For long anal sex was associated with homosexuality, something men do with other men but the truth is that it has been a part of heterosexual activities from time immemorial. And while it may still be forbidden in many countries it’s estimated that in the US at least 40% heterosexual couples have tried anal sex or some kind of anal stimulation. Here are some things you really ought to know about it before trying it out:
Many people prefer anal sex to regular vaginal intercourse because there’s no risk of pregnancy and this can lead to them trying it out without condoms (known in colloquial terms as ‘barebacking’) which can lead to a plethora of STDs including the dreaded HIV. Unprotected anal sex is actually considered the most high-risk sexual practice; a receptive partner is 5 times more likely to get HIV through unprotected anal sex than unprotected vaginal sex. Along with STDs, the practice can also lead to physical damage to the anus.
Here are some tips for first-timers so that things don’t get uncomfortable:
Ease into it
If it’s your first time, make sure that it doesn’t happen suddenly. Talk to your partner about it and don’t let it be a surprise. Keep lubrication handy, because the anus unlike the vagina doesn’t have any natural lubricants. If it’s your first time, you can start off with some finger play or sex toys like a small butt plug to get more comfortable and see if you want to move forward.
DO NOT forget the condoms
Even though we’ve mentioned how dangerous anal sex can be, we can’t stress the importance of using a condom while engaging in this activity. Also to prevent infections you should use separate condoms for vaginal and anal sex.
One very important thing to keep in mind is the kind of lubrication you use. If you’re using a latex condom, you need to stay away from oil-based lubricants like petroleum jelly, hand lotion or cold cream as they can react with latex and dissolve it. You should use water-based ones like glycerine or lubricating jellies which can be purchased at most chemist shops.
Mix it up
There are many nerve endings between the walls of the vagina and the anus, so stimulating the vagina simultaneously can be extremely enjoyable. You could also try stimulating the clitoris or other erogenous zones like breasts.
The most important thing you need to remember however is that sex is something that’s supposed to be fun and enjoyable for both partners. Anal sex like other non-standard sexual activities might not be pleasurable for everyone. If you or your partner doesn’t want to do it, don’t force it on them.