When you’re straddling a guy while making out, are you meant to sit directly on his crotch?
When you’re fully clothed, I mean. What if he gets a boner? Still stay sitting there? Is this uncomfortable for men or do they enjoy it? I’m just confused about this logistics of this.
Coidzor: Generally if someone is straddling a man and making out, they want to have him erect and feel his erection.
If they don’t want him to have an erection and feel it, they should perhaps rethink that as a planned course of action.
KittensaurusRex: I mean, you don’t HAVE TO sit right on his crotch. It depends what you’re trying to achieve.
Last night with my SO, I was sitting pretty much straddling his knee while making out, and that’s because the purpose was to be romantic and nurture him by running my hands through his hair after a hard day at work. 15 minutes later I moved so I was directly on his crotch so that I could tease him and transition from relaxation mode to sex.
Having yourself straddle him, sitting on your knees, shouldn’t hurt him because your legs will take most of the weight. The further apart you have your legs, the lower down you’ll be, and the more pressure you’ll be putting on his groin (not a bad thing if you’re trying to grind on him and turn him on). Generally speaking, men feel really good when this happens. As long as you have your weight distributed and you’re not putting all your weight on his penis, it will most likely feel good to him.
If you’re not ready for sexual intimacy, that’s totally okay! But if that’s the case and you are uncomfortable at this point with him having a boner under you, and feeling it pressed up against you, I’d suggest making out in a different position. While you never have to do anything sexual that you don’t want to, no matter what position you’re in, keep in mind that being pressed up against him in this way is sexually suggestive and has a high chance of him becoming aroused.
If you do straddle him while making out and he gets an erection and you’re uncomfortable, you can move. If you straddle him and he gets an erection and you like it, do a bit of grinding, have some fun!
meltallica82: If I’m sitting on a guys crotch then making him hard is what I’m aiming for.
psilocybes: Yea, that’s how it works. If its uncomfortable, he’ll move you.
DingDomme: Depends. Sometimes my partner will adjust or move me. I have sat above the crotch, right on it, or below like on upper thigh.
MotoGuy02: Yup. So hot.
burriedByHerbs: I enjoy IT and im the straddler.. i think its hot feeling a man get errect from simply making out and nestling your ass into his crotch
senpi_0: Look, in general I would say we are ok with it.
I guess if the guy is not comfortable he should try to move arround and adjust your position.
lost_library: I haven’t made out with someone like this in a long time, but from what I remember, that was certainly one of my favorite parts. But I’ve also just straddled one leg.
CheezusIsLard: Yes. Sit on my lap for sure.
If I get hard, I’ll just have to reach down and adjust myself if necessary. It’s not a big deal.
ezxme2018: If he’s not enjoying it he will position you to a more comfortable spot for the 2 of you.
vamoose01: when i’m making out with my boyfriend fully clothed, we both enjoy when i straddle him and take a commanding position. i try to move my hips so that my labial/clit area is rubbing against his dick for sensation on both ends. When i feel his erection getting bigger and pulsing i take it that i’m doing a good job!
i’d say to ask him if he’s uncomfortable or to maybe straddle him with less/more pressure depending on what is good for both of you, but for me, the intention of straddling is to feel his dick!
throwawayforthisoneQ: Usually fine unless I wear jeans as there’s far less room for my penis and even then it’s bound to “hurt” anyway, only difference being that it’s harder to adjust myself if someone’s sitting on top of it.
As long as you avoid the balls you’re good or else he might just throw you off full force as a reaction.
bmtrnavsky: Yes and better if you gently grind on it… just sayin.
CommentSomething: I would enjoy that very much. You don’t have to of course