The Camel Toe of Nina Dobrev
Fluid sexual orientation.
It’s sometimes frustrating to be bisexual. Because sometimes I feel like I’m completely straight for weeks at a time and suddenly I’ll feel gay again. It makes me question whether or not I’m being true to myself. (“Should I come out of the closet? Oh wait … I just had a straight dream, and now I have an intense hetero crush. Guess I’m not in the closet. Oh wait… now I just had a gay dream and I feel pretty gay.”)
InsultinglyIgnorant: Sexuality really has no need to be labelled. Pursue what sexual desires you have as you please and see where life takes you. You may flip back and forth, and that’s okay. Follow your desires if you trust them.
nofx1: I look at bisexuality in two ways. One is the 1-10 sliding scale, like 1 being absolutely gay and 10 being solely straight. Some weeks, I feel like a 3, others a 6. It’s fine to jump around based on mood, environment or attractiveness of the people around. The second is a kind of pan-sexuality, where the gender is kind of irrelevant, and the only thing that matters is the emotional/intellectual/spiritual/meme connection. “Do I connect with this person?” is sometimes the only question that needs answering. I’ve found that being “true to yourself” is oxymoronic and inherently unknowable, but thats prolly the acid talking.
MissSmittenKitten: Hi, I’m bisexual!
I’m in an interesting position of being mostly attracted to women (meaning attracted to more numerous women than men, and more easily). But, I have a straight boyfriend I’m heavily attracted to. For a few months I’ve maintained constant levels of attraction to him, but have been attracted to women nonstop. Not really ever experiencing attraction to other men at all.
I think every bisexual has a unique makeup of gender attraction levels and types. The “bi-cycle,” (what you described, changing or cycling through more intense gender attraction) is a common topic of discussion.
Just come out to people you trust. I have a fun time now relating about great girls with my boyfriend and my lesbian friend, it’s a nice bonding exercise and helps me feel better too. Also, not having to hide my attractions is so relieving. It’s worth it if you have any trustworthy people. I say come out in a person-by-person basis. There is no obligation to come out as a whole, or to anyone at all.
Elektribe: I’m not bisexual or gay so I can’t speak from personal experience. Why do you feel like your in the closet? Does it really matter if your crushing on a girl or guy one week. You don’t dislike them both right?
I sometimes like big ole tiddays and sometimes I feel like the flatties need some love. Whether one I feel like it’s still what I like and me liking it. Sometimes I feel attracted to asses more than usual or ameting else.
So sometimes you like wangs and sometimes you like tangs, but it’s always your own preference right? It’s not like someone is forcing it on you. You like what you like, and if that bounces around enjoy the diversity. At the very least it fills you with a drive each time right rather than just being so/so on one and not sure if you actually like that and becoming bored you’re constantly renewing high interest at different times. So be gay when you’re feeling gay don’t when you’re not, as long as your not hurting people in relationships by being dismissive and unattentive then there’s no real problem is there?
SMURPHYsLaw93: Labels are for the birds, yo.
I’m married to a man I love… but other than that I guess I’m pretty gay.
If some one where to ask me my sexuality I’d tell them I’m married to _______ (insert popular white guy name and you’re probably close).
Don’t worry about putting yourself into some box… just worry about being a good person. 🙂
I_smash_standards: “Bisexual”….problem solved