Hung up about receiving oral
I (28F) have been with my BF (29) for almost a year and a half. We’re very sexually compatible. But the one problem I have is that I won’t let him give me oral. He’s mentioned once or twice wanting to do it but has never pressured me.
I know exactly why I’m blocking on this. The guy I was with before current BF was the first to give me oral (and even then, it was never something I was really curious to explore, but he and I were having trouble with penetration), but when he kissed me right after, the taste was too weird for me, and I’ve been focusing on that ever since! I can’t get over it.
So my question is, how do I get over this? I want to add oral to the stuff we do already! Lol, current BF even joked that he could go down on me, then he could go brush his teeth while I give him head. Ironically, I absolutely love giving him a blowjob. It could also be a control/domination thing on my end.
klekip109: If it’s a control thing on your end, maybe you could get into it y sitting on his face, you can control him and he can eat it. Win win
WatchMeJoTA: Some women definitely don’t like the taste of themselves, and that’s okay! Sounds like he’s totally willing to accommodate you on this point if that’s the case.
Let me ask though; when you received oral before, did you enjoy it (up until he kissed you after)? If not, and you just don’t enjoy it, see if your boyfriend is okay with not doing it, or only doing it occasionally. You don’t have to “get over” not wanting to do something!
If you do still want to try to get over it, let him go down on you for just a minute at first (then go wash his face). Maybe add in another minute at a time later on. You can go slow on this.
If you want to try to get used to the taste, you can control this a little more by masturbating and then trying out the taste a little bit at a time. As a guy, when I first tasted it, it tasted “weird” to me, too. I got used to it (pretty quickly) and now love it. So it could just be a matter of getting used to it.
Ultimately, don’t do things you really don’t want to do. Compromise on things you can. Try to get used to things (or even learn to enjoy, slowly) things you think you can get into with some coaxing/encouragement.
ArtmausDen: As a lesbian I have a “bit” of experience with this. During sex with my gf, oral is almost always included, and kissing right afterwards as well.
If you wash yourself really well before sex, you really cannot taste so much. I am not suggesting you were dirty or anything! It’s just that the natural scent is very supressed right after shower. If your boy combines it with drinking something cold and with specific taste (like tonic or cola) after he goes down on you, you won’t be able to taste a thing. No teeth brushing is necessary.
draco2517: My girlfriend has this same issue. She continues to let me eat her out so long as I do not try and kiss her on the mouth afterwards.
Hawgryder: Why overthink it? For me personally it’s a turn off if I’m not allowed to please her or her please me in every imaginable way. Oral is as personal as it gets. A woman that won’t go down on me makes me question her sensual connection to me. My spouse sometimes just reaches over and gives me a hand job for no reason other than to keep me drained lol. She on the other hand will not masturbate herself for whatever reason or let me do it for her. We’ve been together over 30 years.