(re)discovering sexuality after long illness
So I’m in a very interesting and potentially fun position with my husband (M:48) (and myself! F:46) right now. I’ve just gotten over a long illness, about seven years, that was itself the culmination of a much longer chronic illness (bipolar disorder) that slowly sapped our sex life until it killed it when my depressive episode hit seven years ago. Long story short: paradoxical drug effects suck, and I’m much, much better now. Not only do I want sex again, I find myself very bold and curious in a way I’ve never been due to the shedding of some nasty childhood baggage. I used to think negatively about porn: now I have my own PornHub account and a naughty Tumblr feed. I used to have trouble asking for sex: that is definitely not an issue anymore.
What I do have trouble with is saying what I like, in part because I’m not entirely sure myself! On the flipside, I’m not entirely sure what all my husband likes, and I’m not sure how to ask. Communication seems to still be a block for me I’m not quite sure how to get around, though I do stuff like send him naughty messages on WhatsApp since I’m not good at doing so verbally (though I’m getting better). I know he’s been using porn all these years to keep himself tended to while I was ill, and I’m curious what he likes. Or if maybe he has something he’s always wanted but was too timid to say so.
I’m also particularly interested in handjob and blowjob tips. I’m surprised at how much fun I find that, even if it doesn’t lead to sex, which it usually does since I’m not quite talented enough at those things to finish him off.
Any advice would be lovely.
swallowyourpride325: Sadly, I have no tips on handjobs or blowjobs but I do have an idea for you to engage in sexual activities with him! You could always be forward and say “hey, wanna try something new?” Look into things on tumblr/PornHub that interest you the most! For me it was choking, S&M, cosplay sex (no roleplay for me, but maybe you’d dig it!), etc. I like to let my boyfriend be in control during sex so I like being cuffed or my hands tied together. You guys could always just experiment, a lot of people are into Daddy Dom stuff, maybe see if he’s into that too. You can always try something and say “hey, I don’t think I like this,” if he likes it then it’s your choice to say no let’s try something new or like it with him! I hope this was a bit helpful at all but I’m still young and only had one partner!
swallowyourpride325: Here’s some tips for giving a blowjob! This is pretty recent too.(: