Boyfriend asked me to be vocal during sex. But there’s nothing to be vocal over?
Like the title says, my boyfriend (30) recently asked me to be more vocal during sex. 22and the like. I just smiled and said okay and ran to you guys.
But . . . there’s nothing to moan over? I get literally nothing out of sex. It feels like he’s rubbing his dick on my elbow or something, just that little sensation. So during sex I’m pretty quiet unless we’re talking during it.
Is this one of those situations where faking it is acceptable? Should I just tell him there’s nothing to moan about? I’m not sure how to approach this. Either way I hurt him and I don’t want that.
Rick-burp-Sanchez: *grabs popcorn*
bastite: I’m pretty sure sex should feel much better/different than rubbing your elbow
SoloKMusic: You haven’t provided a lot of detail. Is this your first sexual relationship? If not, have you had others where you were more satisfied? Do you know what it takes to please you, whether it’s someone else doing it or you yourself doing it? Do you have any ideas to improve your experience, whether it’s you or him? And finally, even if it hurts, are you willing to be truthful (and tactful, of course)? You need to investigate the answers to these questions and more.
-D351: It sounds like you may have a legitimate nerve problem that you might benefit from speaking to a professional about.
22Livia: This begs the question – why are you having it ?
Jsr1: there are some serious issues with your Sexlife! I hate to say this and Im gonna get downvoted to hell but you may be doing something wrong here. Step 1. find out whats going on here, We need more info!
sangetencre: Is this your first sexual relationship? Do you masturbate? If so, does it feel good? Do you orgasm? What is he doing in bed? Do you have things you like? Do you know what pleases you? Do you share them?
didi_3158229: My opinion is find out what you really desire/enjoy while you masturbate and tell him about it. Tell him that what he has been doing isn’t working for you at all. But just don’t tell him about the elbow part. Id be devastated as hell lol
As everyone says on this thread “communication is key”
After telling him about it, if he is open to ideas. Bring what you’re doing while masturbating into play in the bedroom, hell bring masturbation with your toy to the bedroom as well. Maybe that way he can pick up tips and maybe the two of you will enjoy it together.
Then again, that’s just my opinion…
tropisms: That sucks, you have to be honest about it. I think the question really is just how you bring it up.