Does anyone guys (I’m M40) can really only have sex if they feel loved
I think this has been a problem with me. I think I can only have sex if I love the person and the person loves me.
hudga-budga: I think that’s called demisexual – you need an emotional component to feel sexually attracted to someone.
BTSavage: I’m 40 as well and I do not like random hook ups. I desire sex, but I really have to feel a connection with someone to be into it. For me though, it comes down to trust. Do I trust them to be safe? Do I trust them to not be judgmental? Do I trust that they’re emotionally stable? I can’t answer yes to any of these questions without building a connection.
bunnixie: I’m not a guy but I can’t have sex with someone I don’t love. I’m married so luckily that’s not an issue for me. I’ve been told by many guys that it’s possible though. I just don’t believe it.
howilefttheministry: That’s not a problem! Wanting to be loved makes sense. Everyone has their own preferences and comfort levels.
heddhunter: It’s not a problem. Sexual preferences run the whole spectrum. Would you say that preferring coffee black is a problem since lots of people prefer it with milk and sweetener? There are probably plenty of people who can’t have sex unless it’s with someone they just met. If we all liked the same things that would be a very boring world.