I (M, 22) really enjoy being pegged by my GF, but it gets uncomfortable… Help!
I really enjoy being pegged by my girlfriend, as the title says, and she likes doing it. I like all kinds of butt stuff that we’ve tried – prostate stimulation always leads to a much stronger orgasm for me, and when we peg I feel like I get really close to reaching an orgasm from anal stimulation alone, with no penile stimulation. Unfortunately, I can never get there because my anus tightens up as we keep going, and after a few minutes it’s too uncomfortable to continue.
I “prepare” with buttplugs beforehand. I can wear one that’s about 1.75 inches wide at the widest point, and I wear it for an hour or so before the pegging, comfortably. I’d say it’s about 1.5x the width of the dildo we use, so width isn’t the issue. It’s the sliding in and out that gets uncomfortable, even though it feels amazing at first.
How can I keep myself from getting tight during the act? Is it a mental thing, or a physical thing? Do I just need to do it more and get used to it? Please help!
wanderingdev: are you using a metric shit ton of lube? do you keep applying it as you go?
Freak-e-Pete: You should try cleaning out before hand. It makes a world of difference.
stink3rbelle: Have you ever tried “preparing” by getting *suuuuuuuper* turned on and almost ready to pop before she even inserts? That is, have you two ever tried making penetration the thing that pushes you over the edge, rather than being something meant to take you up *and* over?
RubyRyder: Does the toy you use have a velvet or matte finish? Or is it smooth shiny silicone? Because the matte surfaces ones drag more going in and out and some men hate them for that very reason.
My suggestion for lube is Sliquid Silk, it has 12% silicone and the rest water based. That little bit of silicone really keeps things sliding well for longer. And it will NOT hurt your GOOD QUALITY silicone toys.
As you get more excited, it is natural for your anal sphincter to tighten.