How can I (24f) not get so tired riding my boyfriend during sex.
My boyfriend of 3 years and I recently started to have sex. Most of the time he’s doing all the work. But I want to be on top and the dominant one. But the thing is get so tired right after a few seconds when I’m on top of him. It burns my thighs mostly. Any advice on ways I can be in control and not get so tired?
TLDR: I get tired after a few seconds while having sex.
linny88: Same, girl, same. For the longest time, I was going HAM riding my partners – I thought that’s what was always preferred. I have since learned that as hot as it is for a guy to have a woman going buck wild on top, they sometimes like you to go really slow and tease them a little.
I use this as an opportunity to take a break from riding that thing into the sunset, and to tease him doing what feels good for me.
(For me, I grind really slowly, and take long deep breaths. Sometimes take him out and just slide my clit ever-so-slowly up and down his shaft. Grind slowly in circles. Move my hips until he’s almost about to pop out, and slide down hard before it does. Just sit and play with my tits. Whisper things in his ear while I rub myself. Take. My. Time.
Breathe. Relax my muscles. Get the heart rate down. When I’m good and ready, I go back to work.)
Give yourself a break when you need it, but it doesn’t mean you have to get off and give up.
mr_ray69: You gotta work out and focus on leg days! Pulse squats and lunges will help you.
Archeio: My girlfriend and I were in a similar situation, what we found to work was if we started in doggy style, and then I would lean back a bit onto my heels, while she would essentially rock back and forth.
It felt amazing for me, as she was taking all of me with every thrust, and she had no pain in her legs either, which was a win-win!
ihatefreud: If you sorta lay down on top of him instead of sitting upright, you can distribute your weight more evenly and take it easier on your thighs! Also you can kiss him/his neck and whisper in his ear, and you get a lot of skin-to-skin contact, which is all great.
You might also try to isolate the motion of your hips and sort of “twerk” on top of him rather than using your thighs to bounce up and down. It might take some practice if you don’t have a ton of body awareness and experience moving your hips separately from the rest of your torso, but it can be done!
TantraGirl: Cowgirl on a soft mattress will wear you out really fast. If that’s the problem, get a firmer mattress or have sex on a good soft carpet. Or buy a folding gym mat and put it on the floor.
You can also grind forward and back instead of bouncing up and down. This may help: [Woman on Top – Sex in the “Cowgirl” Position](http://moderntantra.blogspot.com/2014/08/woman-on-top-sex-tips-in-cowgirl.html)
Other than that, as u/Mr_Ray69 said, do your squats and lunges and never, ever miss a leg day.
hdavis92: Squats. I used to have the same issue and I am amazed by how long I can ride now.
tsotherland: You don’t have to bounce up and down all the time when you’re on top. RIDE him. Grind your pussy into him as you slide back and forth and side to side. It is ALL good and easier on the legs.