Extremely sexually frustrated virgin but old-fashioned romantic at the same time
[21 f] Anybody else here (girls and guys) feel extremely sexual but who are also virgins and waiting for a good person to come into their life to have a deep and meaningful relationship with? My sexual frustration is getting really out of hand and honestly I can’t stop with my kinky imagination and ways to the point its getting in the way of my daily life. I know its easy for other girls to grab any guy they want at a party and be like “Hey, you’re hot, lets fuck.” But I’m just not like that dammit!!! Anybody else have this problem? And if yes, what do you do that usually helps? (I find music, working out and art helps me sometimes).
tommyforyamommy: I know exactly how you feel. I’m about to be 20 and I’m still a virgin. I’ve had chances to lose it, but more in a casual context than a relationship, and I don’t want that. I don’t want to just “get it out the way”, I want my first time to be meaningful, but then again I’m sexually frustrated as well which makes it hard.
I am highly sexual but didn’t have a satisfying experience until my late 20s because I thought I’d “get it over with” with someone I didn’t care about. And it sucked. (I am actually a demisexual though, so I’m not saying you couldn’t enjoy some casual sex if you ever feel up to it).
Discover your own body first!
throwawayyyysex: Same boat; 21f and waiting for a relationship. I’m just thankful I’m not as horny as I was a few years ago. I should try working out as a distraction, and so I can get fit, lol. I don’t have advice for you though :/
Joelburtacus: I’m exactly the same. I’m 25m and still a kiss-less virgin. I’m more open to casual sex, but my ideal is to lose my virginity to someone I care about and am in a relationship with.
It’s comforting to know there are other people in a similar situation.
iLikeTheHighOnes: I’d suggest just getting it over with. IMO, one of the most over-hyped sexual acts is “losing your virginity.” More often than not, the first time is a disappointing experience regardless of who it’s with, a lover or a hookup. But, things get exponentially better from there! So, join the sexually enlightened club and start having fun.
Got_You_Covered: Yup 26 1/2 still a virgy