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How to properly apply lube?
Me and my girl really need to use lube because she is extremely tight and small because otherwise we probably can’t have PiV sex.
Thing is… it doesn’t really work. I’ve been using lube for a longer while but I’m actually not sure how to properly use it.
I’m using anal lube because the water-like ones dry out really fast. I usually put some lube on three/two of my fingers and basically finger her with the lubed fingers.
Is this actually useful? Because if she’s so tight and small it’s quite hard to get the lube really deeper in her vagina.
I also put lube everywhere on my dick. Am I doing this alright?
And please, no harsh comments… I’ve never had PiV sex because of this and I’m only 18. My only real experience I’ve had was things like hotdogging, fingering or receiving / giving oral.
Maxpwr13: Try applying the lube to you, instead of her.
For her: they make lube applicators, which appear to be used for anal lubing, but may work in this instance.
messythrowaway44: How tiny is your gf?
It’s possible that the lube is only part of the solution here. It’s reasonably rare for a couple to be unable to have PiV because of a size mismatch.
It might be that she’s not relaxing sufficiently for PiV to happen. Even if it’s something a woman really wants to fuck, there can be anxiety, excitement or nerves that make it hard to relax the vagina. If there’s a history of PiV being difficult or painful that can make it more difficult.
Do you think this might be a possibility? If it is I’d suggest backing off penetration for a while, concentrating on mutual pleasure and touch and relaxation rather than particular acts. Then gradually working your way from external vulval/ clitoral touching to penetration with fingers, really taking your time about it, helping her to cum lots. Only after all that pleasurable association has been built up again should you think about fucking.
johndo1776: The other posters seems to have covered the lube question, but how’s your foreplay game?
It’s not just for getting her wet, her whole physiology will change in anticipation of the act and that’ll enable easier penetration. Sex without foreplay is like chips without dip – dry and, while still sometimes good, ultimately less satisfying…
pepsiicat: Put it on you, in her as far as you can and allover her too. Well….her vagina, the rest of her not so much. Just use tons until you think you have enough. Then a bit more.
Katelovesyou: It probably is her getting tensed up and every time you try and fail she feels more anxious. That’s how I felt anyway when I went through the same problem (I experienced pain though). To me three fingers doesn’t sound like that little, I don’t like more than two inside of me, so I really don’t think it’s a size issue just a relaxation one. Maybe take a break for a week or so from attempting piv and go back to enjoying everything else to do with sex. Don’t worry it will happen eventually!