My boyfriend has a perfect body to me, perfect legs, abs, face but his penis is small which makes him insecure, how can I help him?
We’re both 17 and I’m in love with this guy, he is my perfect guy really! Funny, smart and really hot but like I said his penis is on the smaller side. It doesn’t really both me though, I did grow up on porn so I had been lied to about the size of dongs but I love him so I love his body including his cock.
I know it bothers him a lot though and that’s where the problem lies, I don’t get to give him a blowjob because he feel self-conscious. He’s never told me this, he doesn’t talk about it at all. Like when i offer to put on a condom for him he says no.
It’s a shame because his body is so hard and wonderful and I’d love to go from neck to bottom just kissing all of it but whenever I get close to his member he brings me back up and kisses me.
I didn’t know how big the problem was until I saw a comment he posted on a site about it(not reddit) – where he talks about how his size makes him feel and how when he showers he sees everyone else is bigger than him.
He doesn’t have a micro penis or anything, I’d guess maybe 4 and 1/2 inches.
What can I do to help him without mentioning it to him directly because I feel that would just make him fell worse about his insecurities?
MyMatesKnowMyMain: Two dicks in this thread, holy shit! OP is not complaining, her boyfriend is!
Anyhow, does he know how much you like his dick?
funikel: Try kissing his body as usual and when you get close to his penis tell him how much you want it in your mouth.
If he still pushes you away, ask him why. Don’t make it about size and even if he starts talking about it, don’t get pulled into it. Just repeat that you love his dick. Love to look at it, lick it, suck it, you love it inside you etc. Don’t say you love it even at his size. Just say you love it. Period.
He will slowly relax and realise you don’t even see a problem, you love it and that he is more than good enough 🙂
TheRedRoderick: Not much you can do aside from showing interest, attraction and generally just being there. It’s a tricky subject but I wouldn’t do anything else- his insecurities are his own responsibility and not yours.
Throw-Awaya1b2: The trick is for **you** to feel like his dick size is not just OK but is preferable. The more you believe that and let that belief leak out naturally the better he will feel.
Tell him that you love it because you can deep throat him and press your lips to his mound while sucking his cock or you love it because the head is so perfect, or whatever actually attracts you about his cock.
Tell him out loud “I love your body and I love your dick. It’s just beautiful!” All guys want to hear that, but you have to believe it.
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davefromtheset: talk dirty to him.
theepicstoner: Talk, talk and talk. Out of the sexual setting ask him why he doesnt want you blowing him etc. Do so carefully, but maybe try insisting a little if he tries to change the subject. If he mentions his insecurity do your best to reassure him (i.e good in bed, good enough for you, makes you orgasm, etc)
GlenlivetT: There’s not a whole lot you can do. Like so many physical insecurities or shortcomings, they mean more to him than anyone else.
Moan loud and let him know you’re cumming. Make sure he knows the sex is good, not just while it’s happening but after the fact as well. Tell him how sexy he is. You might not ever get him over his feelings, but with time and positive reinforcement you can at least help him feel more comfortable around you.
Skyblue19: Wait another 17 years? Smart ass comment out of the way, in my experience many people get much more confident about their bodies and sexuality in their 30s. Tell him the things you like about his cock that aren’t size related like the shape or firmness and how wet seeing it makes you. Maybe also try tying up his hands so he can’t bring you back up while you’re going down on him 😉
TheMrShadySlim: If he is into it beg for it in your mouth. Really show you want it, even to the point of a little exaggeration.
Alpha_Bit_Poop: Guys like it when their gf talks about their dick as if it is seperate from the rest of them. So tell him after sex “I love your dick” or “your dick is amazing” or “your dick turns me on so much.” All guys secretly want to feel like you are only using him for sex, and that the only reason you stick around is because the sex is so amazing.
spfx1: Try a switcheroo- next time you try to go down on him and he evades, ask him “Am I that terrible at bj’s? I REALLY want to please you this way, too”
As far as his insecurity, I can only presume he KNOWS that ‘average’ isn’t 8 and it’s scientifically published (depending on study) at about 5-5.75″ , right?
And though you don’t mention it, it’s also well published that women have a preference for girth over length. So perhaps that’s an angle to praise?
He needs to get over this and work with what he has.
jtmycarkeys: It’s not the size of the boat but the motion of the ocean.
colly_wolly: Tell him you cum better from oral. Penis size isn’t important.
jim2882: small dicks are good for anal and sucking