How on earth do you break it to someone that you want to lick their asshole?
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How on earth do you break it to someone that you want to lick their asshole?
I wouldnt know where to begin. no clue how she might take it.
yourheartshapedbox: For context, I’m a straight female. I like to talk with partners about what I enjoy sexually, and I will bring up that I love eating ass. I will ask them if they’ve ever had their ass eaten and go on based on their response. If they’re interested, I go for it. If they’re unsure I still go for it lol. I’ve never been told no I don’t want to try it, but if I ever do get that no means no. I had a guy slowly make his way down there and go for it based on my response, I had plenty of time to say no if that’s what I wanted. Other times when I mention I’m into ass eating, it’s up to them whether they do for it or not.
I am pretty straightforward about what I want from sex in general, and I really love eating ass so I usually make it pretty clear that I’m interested. It’s surprising to me the amount of straight men that have no worries about, and really enjoy having their ass eaten. It makes me hopeful for people in general being okay with trying new things.
As you can see, I’m really passionate about eating ass.
BRUTALLEEHONEST: I looked my wife in the eyes and told her, “I want to lick your asshole.” She laughed thinking it was a joke, but I kept looking at her. Then she said, “Are you serious?” and I said “yes”. Then she said “EWWWW!!” while I smiled gleefully and gave her the one eyebrow raise.
Haven’t talked about it again but I put it out there for her.
crochetingpenguin: “Hey baby, ever have your asshole licked by a fat man in an overcoat?”
Diablo165: I’d advise you to approach this the same way I approached face-sitting with my SO.
Me: Hey…you ever sat on a guys face before?
Me: You wanna?
And then we talked about expectations (I just wanted my face in there, she was concerned that I’d be focused on making her orgasm and she doesn’t like the pressure) and got to it.
It’s now one of our favourite things.
jupiter10x: Tell them. I would suggest not doing things out of nowhere with no warning. If they aren’t up for it, they may not be the one for you.
Dumptruckbarbie: “You’re awesome. I just wanna hang out and do butt stuff.”
hardbiguy89: How I did it with my girlfriend, eat her out and slowly make your way to her ass.
Northern_Cross: Last time I asked it was something like “I’d like to eat your ass, is that alright?”
TwixButt: What worked for me was doing it in the shower. Didn’t ask, but knowing the girl was always concerned about cleanliness figured it was my best shot.
So I would normally get down on my knees and eat her out from behind, the most convenient way of giving her head in the shower.
That little chocolate starfish just stared at me (and I swear gave me a little suggestive wink). So I spread her butt apart and went in slowly. It drove her flipping wild… after about 2 minutes she pulled me up, didn’t even bother drying off or turning off the shower, and we humped like crazy for the next 20 minutes.
Knowing that she was a fan of having her butt licked, the next time I went all in – grabbed some caramel sauce, put her into piledriver position, smeared that sauce all in and around her ass and ate for 10 minutes.
She started to like her ass being licked so much that when I’d give her orgasms from mouth to clit she would push my head down so that my tongue flicked her sphincter during orgasms.
I’m a born asseater.
Nicolo_Ultra: First time my boyfriend did it he asked if he could play with my bum. We were already really into fingers, plugs, anal sex but he’d never used his mouth before. First swipe of the tongue was a surprise (I remember gasping in surprise and exclaiming “that’s obscene!” We still laugh about it). It was a great transition into anal sex.
If you’re not into kinkier bum play already, I’d be more explicit in what you’re about to do than my SO was. Tell her exactly what that mouth is about to do and she’ll let you know if she’s down or not.
Username4418: Just ask?
“Hey babe, how about you let me tongue punch your fart box?”
Gets em every time.
But seriously, just ask.
lePainCreal: Maybe bake a cake in the shape of a bum and a licking face with the words “I want to lick your pooperschnitzel” written in the frosting. That would be a funny way to break the ice and if they say no at least you get to have a piece of cake…
cornerstorewhore: “You’re the big cheese. I’m gonna eat your ass.”
kalte333: If you are proficient in English, I’d start with this: I want to lick your asshole.
You can build from there, but it’s a good jump point.
current909: > Pardon me, madam. Would you fancy a good old tongue blasting of your gentle doo-doo hole?
KevinReddit69: Start with some comments like – “God your asshole is just perfect, gorgeous, beautiful, yummy” I love looking at your asshole, You have the perfect asshole….Build some self confidence about he matter first. And then after she showers sometime drop down below the taint and kiss the chocolate starfish.
JustColourMe: Just carefully make your way down and do it, but tell them somewhere doing the intercourse béfore or during, not after, that if it really pisses her/him off, they should tell it immediately
thatoneguyr: “There’s no easy way to say this, but, I kinda want to lick your asshole. Yes? No? Maybe? Cool.”
5HITCOMBO: “I wanna give you a rimjob, lie down”
DougTheBugg: For me it just happened. I’m a guy and I’m married. One night we got so into it and I was down there already so I just went for it. We’ve done it plenty of times since.
I think if your down there already giving oral then just start to casually brush her/his ass. Progress to a more intentional touch and if there is no tense up/ awkwardness then just go for it.
I would say dining in without any sort of gentle ass play is a no no for a first time thing.
Harriet_Chubman: “Ravioli, ravioli, let me lick your stinker-holey”
actuallytommyapollo: “Hey, did you know that the skin on your lips is the same as your asshole? I think I should kiss it.”
whythehecky: “Hey, you have a sweet lookin’ ass. Mind if I have a taste?”
Pspanky: “Excuse me, but might you have some groceries I may partake in?”
JLHumor: Just start touching it gently while eating her out. Then progress from there.
Cryingbabylady: Show them an ass eating meme and start a conversation.
torchboy1661: My ex-girlfriend and I were a little tipsy one night and decided to make a video. During the video, she whispers in my ear, “I want to do something but I’m scared to ask.” I whispered back, “Go for it. What do you want?” She responded with, “I want to lick your butthole.” I giggled and told her that she could only if I could lick hers. That started ass eating from that night on! She was amazing.
That’s how the subject was broached with me. This was in like 2003 before brown pie eating was really en vogue like it is today. It seemed to work with us. Maybe try it like that? Video equipment and recording is optional.
Mid40sGuy: A girl tried this on me once and I screamed like a cheerleader and ran into the bathroom.
Anuses don’t turn me on I guess
Rassclattt: Communication and consent
jack-tipper: All women that that say the ass is “exit only” when you’re getting to know each other cum the hardest from getting their assholes eaten. Prove me wrong.
InterestingBox: Surprise them. See how it works out. In my experience, it works really well. Particularly at the end of a relationship rather than at the beginning.
just_some_guy65: I usually stray whilst giving oral sex, I have found out quite quickly whether a woman likes it and women can orgasm just from this
gaboy2: Just do it
Conquerors_Quill: Say; “May I please indulge in the act of giving you analingus?”
royal_ibuprofen: Communication is the best. What I did was used [toy] (https://sextoysformen.co/collections/toys-for-her/products/for-her-power-bullet-vibrator) first to get her relaxed. See if this would make her change her mind.
runfit2020: I assume you two are honest with each other because you say the words, “break it to someone.” To me, that means more than “telling”, as a higher level of trust is involved.
With that said, set the tone of conversation with what you want to say. Obviously, you do not walk in home from work an shout out, “Honey, I’m home. May I eat your ass?”… I suppose you could though, it just may not get the earnest answer you’re looking for. Lol.
Set a date/time for the two of you to have a conversation. To ease into something sexual, a women (from my experience) opens up when they feel most comfortable with you. This could be over (one of many ideas) a home cooked meal to *her* likings, and a glass of wine (for the nerves that may set in).
In the above scenario, it’s not something brought up asap, but, as mentioned, when she’s comfortable. Sense you know her, you’ll know when that time is (if not… that’s another post for another time) and set the tone by saying you would like to talk with her about your (meaning both of you, not yours personally) sex life. You need to be clear about what it is your saying. Do not make her guess. As much as it bothers you (if this happens) when you have to guess her emotions, do not place a delicate subject up in the air for strange interpretations.
Now, you have just opened the door to a conversation. Talk about likes. Talk about dislikes. Talk about fantasies. Talk about trying new things and experiencing them, together. If she trusts you, wants you to be satisfied, and feels comfortable then you may ask anything. What you get may be a “no” at the time, but at least you tried. Perhaps she’ll even reconsider it in the future because she had time to dwell upon it and then open up to it because she knows you want to try something with **her**.
There is honestly a million right and wrong ways to do this. However, the common ground is honesty. Be open. Be upfront. Do not be pushy.
I hope this helps your cause. It is also how I got my SO to allow me to enjoy my breast suckle fetish, which in retrospect turned out to be something she equally enjoys, but never thought she would have.
APoliteFuccboi: “Can I lick your asshole?”
JMHorsemanship: I usually just start with eating out and transition, if they don’t like it I either don’t do it again or if I’m unsure I just ask them.
recoveringcultist: Just ask.
lithium2741: Say “hey baby, have you ever had your asshole licked by a fat man in an overcoat?”
johnthedj1125: Just a follow-up question to everyone on here: would you ever bring it up / offer to do it the FIRST time you guys get into bed together? As in, would it be risky/distasteful to ask when you’re still trying to feel each other out?
17954699: Get her turned on enough to the point where she will consider it, then pop the question.
Probably not best to do so over a casual dinner, unless you know each other really really well.
BigDickExpress88: “Yo i wanna eat your booty like groceries”
Thank me later.
bthirsty: I ask my girl like.. at least a few times a week. It’s always eww no that’s gross. Well one day I may get the answer I want.. “grab my buns and eat it like a man”.
Kinzarn: J U S T D O I T
WoodsBear: I would just go for it while you are giving her oral. When I was younger I really wanted my bf to do it but I was ashamed to ask for it…
SeraphsEnvy: Ask. Definitely ask. You don’t want to give it a surprise lick and find out they didn’t wipe/wash properly beforehand. “No, no not right now… I just had explosive diarrhea before I came over and I’m not sure if I wiped it all out” Ask. I did this once with a girl and she hasn’t wiped properly and I gagged. After that, I made sure to always ask, but thankfully my wife is an extreme wiper/washer and I’ve yet to have any problems with her (not to mention she absolutely loves it).
Coziestpigeon2: “Hey I want to lick your asshole, interested?”
wickedogg: It’s called the ABCs of lingus. You start out with some Cunnilingus, then you slowly Bridge the gap over her perineum until you are full on giving her some Analingus. If she stops you, just tell her you are experimenting and trying to figure out what feels good. If she doesn’t like it, she’ll tell you. I’m assuming that this is a girl you are already fucking and not just some random girl whose ass you want to lick.
You could try these methods:
[Not on tinder](https://youtu.be/A6id1PDQlYY?t=100)
[Not with this girl](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IYwt1iGOc-c)
[With a song](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3srJeD0mJoE)
jdtran408: The only person who’s ass i licked happened because i was already eating her out. I really wanted to so i asked “can i lick you on the other side” or something along those lines.
She didnt say much but didnt resist as i was turning her over. She seemed a bit apprehensive and if she said no i definitely would have stopped.
But she just acquiesed, turned over, perked up, and after a few minutes she pulled away and we had sex.
Next day she sends me a text “good thing i took a shower lol”
stripclubveteran1: If I’m down there eating them, I usually just push their legs back and go for it. I’m surely not asking but this is also something I’d discuss before doing it. A lot of times women like surprises in that fashion. Especially gentle ones.
Stv51: I never asked. Just did it and no one ever stopped me. The only side effect is that many will want it all the time.
I may tell them that I will do something that I get no one did before and start off with just kissing their ass and moving towards their asshole. No one stopped me or did not enjoy it. A few wanted to return the favor.
I have a knack for making girls want to do what I wanted, up to a point of course. I never would start whipping a girl, but something like analingus is not painful, it is pleasureful. I don’t do vanilla sex.
Bjubers: You approach said person and say, “I want to lick your asshole.”
jstagn: Watch the movie CHIPS with her. There’s a good dialogue about how “everyone is eating everyone’s ass these days.” LOL at it.
Good ice breaker, anyway. Then when you bring it up later (if she doesn’t) it won’t be too random. Also it will be associated with a laugh. Also you’re offering it to her, instead of asking for it from her, so from her standpoint it could be seen as less dirty.
You could also show her Joey Diaz’ standup bit about the same topic. That’s what inspired me to eat my wife’s ass for the first time.
Basically these two “speeches” kinda normalized it in our minds. Like it’s a hurdle to get over but once you do then it’s a totally normal and fun, but naughty way to enhance your sex life.
RandomShaman89: Try [mojoupgrade](www.mojoupgrade.com). It’s an online quiz that both you and your partner take about sexual interests. At the end, it shows you the things that you are both interested in and leaves out the other stuff.
midwest86x: just go for it.
2udaylatif: Ask “Would you like me to lick your ass?”
wykdtr0n: Tell her to make sure she showers ahead of time and really gives the ol’ brown eye a good scrubbing.
Islander41778: During oral sex just let your tongue wander a bit and see how she reacts. If she likes it wander a bit further and a bit longer. I’m not saying do something against her will, if you know she’s already opposed then don’t. But if the subject hasn’t come up wander a bit and respond accordingly. If she protests, apologize and move back. If she likes it go further.
Qwertyqt22: You can just ask. Its super hot when my bf does it and when I do it to him.
offer to shower with her and brush your teeth. Have mouthwash at the ready (cos its still a butt). Maybe open a window too so there’s no reason to be self conscious.
iBleedForMyDonut: I was straight with my girl “I wanna eat your ass” and she turned around for me
lasey_guy: There is no real way to soften the impact of wanting to eat someone’s ass; either they’re into it or they’re not. But I can promise that if you’re wishy-washy about it you’ll come off as an insecure douche. Be confident about what you want.
thexandycrusher-: I was told “hey would you ever let me eat your ass?” Obviously talk to whoever it is to see what they’re into lol it’s not for everyone.
HoodiesHogger: Once I was having a ONS with a man who fervently ate my ass, I didn’t ask for it but I wasn’t taken aback. Then something clicked inside me and I asked him does he want to get his ass eaten? Yeah, he did
312sl: I would love to know, I would lick my wifes and let her lick mine but she is not in favor of either.
ovelhaloira: “Mmmm, your asshole looks mighty delicious today” – works every time.
ImOnlyHereForThe: A tentative lick is normally where I start. Positive reaction, go forth. No discernible reaction, continue with periodic licks, culminating to more sustained licks and eventual, gentle prodding with the tongue. Don’t push. Go slow and increase over time.
1assman: Hey baby, mind if I spit shine your donut?
violet_anarchy: I just went for it lol
purrrtrova: You just ask. Really. I once told my boyfriend I want to give him a rim-job and he kind of laughed it off and said sure. Didn’t really think it would happen but one night we got to fooling around and, well, it happened. And he actually loved it. Also, as a woman I can say I fully enjoy and I’m sure your girlfriend will as well!
HookItUpCuuz: Look babe, I really want to dig my tongue in your asshole, but first we’re going to have to hit the bathroom first and make sure it’s cleaner than the most protective top secret CDC lab and smells better than the Bath and Body works factory. Then we can proceed.
Imrunningondunkin: I just told her I was going to do it and she acted like it was gross and that she didnt want to do it but once I started doing it she liked it. She still doesnt admit to loving it but she does.
However, shes pretty down to try anything once. We have done anal sex and butt plugs before so eating her ass was pretty vanilla in comparison.
Waffles_and_Crayons: Talk to her. Was in the same situation before. We started by playing with [toys] (https://sextoysformen.co/collections/catalog/products/anal-plug-vibrator) until she got comfortable with it.
Ezarra: I don’t even want to lick a girls pussy let alone her asshole, goddamn. That stuffs nasty but to each their own I guess.
LexxInTexx: Are you my husband? I’ve already said yes to this request!
Texan_4_life: Have you seen scarlet Johansen ass? There’s nothing I wouldn’t eat out of that ass!
Extinguisher312: I licked my ex gfs asshole last night
PEAbob234: Listen.. I’m not gay.. but some guys are so fucking hot that you want to rip their pants off and let him shoot in your mouth.. no homo