I know its been asked a million times but when I search on Google I am having trouble finding anything similar. Typically all the anal questions are associated with pain and mine is a bit different.
I am 33F and have been active anally with my husband for about a year now.. Originally it started because I wanted to start vaping and my husband was against it since I had already quit smoking. I threw it out as a joke that he could have anal once a week if he got over it and let me do it.. I figured he would of still said no, however he said hell yes.. So we decided to give it a shot..
I will be honest the first couple months were pretty unfavorable, I think the issue was we just rushed it.. Once we slowed down and took more time with the warm up I really started to enjoy the warm up. Over time I got to the point where I now enjoy every aspect of anal except the movement. I see pleasure in ever part and love the feeling of being stretched out, but once the movement starts it just feels blah.. Not good or bad to be honest, it just feels like movement in an area that shouldn’t have movement.
We only do anal in doggy position, as we have tried others and it just never works, I am sure we just need more practice..
As for the feeling of blah, is this normal or could we be still doing something wrong which is why I am missing the amazing pleasure I am always reading about?
I have gotten to the point where he can pound my ass just as hard as he can pound my pussy but I get neither pain or pleasure, just eh..
I have been using a vibe on my clit and if I focus on that I can cum usually every time as well, but when that happens I basically just zone out of the anal and focused on my vibe..
unicoitn: I would try a varieties of lubes until you find one that works great for dynamic applications…like hard anal pounding!
HumanSlaveToCats: It is an AMAZING experience that I love, personally. My issue is that I have hemorrhoids (so sexy) and it’s happened twice where things had to end abruptly due to the mess from aforementioned rhoids. Any suggestions other than more fiber and less inflammatory foods, would be helpful.
Doggy is very good and so is being on your (the receiver) back spread eagle on a couch or bed, so that your partner can kneel and go in slow. All while playing with yourself in tandem with his movements. I find that when I’m in doggyposition, I can better control his in and out movements, which for me is about feeling him every inch of him inside of me.
Maybe you’re in your head too much and not paying attention the good sensations from anal? In both positions I mentioned earlier, maybe use a dildo, vibrator, or fingers to stimulate your clit and that should help with it feeling good for you, too, if you haven’t tried it.
Good luck and have fun!