NINA AGDAL SEE-THROUGH
What’s up with so many women disliking receiving oral sex?
I thought it would be the opposite actually. Ever since browsing around, I’m surprised by the quite large amount of women expressing their dislike, indifference or downright hate of receiving oral sex (while admitting to loving giving it no less!) whenever the topic is brought up.
I find this so strange. In my experience, no woman has ever expressed dislike, quite the opposite in fact, of me passionately and enthusiastically making out with their clitoris and vulva.
Is this an American thing? (I’m from Europe.) All the dislike I’ve seen has come from what I assume are American women. Or maybe it’s more like an exclusive thing here ?
TinyCynner: I think it’s having the anonymous forum that helps. I mean, if you come out as not liking cunnilingus, people can act really shitty. They do that here too, but at the very least I don’t have to deal with you being shitty to me in person.
And also, people cast you as if you’re broken, or there’s something deeply wrong with you, if you don’t like cunnilingus. Oh, you’re insecure, oh you’re ashamed of your genitals, oh you’re damaged by some imagined upbringing, oh you just haven’t had it done right… You’re broken, and wrong, because you don’t enjoy the holy grail of female sexuality.
Well, you want to talk insecurity? What’s more insecure than a guy telling someone “You’re wrong about how your body works”? Me liking or not liking cunnilingus isn’t about you, and it isn’t a slight against you. You’re good at it? Great, fantastic, good for you, I don’t want it.
CommentBear: I didn’t realize I liked it until I had the right partner. My ex husband hated doing it and the ruined it for me. Then I met a guy who just loved giving oral and was great at it and that made me realize how good it actually was and what I was missing all those years.
Philautiathenagape: Bad experiences, poor body image, insecurity and fears have a lot to do with disliking oral sex imo
lookingformytribe: It’s only good when the guy knows what he is doing. Otherwise, it is shit. I remember receiving oral and asking the guy ‘what are you doing?’ He was so bad that I was confused and I honestly couldn’t be bothered to tell him what to do.
smalldickhugeload: I think it’s more like 50/50 here on reddit.
In RL I only met one woman who didn’t like oral. Bummer, because I love that juice so much 😮
hangtieten: I’m European and I just don’t enjoy it. I in general do not enjoy most of sex that doesn’t involve the holding part.
A vibrator is better than a mouth regardless so why would I use that over someone’s mouth? Apart from that I’m not that sensitive there. Anilingus is kind of nice but I don’t see it as super sexual and more a relaxation thing.
Myfairladyishere: When I was younger disliked oral sex..because I was insecure..afraid of bad odor..have since gotten over it
IamtheDanceCommander: For me, most men who have attempted it have been terribly bad at it. So when they’re down there I’m torn between being honest, and feeling like I have to fake enjoyment to be polite and not ruin the mood while hoping they stop so we can move on to something else. They just put too much pressure on sensitive areas, and when I squirm in discomfort they take it as a sign Im enjoying myself and double down on the unpleasantness. Its honestly just a stressful experience so I try and avoid it. The equivelant I suppose would be if the average blowjob involved a girl sucking as hard as she can on the head of your penis, biting around the shaft, while trying to shove her tongue down your peehole.
MrsJRF: I love getting eaten out, it’s the most reliable way for me to cum.
HappySubbie: Just don’t care much about it. No self esteem issues. I like my body and my pussy.
My favourite way to come is to have PiV/PiA sex and simultaneous clitoral stimulation (finger).
Second favourite way is being rubbed.
Third is oral.
I mean, an orgasm is an orgasm I guess. But there are still different levels 😏
white_titty_lover: Because most men are complete idiots when it comes to a female’s body. I swear guys think that’s sticking their tongue inside of a girl’s vagina means pleasure. And another large group of guys think licking a clit like a Tootsie Pop means pleasure.
It’s really about knowing what you were doing and since so many guys don’t know what they’re doing I can see why a lot of women just threw up walls and say don’t do it. Like personally, when I’m going down on a girl I start off with kissing. I’ll kiss her boobs suck on her nipples softly and then kiss my way down to her vagina. And then I’ll kiss around it and then lick my way up towards the clit. And I don’t go straight to the act after that I will continue to kiss or suck Softly on it. Then I will start slowly with the licking and gradually speed up depending on the vibe I’m getting from her hips. Where a lot of guys go wrong is they don’t wrap their arms around the girl. You have to create the sense of you can’t escape while being able to sense how her muscles are tensing.
Like no joke and I’m not bragging with my ex she was usually streaming after about 4 minutes.
DeePrincess: All these comments gave me cancer. I don’t like it. I don’t know why. don’t care to even attempt to teach someone how to please me that way. I can do without it.
concacanca: I know some who dislike it. I think it’s linked to a religious upbringing or the idea of being somehow unclean.
Shame really because it takes away a big, and reliable, part of the toolkit for guys and girls, especially if they aren’t able to come from PIV
meltallica82: It’s definitely not an Australian thing. Well this Australian anyway.
Meg_1998: I love receiving oral sex. It feels really good if they know what they’re doing and it’s so personal.
mushroomrevolution: I love giving, but when it comes to recieving I’m not super about it. First, most men have not been too forthcoming with giving. I have good hygiene but I also have only received a handful of times and the sensation is so intense that I either laugh or spend the entire time fending off the giggles. It doesn’t feel bad, though it doesn’t exactly feel awesome either…. Though I’ve never gotten more than 5 minutes at a time. Maybe if I got used to the sensation I wouldn’t laugh but if they don’t already want to do it I’m bit going to push. It doesn’t mean that much to me. At this point I have a bit of a complex because I’ve been with around 15 men. Only about 5 have attempted and only one has tried more than once. Maybe it’s me? Maybe it’s disconcerting that I laugh.
I love giving though. It’s much more satisfying to me and I’d be much more upset if I never got to give again than if I never got myself. I have given many many blowjobs that were more than an hour at a time because most of the men I were with couldn’t even cum from it but loved them anyway. It’s always a treat to meet a man who does cum from it though. I feel like a boss when that happens
[deleted]: It depends on the situation. If someone is pressuring me to cum or respond a certain way, it’s a turn off. I also don’t like being lectured on how I should always be gone down on. I am a giver by nature, and I am not into the whole “I gave you head only so you can please me back thing.”
Cunnlingus can feel good when it’s done right and it’s by a guy I really like. No pressure makes cunnilingus great. Just let it happen naturally. I have given instruction before, but that one bad partner didn’t get it. His ego would get bruised when I asked him to do things differently.
Some people don’t like it no matter what, and that’s okay.
scooptastic: I’m an American female, and I LOVE it!
lizzardx: It’s a frustrating experience for me in that most men that I’ve been with didn’t know what they were doing /bad at reading ques (I got super close and thus super into it and he STOPS to ask me if I came), and I put too much pressure on myself to come.
So now I’m over it. I’d much rather use my vibe to get off (with assistance) and then get down to the business that way.
spac_erain: I like the way it looks, and I like the intimacy. Like, two minutes of it would be awesome to get me more wet down there. But it’s not intense enough. I would rather use my fingers. I know my clit so much better than anyone else, I know what I need for it, so I’ll take care of it.
FireLily56: I don’t dislike receiving it, it’s just that in my experience most men are so bad at doing it that I say I don’t like it so they won’t try and do it again because it’s so fucking uncomfortable. I’ve dated two guys who were good at it and made the experience enjoyable.
bummsexcrying: not sure – most women I know love it. Maybe some women just had bad experiences.
Fitab431: It’s something that only feels good if the guy knows what he’s doing. It’s not like other acts, where even if the guy isn’t the greatest, it still feels alright
yehonam26: You obviously give the woman a lot of confidence &a your good at it!
I hated it until my current so and I now love it, like literally can’t get enough of it, ever.
thedeadwantstarch: I like it, but a) it’s been 17 years since I’ve had sex b) I’m overweight and wouldn’t feel comfortable with someone going down on me and c) when I was sexually active it wasn’t great. I never really had someone do it to me that really knew what they were doing, so I can’t say I’m super eager to try again at this point in my life (I will be 40 this month). I’m American.
So I just wouldn’t even know how to handle someone that actually wanted to. Which they wouldn’t, but still. : I’d love to experience being given really amazing head once in my life but I doubt that will ever happen.
PoicephalusBirb: I was turned off of it for almost 3 years due to my ex’s abuse. My new boyfriend wasn’t into it, so it worked well. We explore it again here and there, but my ex really turned it into a turn off. Most of the time I just have zero interest.
humbleclincher: Until I met my current partner, I was adamant that I hated it with a passion.
The idea squicked me out, the sensation was weird (the two that had tried previously were just crap at it), and it felt awkward because I never knew what to do with my hands, where to look, how to react.
Now I love it. Because he’s so good at it, he enjoys it so much and I love watching him do it.
I’d say a lot of it is bad experiences with guys who just have no idea what they’re doing and 3 minutes is enough foreplay to shove their dick in.
bittytits: Idk…I love receiving oral more than I like giving it. But if I receive, I will give. Fair is fair.
offgriddler: Generally men are terrible at giving it. No wonder so many women say that don’t like it.
Internet_Ugly: Well, enough people have called my labia roast beef flaps. Now I’m embarrassed of them and want to hide them from everyone. Including myself. I can’t help that as a latino woman I have darker genitalia and nipples. I can’t also help the fact that my labia were long since I was 11.
So no, I’m not comfortable with having them in anyone’s face, especially a man I love and admire.
miyadaman: Because men suck at it and women can’t be bothered with wasting their time.
LilithvonBitchcraft: I had to learn to love it, and hated it for years, because where most women are clit-only orgasmic, I predominantly cum from penetration only. I’ve since realized I do like it in certain ways (mostly just me fucking the guy’s face), but I’m sure there’s various reasons for it. One of them being, a lot of guys suck at head or paying attention to how their partners cum
HitByATrain: It feels like a live slug crawling around your nether regions.
unipow: you will get the outliers on reddit due to the topic. i’ve been in 10 LTR. all but one loved to get head. i’m american
myotheroneders: My only guess is that the men they have been with just haven’t done it the way they like it. My ex didn’t do it that great and it wasn’t exciting. My current bf is so much better.
dallyan: How old are you? I’m guessing it’s more younger women who still feel shame about their bodies or haven’t yet realized what they like. ETA: Or not, some women just don’t like it.
unimercock: It usually speaks to a lack of confidence. Youth, body image, or being told it’s gross their whole life might be parts of it.
B0h1c4: It’s definitely not an American thing. I’m American and I’ve never encountered a woman that dislikes oral.
I don’t think it’s super common that women dislike it. I think it’s just that we have millions of people on Reddit and in this environment, it’s natural for minority opinions to stand out. If you have a big enough group, you’ll find someone that likes or dislikes *anything*.
lil-dipper: I’ve never met someone who didn’t like it and I don’t understand why someone wouldn’t but to each their own. I’m not a fan of doing it but I don’t mind especially since it’s a very easy way for me to get a girl off and I like watching them orgasm.
bigpony: Sometimes if i dont know someone well i don’t want their spit touching me.
madein1986: Where can I meet these women, or should I say Queens.