KIM BORA / SOMA / SHE´S A RAINBOW – PLAYBOY KOREA APR 2018
Guys, do you always ask the girl if “she is ok” the first time you sleep with her?
I find it so adorable and sexy. I’ve noticed this happen with every guy I have been with. They always ask the first time within the first few thrusts… 🙂 Do you do the same?
sunnyd00: I had a guy ask this every single time we had sex…. I found it very sweet. I’d say “oh yeah! You??” and he’d whisper back “yeah!” Loved it. I think he meant it more in a way of “are you good? Does this feel good?”
Synchro_Shoukan: I was under the impression women didn’t like when guys asked this? Maybe it’s only when they ask a lot.
edubkendo: I often ask this right about the time I am putting my hand in her pants the first time. Just a whispered, “Is this ok?”
casino_night: Ok for what? Birth control? STDs? Consensual sex?
Makin_Waves: I actually find it annoying when they ask every time I moan or gasp while having sex.
Asking are you okay is less sexier than “how does that feel”. Only time when I’ve had are you okay asked was when I was in actual pain and audible said ow. Obviously I wasn’t.
ScorpioLoverboy: I’ve never asked this.
boobityskoobity: I don’t always ask, but I do if she has a strong facial reaction, etc. Sometimes I’m not sure if it’s pleasure or pain, and I want to make sure it’s not pain.
dotsonapond: My ex would ask this and I would also think it’s adorable and sweet. Also any time I gasped, he would sometimes mistake it for pain and would ask again but I’m like “no it’s because it feels so good”
Aoki_Chan: I love it when I get asked this, it shows he’s paying attention to me and not just going for his own sexual desire.
bobdotcom: I always ask the first couple times. I go for smaller girls, like my wife is a foot shorter and 100 lbs lighter than me, so naturally if I’m not asking, i could do some serious damage (not just to her lady bits either). Once we’ve gone a few round and I’ve got a good handle on how she handles penetration or my weight on her in missionary, I can gauge from her reactions what’s going well. But the first few times you gotta go slow and make sure you don’t break her.
That’s just me though.
sweetypetey: We’ve been engaged almost 2 years, together for 4. I still ask. Moans are confusing, sometimes they sound good, sometimes they sound like too much.
secondaccountforme: I definitely do, probably multiple times during the first encounter. Not as a deliberate choice or rule. It’s just that every girl is different. The gasps from one girl could be pain and the same from another girl could be that I’m doing a great job. If I’m not sure I always ask, but some girls have told me it’s a turn off.
Scoutain: My current boyfriend asked me this during our first time and continues to ask it anytime I make a sound that is a little off from my normal moan or noises. I find it very sweet and caring considering he’s not just thinking of himself but for me.
edwardrotik: Most of the time, yes.
It’s always a good idea to verify consent for one thing. And the first time with a new partner, there’s always adjustments that need to be made, so it’s just polite to check in verbally and make sure positioning, depth, etc are okay.
HooHaaCherrySoda: I do. I haven’t had a response in the negative, but I do like to make sure that whoever I’m having sex with knows that I’m not going to make things difficult if they feel like changing their mind.
CandelaBelen: I actually don’t like it. I don’t like to be thought of as fragile and so easily hurt by a few thrusts. I can take a dick dammit.
ballin_balas: Aw I do miss and love when guys would say that to me miss dating in general really
exia1995: I feel that the initial ask is very important and critical. Usually once the sex gets rougher I check again to ensure that this is what she wants. I tend to feel much better with two checks.
hellsreject24: Only if I see a look on her face that’s telling me she might be in pain! I am above average so sometimes it happens.
missbadfetish: Female here, I’ve never been asked this.
-TheKey-: My guy asked me this our first time because he thought I was in pain (multiple orgasms) because he’s above average. Lol
Now, he still checks in. Asks me if I’m okay, need a break from cumming so much, need a sip of water so I don’t dehydrate. I find him incredibly endearing.