Miley Cyrus [Topless Coleccion]
Foreplay/sex in the shower
With an older guy, I mentioned if we could play in the shower but he didn’t like the idea. Mainly because it’s his private moment and even his previous encounters with other partners he never invited them in.
What are your thoughts? Would it be possible for him to let me in to his “field”?
ThisIsMe74839: Hmm. If he doesn’t like it, I wouldn’t push it too far. Maybe you could invite him into one of your showers? Maybe say you need a little help washing your back.
Sassasian: I understand him, actually (well to the most degree). It’s *your* time. Clean yourself, take care of your body, have some good (or bad) shower thoughts, listen to music, etc. It could possibly be the only time one has to themselves. I get it.
I personally think shower sex is, overrated. I’ve had sex in the shower multiple times with my SO. Probably… 4-5 times. It’s not sexy, really. The making out is cool, almost movie like. But then… when limbs and private parts are added, it just becomes awkward. AND! The shower is there to WASH YOU. and I mean **all of you**. So that means your natural or bottled lube will be washed away. And makes it super dry and kinda uncomfortable.
If he’s not into it, there isn’t much you can really do. I mean, although I don’t like shower sex, my SO and I do like to have showers together (sometimes). It’s an intimate moment that I enjoy with him. Maybe ask him to join you in the shower. Not for play, but… just do it together.
Poopsmith314: If he said he’s not interested, and you want to continue having a dialog about it, you need to be very sensitive to the fact that he already said he wasn’t into it. If it’s important to you, then you should state as much, and be prepared for the fact that he might not change his mind. If he doesn’t give any reason why, and you’re curious. There’s a way that you can probe more without coming off like a whiny brat, and that’s key. You don’t want to come off as ‘but whyyyyy?’
Instead, trying asking him if he wants to talk about why, and you could say why you’re interested.