What are your thoughts on this? Anyone have the same experience?
So this isn’t really a big deal or anything, I just found it kind of interesting.
My girlfriend is always telling me she doesn’t want foreplay. She wants me to cut to the chase. Like, I’ll try to work her up and get her “craving” it before I go in, but she has told me she doesn’t want sex if there is gonna be foreplay. I know foreplay is very important and can improve sexual experience so I find this odd (not in a bad way tho)
Another thing is that I’ll tell her that if I go all in, go as fast as I can, I’ll nut too quick. She said that a “quicky” is all she needs. For example, sometimes we’ll go for a fast 5 minutes and she’ll tell me she was all good and climaxed. Is she trying to spare my feelings because doesn’t it take longer for women to peak? I can go longer but she insists on a “quicky”. How can I know if she is actually climaxing?
Lastly, as we are going for a “quicky” she always asks me if I finished. I say no and keep going and she clearly keeps enjoying it but she doesn’t stop asking if ive finished. As soon as u tell her I’ve finished she pushes me off. Sometimes I won’t even finish. She’ll be moaning so intense that she pushes me off before I finish. (but I still go back in tho).
Thobail9494: Honestly this sounds like therapy territory, I’ve had two similar experiences. In one the woman I was with had experienced some sexual trauma early in life and bared through sex to make relationships work, and the other just found sex physically uncomfortable.
chrwils17: I can kind of relate to the first part about her not really being into foreplay. It’s not that I don’t enjoy it, per say. But if a guy is going to be penetrating me, I’d much rather it be with his penis than his fingers. At that point, all I can think about is how badly I want his dick up inside me and the fingers just aren’t cutting it for me. I prefer other types of foreplay over finger penetration, but even then, I still am overly eager to move past it. I may be that way though due to lack of foreplay in my earlier years and just strictly sex. Who knows.
As for the other part of what you wrote…I can get myself off through clitoral stimulation within a minute or two, so I have no doubt she is capable of having an orgasm in under 5 minutes. One of my former partners used to hit my g spot almost every single time we would have sex and I would orgasm almost instantly upon him thrusting a couple of times.
The part about her asking if you’ve finished yet and pushing you off…I can’t relate to that one. That’s just selfish to me and I would never do that.
Imbrizzly: Are you sure she’s into you? She sounds bored and/or selfish. If she can’t allow you to be intimate then maybe her feelings are for real.
Anyway, I’m a girl and I can tell you that some girls do peak very fast, especially if you just hit the jackpot over and over real fast.
CHEAHHHHH: She’s selfish bro! Sexually selfish.