What do women want? What do you say to them without embarrassing yourself and her? Thankfully sex and dating coach Melanie Curtin (shown in picture) – Founder of Vixen on the Loose – has ten tips for what to avoid saying or doing while hitting on women the first time.
Tip 1: Men should avoid negging – also known as negative comments – women, as they only work on women suffering from low self-esteem, which means that it is manipulative, underhanded, and sometimes really mean, the Huffington Post reported. (Think Barney Stinson from HIMYM making underhanded comments like ‘You look fat in those jeans’.)
Tip 2: Men should also avoid telling the women, they are trying to seduce, about the money they make. (If you do intend to talk about money back it up with salary slips or sort of documentation)
Tip 3: Curtin also revealed that men who insult themselves or show low self-esteem are a put-off for women. (How does that work? Men walk into a bar and shout at themselves, ‘Son-of-a-!@#$’)
Tip 4: They should also avoid touching the woman’s lower back, elbow or shoulders. (In India, said touching could get you thrown in jail for sexual harassment as well.)
Tip 5: Men should not assume that a woman does not like whiskey or that she doesn’t know anything about cars because she is a girl.
Tip 6: Women don’t like men, who are hitting on them, make fun of their friends.
Tip 7: If men don’t own and feel their sexuality, women are not going to feel it either. (We have no clue how to own sexuality. More research shall be done after taking editor’s permission.)
Tip 8: Men should not try very hard to be funny as women can feel that men are racking their brain for the next funny/clever thing to say, which mean that they are not paying attention to the lady. (Our sub-editor’s aghast because the only tool he has with the opposite sex is to make them laugh and can’t contemplate that people can fake it when laughing; fake orgasm maybe but fake laughter!)
Tip 9: Women don’t like men who are cocky as cocky men are obsessed with the outside because deep down they are terrified that they have nothing of worth on the inside.
Tip 10: And lastly every effort of men does not always pan out and women do say no but men should not take it personally.