I [f17] am really into the thought of being raped/owned
Hi, I’ve recently felt really bad about that I have such dark and dirty fetishes since I’m so young, and I’m starting to feel like I’m too young to have these fantasies. Pretty much I just feel like I’m abnormal and weird/gross, but I don’t know what to do about it.
I’m kind of just writing this out of frustration, I need to know if I’m just being paranoid or if I actually should try to talk to someone about this and maybe get help?
Thank you for your time.
Kookie_Kay: This is actually a VERY common fantasy. And the thing about fantasies is that they are yours alone, things that speak to you and attract you. One thing I think we should all acknowledge though is that there is a drastic difference between a fantasy and real rape, which is why I tend to term “rape fantasy” as “control fantasy”. The reason many people want this control fantasy is not that they want real violence enacted upon them, but a space where they can be controlled — and if they need to pause the interaction. Even in fantasies in your mind, you can always put things on “pause” thus controlling the scenario. That is why these control fantasies are so inviting. They offer you the ability to give up control, to let someone else own your body and orgasms… but also allow you to draw a line. And none of this is to shame you. A fantasy is a fantasy and that is great you have one. But also to tell you that its an opportunity to also think critically about terming things a ‘rape fantasy’, when rape is the complete and total loss of control where no lines can be drawn and it cripples the victim.
EMBlaster: Consentual nonconsent is a big portion of the BDSM pie chart of kinks and is actually one of the more common submissive fantasies out there. You’re pretty normal. Don’t stress about it:)
player75: It’s pretty common. Wouldn’t stress it.
Vilji: I’m sure you have already received a number of PM’s from men happy to indulge you.
3Alyssa: I’m into it I’m 18. I always had this fantasy. I had it when I was younger and it use to scare me. I thought something was wrong with me. My recent ex also really liked it so we did it a bunch of times. It ended up being our most favorite sex memories.
TexiCocoPuffs: My old marine corp buddie’s wife was like that. She was 18 though (he was too) Then she was raped by a squad of marines (bag over the head, brutal, and even had the first orgasm of her life). Major depression and a suicide attempt or two followed shortly before she divorced him. She’s doing better now with a family of her own, but there is a huge difference about a controlled environment and being rendered helpless.
Oksus69: I’ve had similar fantasies my whole life, it’s totally normal and more common than you’d expect.
Once I discovered that the bdsm community in college, I realized that all of those things I’ve been drawn to forever were things that people actually did! It was awesome.
albinofreak620: I dated a girl with those fantasies. On the regular, she was into being verbally degraded (which I was ok with) and irregularly into roleplay rape stuff (which I put up with to make her happy).
I don’t think it’s unusual. I would recognize that it’s a fantasy and accept that you actually want to pretend to be raped and not actually get raped. It’s fine to do with a trusted partner… just make sure you have a safe word and have the rules discussed in advance.
jakob777: If you need a safe way to do this I have a LOT of experience doing this scene, including ripping of clothes and even how to do it with them on the phone. Be safe, enjoy your fantasy and I hope you can pass on helpful info to others that have the same in the future.
Mr_Spaz: You are not abnormal. Approximately one quarter of women have rape fantasies.
Not everyone with a given fantasy wants to enact it in real life, and obviously the existence of rape fantasies does not justify actual rape, but fantasies about dominance and force are actually completely normal. If you do decide that you want to try incorporating your fantasies into your real-world sex life, follow a few safety precautions:
1. Only do it with someone you trust
2. Have a safeword
3. Start small. You don’t want to jump right into a full-fledged rape fantasy your first time; maybe start with some light bondage or something and build up from there.
4. Don’t underestimate the importance of aftercare. The cuddling afterwards is really key to your emotional health.
Nicolexoxoxo: It’s a common fantasy all girls feel attracted to, don’t over think it. Letting a guy have you way he wishes is normal, just keep it to yourself and share only when a right person comes in life.
daddyspumpkinpie: It’s normal but it depends how you act on it. Some women have the guts to rape bait. But I would suggest CNC with someone whom you can at least trust a little bit. It would help not to get traumatised after and get some aftercare.