Swedish Actress Noomi Rapace naked and shows bush
Noomi Rapace (born December 28, 1979) is a Swedish actress.She is best known for her portrayal of Lisbeth Salander in the Swedish/Danish film adaptations of the Millennium series: The Girl with the Dragon Tattoo, The Girl Who Played with Fire and The Girl Who Kicked the Hornets’ Nest. She is also known for playing Leena in Beyond (2010), Anna in Babycall (2011), Madame Simza in Sherlock Holmes: A Game of Shadows (2011), and the lead role of Dr. Elizabeth Shaw in the Ridley Scott science fiction film Prometheus.
Incredible chemistry not translating to incredible sex?
I’ve been seeing someone for a while, and it is undeniable that we have an extremely strong connection to each other on multiple levels. We share so many of the same values, but from a different standpoint, and it has led to intensely satisfying conversations. We find each other very attractive, and also have a ton of fun together. Everything is easy, enjoyable, playful, honest, and full of healthy communication.
However what has been strange is that our strong sexual chemistry has not appeared as strong sexual compatability. I don’t know if we are both so caught up in figuring out how the other feels that we aren’t in the present moment, but whenever we have sex (it is good, very enjoyable, each other person is interested), it is just like we get so caught up in our heads that… I’m not sure. It feels like we’re both constantly worrying if the other person is bored, or wondering what they want, and not totally able to enjoy it for what it is. We’re both creative and open to new things, and share our sexual desires. But maybe because our other connections are so highly elevated, that it feels weird that this too is not on that same level? They’re very sexually experienced, and I’ve really only had sex with one other person, so this is an entirely new experience for me.
I’d really like to fix this, obviously, and think it can totally be done. I would greatly appreciate hearing what you all think about this, and if you have any shared experiences.
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EDIT: I feel now that I should mention I spent many years feeling shameful about my sexuality. So now that I am in a situation with a partner who is very confident, I feel insecure by comparison, because I am not at that same level. I also don’t quite know how exactly I get off, despite trying to get to know my body. I feel insecure about the fact that I can only come in a specific way that I know, and I don’t quite want to share that with them. I want to be able to cum in different ways (stopped masturbating–not that I did it all the time anyways), and be more comfortable with myself.
sportamous: Incredible sex can be learned. Incredible chemistry is once in a blue moon type thing. Sit down, talk. Have a sex training session where one partner does only what the other wants to learn your bodies. Then switch roles.
teufelshunde4: Well since everything else is great, dont think that because the sex is good, but not great doesnt mean its broken & needs fixing. Let it evolve for the both of you.
peopleshouldntsee: I have nothing productive to input but I just wanted to say I’m in an incredibly similar situation with my girlfriend right now. You’re not alone, I guess.
I’m always worried about her getting bored, especially when she goes down on me. I also don’t want her jaw to hurt.