meet on my college campus. But then again, thats just my experience.