My girlfriend (16f) is about to get on birth control. Will it be safe for me (17m) to finish inside her once it’s kicked in?
This might seem like common sense but I just wanna make sure. I came inside a girl once and she was on birth control but I just want to make sure it’s totally safe
sandybeachclam: I assume you mean oral birth control pills. They are amazingly effective when used correctly. Millions of women rely on them as sole birth control and you should feel comfortable depending on it as long as you trust her to take them as directed.
Obviously they provide zero protection from sexually transmitted infections, you should get tested regularly for those.
If you haven’t already , you need to talk about what you two will do if she becomes pregnant. If you can’t have that conversation you shouldn’t be having sex.
Felix-M: You should both get tested for STDs before you do anything like that just to be sure. But remember that even if she takes her pills as prescribed, at the exact same time of day, there’s no 100% foolproof contraception. Play at your own risk.
CJ198085: Limiting the discussion to pregnancy risk and not factoring in STIs: No BC method (except for maybe the kind of tubal ligation where sections of the fallopian tubes are actually removed) is 100% effective. However, hormonal birth control when taken perfectly correctly is in the high 90s%.
The perfectly correctly part is the catch. No offense to high school age people, but I personally wouldn’t trust a 16 year old to do anything perfectly correctly. When I was 16, I forgot to do most things. It’s not unreasonable to assume that a girl that age would get busy, stressed, etc. and forget to take the pill sometimes.
I can’t tell anyone what to do, but 16 and 17 seems too young to roll that particular set of dice. I’d personally wait until your mid/late 30s when nothing really matters anymore to try the riskier stuff 😉
slice_of_pi: Let me ask you a different question, young man.
Are you okay with leaving all of the birth control precautions to her, and potentially being a parent at 17, taking on the moral and financial responsibilities for another human being until they’re older than you are now?
That is what you’re contemplating. There are no 100% foolproof contraceptives, as /u/Felix-M said. Double it up at the least – wear a condom even when she’s consistently taking her BC.
enjoyoutdoors: It’s not *totally* safe. The only thing that is absolutely, without any doubt, safe is to not stick it in there.
But it’s close to safe. Close enough that a lot of people rely on hormones alone for birth control.
But, you know. For you, it might be safe. It has to be for her as well. Some people are so scared of unwanted pregnancies that they double up and go with both the pill and condoms.
An obvious drawback of the pill is that you don’t notice right away that it failed, but possibly not until she starts asking herself a few weeks later why her period is late. And by then it’s harder to do something about it. Not impossible, but harder.
And perhaps she strongly believes that terminating s pregnancy is flat out wrong.
Which, you know, leaves you to tag along with whatever she decides because in many places of the world you are legally not allowed to even try to tell her how she should handle a pregnancy.
I know I’m drawing a worst case scenario here. But you have to admit that it’s a reasonable precaution to at the very least know about her opinion. So that you know if you protect yourself for your sake or for her sake. Or both.
It’s a pretty serious conversation. But you can have it once and then bonk away without any unknowns to worry about. So I suggest you go talk to her.
chasemanwew: I really appreciate all the comments, y’all. I turn 18 in about 16 days and I plan on getting a vasectomy ASAP because I have a lot of diagnosed mental illnesses that I don’t want to risk passing on to a child.
falsefive: Someone smarter than me will say something more poignant, but no. No method is 100% effective, and if you really want to avoid having a kid, this isn’t the way to do it.
SteveSmith1933: When on birth control beware of taking any antibiotics as they cancel out the birth control effectiveness.
Drop_: In reality, ~9 out of 100 birth control pill users get pregnant after one year. So it depends on your appetite for risk.
leto78: Two forms of birth control is the best choice.
Condoms are always recommended because of STD’s.
Teenagers are extremely fertile. If there is a way, nature will find it.
white_lilies220: If talking pregnancy alone, I think the pill is like 98-99% effective, but I know several people who have kids while being on birth control and a dude whose parents were on it when he was conceived. Its not a 100% guarantee, it always depends on how fertile you are. You can always have her track her ovulation and avoid sex during those times or just use a condom. There are only a few days a month where pregnancy can occur.
dtmfadvice: If she is sure to take them every day at the same time, she is almost certainly not gonna get pregnant.
Sman6969: I’ve been married 6 years, shes on the arm stick thing and I pretty much always cum inside my wife. That said I’m 26 years old and wouldn’t mind an accidental child at all. My advice is to always wear a condom until you’re willing to spend the next 18 years of your life caring for what basically amounts to a parasite that can talk.
Frostypawz: Birth control does control birth, yes
Indorilionn: The pill is fairly safe, for sure, but not unfailable. I know a few guys and gals who only exist because it was used correctly, but did not work. Hormonal oscillation can be weird. It happens, but it is fairly rare. Personally, it was always a risk I was willing to take, but often not for my partner. (Who would have carried the weight and grow an unsolicited guest for 9 months, so more power to her.)
mmmlollypop: So, everyone is talking about the pill, but you didn’t specifically say she was getting on the pill. There are other methods that are way more effective than the pill because of the massive amount of human error that can happen there. With pills, you have to rely on her to take it at the exact same time every day.
The long term, much more effective methods are the shot, Depo povera, implants, nexplanon and implanon, and IUDs. If your girlfriend is getting on one of these long term methods, I personally say the chances of her getting pregnant on these are slim enough that you can go on ahead and cum inside her…. after you’ve both been STD tested. If you want to be super cautious you can also wait three months and then get tested again.
Enjoy your cream pies! Hahahahaha.
kilbus: 99% safe *from pregnancy* if used 100% correctly. If you are having unprotected sex you are always at some type of risk for pregnancy or STDs. It’s just the game of Life. That being said bustin’ in your girl is the best and as many billions of men have found throughout history it’s well worth a calculated risk.
Inurondo: If you think a kid is the worst thing possible, make sure she’s all for plan B through abortion before going raw. I have no idea how to tactfully do that though; which is why I just use condoms.
sashimi_rollin: If you’re making a post on reddit and prepared to trust the potential misinformation that can come from secondhand, non-expert accounts… I wouldn’t risk it.
Do the research, kid.
ChaosKilledDinos94: You both should get tested first, but yes, if she takes them at the same time EVERY day she should be quite covered.
BUT, you two also need to have a plan and be super educated about this stuff. Like do you have access to the Plan B pill if she misses a pill? She could forget or have a freak accident like me where I dropped my pill in-between the seat and middle thing of my car. I never could recover that lost pill and had to take the next one in the pack until I got my IUD. So weird stuff happens. Also worth noting that sperm can survive in a woman for up to about 5 days. So let’s say you guys have sex, you cum in her, and then several days later she is late taking the pill or misses it altogether. She might naively assume that it’s not too bad since you didn’t JUST have sex. But she could still get pregnant and it could be worth it to take a Plan B pill in that case. Also some antibiotics and (I think) upset stomachs effect the effectiveness of the pill.
Another thing you two should talk about is what if she does end up getting pregnant, what are your options? What would you do? Are you both okay with an abortion, adoption, raising it, can you afford the abortion, have access to it? Would her parents or a relative prevent her from getting one? Can she get one at her age in her state/country without parents permission? That’s all worthwhile to look into.
daisiesbecrazy: No. It isn’t. You had better wear a condom. If you are even considering barrier-free sex- don’t. Wear a condom. Or use a female condom. Seriously. STI/STD transmission rates are very high in teens. Pregnancy is a definite possibility. And consider that although you both could get infections, she is the only one who could become pregnant. An unplanned pregnancy is hard to deal with at any age, and the weight of what to do next will fall on her. Assume some responsibility and have protected sex. Oh, and get tested. It takes no time and it is incredibly important.
bombfromheaven: I (31/F) had a guy (33/M) ask to nut in me even though I have an IUD. I always have that fear that the IUD or any contraception (condom, etc) won’t work.
Just please be careful.
Birds1010: Unless you know she has been using them 100 percent correctly then I wouldn’t. I was on the pill for 4 years until I felt comfortable without condoms. Even with perfect use she could still get pregnant. Are you prepared for the consequences if that happens? Have an abortion fund, etc.? It is much safer than just using condoms though so it’s better than what you currently are doing.
YouseiX: No birthcotrol is 100% safe.
ImStarky: I wouldn’t. Birth control is never 100% effective. Pills need to be taken exactly as prescribed and even slight variances like taking at a later time than usual can increase chance of pregnancy. You dont want kids at that age, you want to live life and build a career. Id recommend still using condoms along with her using pills/shot/patches/rings etc. Or, instead of condoms, use a spermicide cream/film and pull out. If you insist on cumming inside her anyways, at least make sure she is on BC and then use a spermicide cream or film on top of that. You gotta be careful, girls can lie about taking birth control because they want a baby with you. Or they could miss taking a pill and not tell you. Or could be prescribed a different medication for something else that affects how well the birth control works. Better to always stay as safe as possible. Plus using condoms reduces risk of stds, and if she cheats then you have no protection against them if you aren’t using condoms anymore.
Cynical_Catharsis: Make sure you wait till it kicks in before you can start cumming in her. It takes about a month in most cases (a full cycle).
Women ovulate a few days each month, so if you want to be extra careful dont finish in her on those days.
CrisM1: It’s 99% safe. If you are extra paranoid avoid unsafe sex when there’s ovulation.
Also be sure to have unprotected sex AFTER 1month of medication
tfresca: If she’s on the pill I’d say no. You need to use condoms. Don’t put the next 28 years of your life in her hands.
eeieaeayooei: I (23f) make my husband (25m) pull out even though I’m on birth control because I don’t want a surprise pregnancy. Butter safe than sorry.