(23F) How can I take my BF’s entire penis without it hurting?
I’ve been with my BF for about 3 months now and while sex is good, I can only fit about half of his penis inside me. He is only the third guy I have ever been with and he is much much larger then either of my previous two partners. I dont know exactly how big he is but I can wrap both my hands around his penis and still have room for a third hand and a little more.(I’d guess around 9″) Once he gets a little more then half way inside me it just feels like it hits a wall and wont go in any further without hurting really badly. We’ve tried lube and always do lots of foreplay but nothing seems to let him get deeper. I feel really bad and want to be able to take all of him, because I think it will feel better for him. Is there anyway I can train myself to take more of his penis without all the pain?
dontwantany12know: Not sure why you’re getting such negative responses. Maybe try posting on r/sexpositive and just stick to the basics (aka don’t include all the info about length).
As for tips, the only thing I can think is that if he wears a cock ring it’ll prevent him from entering you too deeply and will feel good for him. But as far as logistics go, you can’t make your vagina any deeper or his penis any shorter.
Have you talked to him about it? He might not even think it’s a problem.
HappyBull: I don’t get why half the comments are being so rude to you. You weren’t bragging and are genuinely concerned about pain. It’s a big issue and I’m really sorry for the chumps that are making you feel bad about even opening up to people.
That’s awesome you want to make your partner enjoy pleasure as much as you do. Perhaaaps you could use a hand much like using a hand for a bj to simulate a deeper penetration? But it’s up to what you’re comfortable with. Good luck!
flwrpower: so far people are saying I cant do much about him hitting my cervix. What are some good positions where he could still thrust hard and not go too deep?
vadvaro: yes, you can do something about this.
1/ look up positions where your partner’s penis head reaches your anterior and posterior fornices. the anterior fornix is a pocket that is usually found in front of (towards the bellybutton) the cervical head. the posterior fornix is a pocket that is usually found behind (towards the spine) of the cervical head. the fornices are sources of pleasurable feeling inside the vaginal complex. find out more about them and try out positions where the penis head bypasses the cervical head and provides sensation to the fornices.
2/ look up positions which give your partner’s penis the sensation of being enclosed by you, without him being completely inside you. the CAT (coital alignment technique) and the spoon position (you both lie on your sides and he enters you from behind while you keep your thighs mostly closed) come to mind, and there are may others.
3/ consider the possibility that your body isn’t in complete agreement with your mind about accepting his full length inside you, yet. give yourself the time, care and experience you might need to accept him completely inside you.
4/ don’t give too much importance to the negativity of the peanut gallery here. sex can be enjoyable, sex is enjoyable, sex will be enjoyable. sex is play, sex is intimacy, sex is expression. play, be intimate and express yourself. you will have everything you want when you consider the totality of what sex represents.
NSFWhiskey: If you say something that someone else here thinks is bragging (so in other words, they’re jealous of you) you’re gonna get downvoted.
Have you tried spooning? Have him do it from behind you, but angled in a way where he’s not fully inside you (it feels great to us guys too since you’re stroking her buttcheeks a little too). If you angle yourself right, he can hit your G-spot from this angle too!
wick34: This won’t help with PiV, but you might want to look into buying a quickshot if you want to up your blowjob game. It’s a 35 dollar open ended masturbation sleeve from fleshlight. It’s great for simulating the feeling of deepthroating, even if you partner is too big to fit all the way in your mouth.
flwrpower: Why is my post being downvoted?
Errkal: I wouldn’t focus on fitting it all in, if it is that large it may just not, you are only so big and can only fit so much.
If it starts to hurt that is the limit, it’s probably not ideal but it is what it is so work with it.
Spooning will certainly help, but ultimately you need to make it clear how much you can take as it were and his job is to respect that and not go too far as it will hurt and stuff.
all4him_none4u: Ignore the down voters. They are either jealous men with tiny dicks, or women that are stuck with said tiny dick men but wish they bigger.
There’s alot of good advice in here now. But I will 2nd to have him get you really worked up and horny before even attempting PIV. Extreme arousal by preheating the oven may help alot!
KeepYourClawsOut: Keep in mind, vaginas are only like 5″ deep. When you’re very aroused they might get to like 7″ maybe? If he truly is like you say, it won’t happen. Ever. Try anal.