[Serious] What is the youngest age you are honestly attracted to?
I’m not proud of it but as a 21/F I’ve accepted that I am attracted to guys as young as 14. I would never act on said attractions – but I must admit they look nice.
TheReaperSovereign: 26M here. Physically I’ve seen some hot teenagers but the minute they speak it kills any boner. I use to pick up my little brother from HS (just graduated last year) and sitting in the parking lot listening to kids talk made me want to stab my ears.
I’d frankly never date anyone younger than 21 at this point in my life
sinead-orebellion: I’m old (35 and don’t actually feel old).
I wouldn’t or don’t generally find guys much younger than me attractive.
Mid-late 20’s at most. And probably wouldn’t go there still .
Any younger and they look like babies.
I like a bit of age and life on a man.
Ohfuckit17: I like people in their 20’s. this thread has been an eye opener 😕
whiskey_pants: female 40s and I like men my age or older generally. I just have that taste at this point. I can see a younger man and see he is obviously attractive, but generally I see it the same way I can see that a woman is attractive, yet I am not bi or lesbian. I just don’t *feel* anything about younger attractive people. It doesn’t do it for me.
PM_Me_TheBooty: When I was 12 I was attracted to 19 year old girls. When i was 18 I was attracted to 19 year old girls. I’m now 24 and I’m attracted to 19 year old girls. I’m noticing a trend.
Oksus69: I’m 24F. The youngest I’m attracted to ~my age. I’m into older guys.
I can look at a good looking teen and think they’re cute, but it’s not real attraction.
JRthePUMP: No one is going to be completely honest in this thread.
JasmineW: Throwaway because it feels wrong and more wrong the older I get, but I’ve found that the youngest age doesn’t seem to change for me at least and if I’m totally honest it’s when people enter puberty too, so like 14-15 yeah.
Of course I’d never act on it either and it feels wrong. 🙁
Thank you so much for posting though. <3 It’s hard to talk about and hard to find someone to talk about. Society is like constructed so that you are supposed to start finding people attractive when they reach an age of 18 and when you talk about younger it’s so taboo there’s normally just silence; the debate doesn’t even exist so it’s hard to know how common it is. I sort of just default to that I’m a weird and dirty adult.
Edit: Agreed though that mental maturity-wise, age of attraction is pushed upwards for me too.
mikecg2: 21m, over the summer i went to a lake with my family for a week, and there was one 16 yr old that was smoking hot. She didn’t look 16, didn’t act 16, at first i though she was 19 or 20, but she had perfect body, fucking hot.
revcback: 12; (I’m 15)
drive2fast: Nice try, but we are on to you Mr Spacey.
scissor_me_timbers00: Unless you like pre pubescent children, I honestly don’t think there’s shame in the attraction. It’s just nature. Acting on it is shameful tho due to the lack of emotional maturity on the part of adolescents. I’m late 20s and I find some high school girls very sexy. It depends on how fast they develop. But some girls like 16-18 are just very sexy. Again, this is totally natural and historically guys my age would’ve taken a wife about that age. They also show attraction to me, as I’m still youthful but fairly grown and manly. Girls like that. But acting on it would be weird tho because of how our society is structured the age and emotional maturity gap is too great. Currently I probably wouldn’t date a girl younger than 21.
SWRer: Post-pubescent always, I mean, if I don’t know their age, I don’t know if someone is a young looking 30 or an old looking 17. Anything that looks like they haven’t finished puberty is a complete turn off. And as my kids have gotten older – anyone who looks like they would be more appropriate to hang out with my 17 yo son than me, total turn off.
As for actual dating or sleeping with, low 30s is the lowest I’d consider. (just turned 41) Even then, if they look much younger than their age, I just can’t see them sexually.
Good example: Taylor Lautner in the later twilight movies (went with a friend to MST3K it 🙂 ) from the neck down, he was built, that was attractive. From the neck up, he looked like a baby and that killed my lady boner faster than you can say sparkles
AtUnderscoreDashPlus: 18M, I’m kinda ashamed to admit that I can be attracted to girls as young as 13 if they’ve gone through puberty. Idk what they’re feeding kids these days but some of those girls don’t look 13
Scorpiodej: As a 22 yo woman I would never go lower than 19 because the idea of dating high schoolers makes me uncomfortable. I am personally attracted to older (around 27 – 30). BF is 26 which is perfect.
Kay_Elle: Physically: Late teens, I guess? I mean it depends on their personal growing process. They’d have to be “fully baked”, so to speak.
Mentally, I think by now teenagers wouldn’t cut if for me as a rule…though I’ve met one 19-year-old who breaks that rule.
You’re only 21. I had a huge crush on a 16-year-old when I was 20. But, remember, that age difference is actually really small objectively, even though it’s illegal. You might very well grow out of it. I haven’t crushed on someone that young since.
yepimtheguy: Nice try, FBI
[deleted]: 18 years, zero hours and zero minutes.
tofutits: I’m 24, and I honestly am not attracted to any guy younger than maybe 22. I like for my men to look like men.
Crashlands: I can’t even speak to women younger than about 23 without wanting to saw my arm off. I just turned 28.
Water_Vole: Nice to see some honesty on this subject without the sanctimonious hypocrisy that usually accompanies this topic.
PlaysAprtStaysTgethr: Used to think i was fairly mature about this, but thanks to the fucking IT movie for Sexualzing a 12 year old… Now I’m all confused self loathing.
Realistically though, 17 maybe at best. They look younger now that I’m older.
intimatebadthoughts: 18F. I notice people below like 16 are good-looking but there’s nothing sexual there. Like 99% of people I am genuinely sexually attracted to are between like 19 – 26 I guess. Obviously, exceptions exist but very rarely. For any celebrities or actors they need to look like they could be in their early to mid twenties max for me to be at all attracted to them, anything older just grosses me out idk.
DaughtersAndDoggies: A relative of mine got married to a man who was 6’2″ and easily 200 lbs. She was the size of an average 7th grader, although I’d doubt she’d be mistaken for one, she shares a body type with them. Is there something wrong with him for being attracted to her?
I think attraction to inappropriate people is much more common that anyone would admit, but like everyone in this thread says, people just don’t act on it – just because you are attracted doesn’t mean that you’d want to actually do anything about it. The reality of being in a relationship with a teen would put 99.9% of people off of even considering it.
ericorbit: 46M, gay. usually like guys in the 30-55 range; even when i was in my 20s i was running after the 40 year olds. my SO is about to turn 55.
that said there certainly are anomalies, every so often i’ll see a guy in his late-teens or 20s who looks damn good, but i usually see them and think “theyll be hot when theyre older”. its kinda like someone can be cute or hot or in good shape but it doesnt mean theyre “sexy”, if that makes sense. too boyish and skinny/twink-y never really did it for me.
imp_of_santa: Well, it’s not the age, it’s the physical development. I was talking to a girl at a party who was obviously too young, but definitely post-pubescent. Turned out she was only 16 (and was at the party with her mother), which kind of freaked me out.
enjoyoutdoors: People mature differently, both physically and mentally.
Consent laws (I can’t be the only one to think about that too, can I?) take the mental age into account and don’t care much about physique.
Attraction has more to do with physique than anything else. But, well. The physique evens out a bit around 20 years of age or so, so if you want to be sure about it go for that age.
I’m not particular fond of the female body before it starts to fill out in quite a few places, but I have to admit that I have on one or two occasions been quite mistaken when doing the guessing game.
throwaway10849: I get so irritated when guys trot out the “biologically speaking” argument for coming on to people that are underage. Ya I think there are attractive people who are pretty young, but that doesn’t force me to be a creep or treat them as a sex object. People who do that do so bc it’s a power trip and they feel like there will be no reprocussions.
In short, being attracted to younger people is just like acknowledging that they’re hot. Coming into someone you know is underage, or saying or trying shit with someone underage that you’d never do with a person your own age is predatory and done consciously.
Edit: the youngest people in ever around are my brothers friends as he is ten years my junior. Some of them start to fill out in the shoulders and look more like adults around 16 at the youngest. So I guess my number is 16 for boys and he rarely had any girls over so idk 😂 I tend to prefer full bodied women though and few teens meet that criteria.
airmanmeddude: 20 M here, probably 13 or 14
Lilebi: I’m a bi 28f, and I think the youngest would probably be around 20. Any younger, and I feel like they would be too immature.
RinkanShojo: 26F, I’m only really attracted to curvy figures so I don’t really find girls who are too young attractive. Youngest I’ve ever gone was 18.
JRthePUMP: I’ve been turned on by girls as young as whenever they “bloom” to women in their 70s. Would I pursue the extemes, no, but they are certainly there
alextheslut: 21/F. At least my own age.
marieclaw: I’m 23F, about to be 24 and I’ve never been attracted to boys who are younger than me. But I must admit that once I saw an 18 yo that looked really, really nice.
Helixon: I’m 26M and the least age I’m genuinely attracted to is 40M.
curiosityclevercat: I’m 38 (F). I have to say that guys under 32 or so do nothing for me. They look kinda cute/pretty but there is just no attraction. I have “significantly younger guy sex” in my bucket list but I’m going to have to wait till I’m 50 or something.
Pavouk106: I’m 31M and to me it depends on how the girl looks. She must have some curves on her body, looking like a woman (read: must have boobs and butt) and must not look like a child at her face for me to be attracted. If I have to relate this condition to some age I would say at least 15-16 years old. And she shouldn’t be dumb…
BartlettMagic: it’s hard to put an actual age to it, but honestly the more developed a girl is the more attractive she is to me. i find the ‘womanly’ parts of women the most attractive, so wider hips, healthy breasts, etc. if those are present, then she’s attractive. there are exceptions, obviously. that being said, there have been plenty of times where i’ve been checking a girl out, realize she’s probably underage, and feel like a slimeball the rest of the day.
anonymous_anxiety: I’m f/23 and have a huge crush on a guy at my gym that I just found out is 45. Never even realized it. He’s built as hell and doesn’t look his age at all.
Then again, my ex(?) FB is 34 and I thought THAT was a significant age difference.
Guess I like em older!
darkwarrior5500: 25m. Used to be no less than 2 years my junior. Nowadays there are 13-16 year olds who look old enough to be married with kids. So in terms of physical attraction its somewhere in there. Mentally i cant deal with younger people easily. My inverse goes up well into the 50s for some people.
qnvx: I feel like the media and in this case maybe especially porn we consume can lower the limit of who we are attracted to, since youth is so prevalent and emphasized there. At least, for people who don’t need to know a person to be attracted to them. Something to be aware of.
That said, 24M and I’ve seen some attractive people who I assume were teenagers.
justatossthatway: My wife.
No, I’m not joking. It has been a strange transition in a way. Once upon a time I was a high school teacher fresh out of college and even then the students I was teaching, even the juniors that should have already graduated, seemed like little kids.
This past year I went to Florida and to the beach up north. The 20somethings that were running around? They looked like little kids too. Were some of them fit? Sure. Were some of them trying their best to strut their summer bod? Absolutely.
It was comforting in a way to see that wasn’t what I was looking for anymore.
honestanswer19: 19/M here.
“She’s pretty” begins at as young as around 12.
Real attraction begins at around 14.
Sexual attraction at around 16.
But as for someone I’d actually want a relationship with? I’d like someone closer to my age within a couple years.
robberofjacks: 15 ish years old I guess.. But im only 19. Mature for my age I would like to think I can find highschool freshman with good looks and be like “They have a good set of dem chromosomes” but thats about it. So I guess not romantically or sexually attracted to. Just be like yeah she’s pretty.
Teenagers/early 20s are too skinny and look unfinished a bit to me. I’m not sure why- I like my partners a bit more on a toned and “filled out” and teenagers/early 20s aren’t quite there yet.
JustANormalGuy2_0: I’m 18 and my best friends sister is 14. Yeah….
dusky_grouper: Sexual attraction, or just “they look nice”?
rsexthrowaway8675309: 28/M, throwaway here, for obvious reasons.
Depends on the girl/woman. 18-20 is probably around the median, though, and that number would move up the second I need to hold a conversation with them.
There are exceptions. On the young side, there was a series of videos I found and enjoyed during college, featuring a young woman masturbating on camera. Probably around 15 videos of the same person. Years later, I read an article about some advocate for young women who are victims of online predators. Yup, same girl. Turns out the videos I’d enjoyed so much were recorded and shared without her knowledge or consent consent by the dude she’d been camming with when she was **14**. That sure didn’t make me feel good about myself. But, in retrospect, she didn’t look any younger in the videos than my 27F wife does today.
I still sometimes see the same videos popping up on tube sites. Always report them, but I don’t know if they get taken down or not. It’s a young woman with dark hair, always wearing a silver swallow necklace [similar to this.](https://cdn.notonthehighstreet.com/system/product_images/images/000/847/866/original_sterling-silver-swallow-necklace.jpg)
alektrona: I’m 21, almost 22 and probably 19 or 20. I’ve always been attracted only to guys in my age range. Any guy under 19 looks and feels so young to me now, so even if he’s good looking, I don’t feel attracted to him in that way.
throwaway15662: I’m mid 20’s male. For me it’s 16, which is also legal age of consent here. Would never date anyone under 23, but in terms of purely physical attraction and a situation where the other person shows up for sex and no chatter, then immediately leaves afterwards, sure 16-21 is fine.
It’s kind of an impossible scenario.
Jokerandthethief22: I’m in my early 30s and I don’t find guys attractive who are clearly younger than early 20s. I’d also probably never date someone younger than 24/25.
When I was early 20s though I did use to like guys in their teens. But that’s gone away as I’ve got older.
SDMiamiChargers: I’m 19 and it’s extremely rare for me to find a 17 year old attractive and even then I wouldn’t act on it
squigglycorners: I (26F) don’t really find men below 25ish attractive. They look like boys. I like the look of a full grown man.
41202: 35M. The minimum is somewhere in the early to mid twenties. While I can appreciate that women younger than that look physically attractive, there’s something childish about their looks that would make me uncomfortable.
SlouchyCouchKiller: I’m about 30F and the youngest would be about 23-25. Guys younger than that just tend to be too immature and look like teenagers to me, which I don’t find attractive at all. I tend to only be attracted to people who are approx. within my age range though, so about 23-38 is my sweet spot.
deusdragon: I just started working with a woman who I thought was in her mid to late 20s. Everything about her made her seem like she was of similar age (I’m 33). And I find her to be very attractive, not just in looks, but in attitude. I recently found out that she just turned 22, and that’s thrown off everything I thought I knew about the type of woman I’m attracted to.
p0cketable: 25[F] here – I can’t stand anyone younger than me, honestly – never really was able to get along with them, so generally speaking, if I can tell they’re not at least 25+ I’m not going to feel any attraction at all.
dicklord_airplane: Im 29 and i still find 18 and 19 year old women attractive. Its rare that i actually meet people that young, though.
SupermarketSweep: I’m 33F. I’d say maybe early 20s, but I doubt that would really go far because any time I’m around guys that age, I find them pretty irritating and immature.
caterpillargirl99: Idk…I’m 18 and I’m not even attracted to guys of my age or teenagers at all, most of the time it’s their personality that is a turn off.
jamiegc1: Soon to be 29. 22 is about my lower limit.
People who are like 19-21 or so I can find attractive but would never pursue or dwell on it likely (mayyyybe if they brought it up first and I went out of my way to make sure they were mature enough). They’re in this barely adult stage to me and as much as I have been through in my lifetime (hard life), I almost want to more watch out for them/try to mentor them more than see them as potential partner. Lol
Any 18 and younger to me is flat out a kid and I can see that they are attractive but I’m not attracted to them. Huge difference.
365Blistering: I am not attracted to many men under 22-25. Men look gangly and weird before that. When I was younger I guess I looked past it and tended to date larger, more muscular, men to compensate but I always found men more attractive after they were fully grown.
Now that I’m older I still can see how 22-25 years olds have become attractive but I’m still pretty much only sexually turned on by men who are my age or older.
katiescarlett78: 39F. Now I definitely only like men my own age or a bit older, but I remember in my early 20s there were times when I’d find teenage boys attractive, like age 14, 15 maybe.
hornette99: I’m 18 and since I’ve been dating, I’ve never been into a guy younger than me. Something about it is just weird to me and I’ve always been more attracted to guys a year or two older. Even if a guy were to be a day younger, it just feels off to me.
VampArcher: I’m 18F and I wouldn’t date someone who hasn’t graduated high school yet. So, 18-19.
CandelaBelen: 20f, If I’m gonna be honest, probably 16. But I would only go after guys as young as 18.
LietusRain: I am 23 and female. I can’t pinpiont an exact age, but if they appear high school aged (or act it) that is too young. I’m also not attracted to significantly older people either. 35-ish is about my cut off.
leelee0350: 42F. 26….maybe 25. Really depends on how they look physically. I’ve seen 25 yr olds that seem closer to 30 and I’ve seen 25 yr olds that seem 21.
melonmagellan: As a 30 year old woman, I have to say late 20s is my youngest with a preference towards men in their late 30s. Some gray/silver hair on a guy drives me crazy.
Men don’t look, idk, grown up to me must of the time until they hit 25 or so.
B0h1c4: Attraction is a weird thing. We don’t all develop at the same rate. So I can be attracted to anyone without knowing their age.
But if you are asking about the average person, the typical 18-19 year old is generally about as young as I typically find attractive. But I have seen young women that look older and end up being 16 years old. I certainly don’t *seek out* that age. But I’ve seen it.
FellKnight: 35/m here. Late 20s at the youngest now. Everything below that is like kids to me. Even servers and such i dont notice anymore
leomarvin1976: Funny you should ask this. 41 YO man here. I was at a cross country meet my son (14) had this past weekend. I can honestly say, that the teenage girls pretty much looked like children to me. There were some who were more developed, but even then it was more of a “She looks like a little girl with really big boobs”. At this point, I’m attracted to women in their late 20’s to early 40’s. Not unlike someone pointed out below…I’m attracted to people who have “lived” life. Experience and maturity is sexy.
mubee94: I will be honest and I don’t care about people’s judgments but I as a 23M is attracted to girls 14 and above. As most girls here above 14 have fully grown bodies already
TheMasterCharles: 17, but I’ll wait the year to avoid prison.
90sVibes: As a 21/M attracted to high school girls i know exactly how you feel. I struggle with these desires, but know they’re wrong and I dont to act on them. It does help that my wife looks super young even though she’s older than me. Hentai is cool too.
ChaosKilledDinos94: When I was 13 I found a 10 year old sort of attractive but it was also one of those “you’ll be cute when you get older” things and other than looking out for him as a younger brother figure I had NO interest in acting on any slight or minuscule passing thought I ever had on their possible attractiveness. Now as a 23 year old I’ve maybe found 18 year olds or even 16 hot but as soon as they open their mouth it’s over for me haha. Right now it’s 21 and up for me.
arctic_lustrum: F34. At 26 a guy at 21 – youngest I can remember being attracted to at that age. At 33 a girl aged 24 turned problematic for a brief period (I was, and still am in a relationship I am dead serious about, she showed almost overwhelming interest in me) she is the youngest, at my present age. I assume the age difference will increase a bit more as I grow older. In both incidents I considered the other person to be extremely young though…
LordBoomDiddly: Depends how well they are proportioned.
I haven’t slept with anyone under 18 for nearly a decade, but I’ve seen pretty hot 16/17 year olds.
It’s actually becoming difficult to tell age easily now, which is a problem since a lot of teens lie.
I live in the UK btw where the legal age is 16.
subbadubbdubb: 27F. Twenty-five is the youngest I find attractive right now; even twenty-two looks like a teenager to me.
Granted, I’ve only ever been involved with people three to six years my senior. Current partner is three and a half years older.
freecel2345: If my face were attached to this post: 18.
Physically strictly speaking. 16 is the fringe of the beginning of the 18-26 [inclusive] golden age window. It shuts after 26 for lots of men not because of appearance (many women can drag a youthful look as far as 35), but because time for dating/trialing before wedding is shorter and thus the number of kids which could be had is reduced, and fewer youthful energetic years are spent growing with each other. They get older, more cynical about men, less willing “to do that,” etc. For something (someone) dropping in market price, they do the opposite of what they should do and “jack up the price.”
This goes 10x so if we’re talking about an older male (>30 years) who could count the number of times he’s had sex on just his two hands: there is a strong sense of missing out on something fabulously glorious in life; that taking a woman who’s “ready to settle down” at 32 can’t fulfill due to being on the way to losing that youthful beauty, her age and statistical easy access to dating has given her relationship experience which makes her his grandmother in comparison (even if he’s 45 years old to her 32) so it’s like a high schooler dating an elementary schooler experience-wise even though she’s younger, and so on. It’s like wanting to go to Disneyland your whole life, you got to see 3-4 out of 5 of your friends go from time to time, but otherwise you could never go for one reason or another and it’s killing you inside. This man may not be fabulously wealthy, because great wealth tends to require social savvy which would have netted him more than two hands worth of sexual intercourse, but he may be highly gifted in other regards and have talents he has crafted instead.
For the well experienced who like youth, it could be nostalgia or just a preference. For the terminally undersexed, it’s a drive which must be satisfied at some point in life lest we think we are worse evolutionary failures than we are. For myself, to enter marriage at this point in my life at this instant to a woman over age 26 would practically guarantee some small incident or two of infidelity on my part in the future to fulfill this drive. If instead after I add at least 3-5 youthful notches to my bedpost I find myself marrying above the bracket, then I’d feel much more secure and able to sooth insecurity.
I’m not trolling or flaming. I am literally core-dumping what I am thinking as if it’s for debugging.
Nonamesfound: 41 male here, although I’m fit and look much younger
Probably late 20s … like 27 28.
I see younger women and while I see that they’re beautiful and have nice bodies, I just don’t have that “pull” towards them.
I think a lot of it is mental, they seem so superficial and shallow… and sorry but really dumb too. I mean just lack of common sense and general knowledge.
I worked with younger attractive women there is just something missing from them.
There is this one girl in that is 21 and by all accounts is a smoke show. This girl has made it clear that she wants to fuck me badly.
I don’t know what it is, but I have zero desire to fuck this girl. She’s a nice girl too.
Fuckoff555: 18 years old, nothing under, not even a couple of weeks. If i hear that she’s under 18 and even it’s legal ( i’m in France and the legal age is 15) I lose all attraction to her. But I woudn’t have a serious relationship with a girl under 20, only casual sex.