Awkward dirty talk
Maybe he just picks the wrong moments. But Jesus Christ.
We were walking down the street and I was talking about star wars and he just said ‘one day I’m going to fuck you so hard that the neighbours are gonna have to come over to see if everything’s okay’ and I just sort of said ‘oh okay… thanks…’ I felt kind of embarrassed and cringed a little. Especially because he stammered a little during the sentence.
He talks during sex and sometimes it works if he says something that feels like it’s being said out of passion, but most of the time it will sound so rehearsed and awkward. Anyone else had this problem?
naughtytalker: We only get good at things through practice. If you’d like for your bf to get better at dirty talk, then talk dirty more often. But, here’s the key, treat it like actual practice.
The first mistake we sometimes make is to confine the sexy talk to the passionate moments when we actually want to get off or when we’ll be disappointed if things are ruined. There’s too much pressure and experimentation will not be rewarded.
So, instead look for opportunities or moments where you make a game of it. Maybe make use of a chatting app to talk dirty to one another during the day. But keep it fun and light-hearted; if he comes out with a groaner let it slide, jibe off it or reply with your own silly dirty talk. You want for him to losen up and feel comfortable making mistakes. The most important part is that the end goal of these sessions is not to be aroused or to get off.
The whole point is to practice talking dirty. If you get off, perfect! If it gets you aroused, then that’s a good step in the right direction. If you both just end up giggling at the stream of silly innuendos, then at least it was enjoyable. If it’s just painfully awkward, then aren’t you glad it was now instead of in the moment?
Anyways, just try it out.. and also, if you’re going to set a benchmark then lead the way by setting an example of good dirty talk.
casino_night: *stares at feet*
‘one day I’m going to fuck you so hard that the neighbours are gonna have to come over to see if everything’s okay’
w….would that be OK?
_shulgin: Oh man, the stammer. If you’re gonna dirty talk randomly, and with murder vibey undertones too, atleast make it smooth
stormer1_1: Oh dear. Tell him to buy some Prince albums and next time try it in private and in context.
zombiewolf97: Maybe he was hoping for sex in public? Has he ever expressed an interest in that? I mean it was kinda rude to just cut off a good star wars convo but he may have just been in the mood at the time.
FlyingFlamingRen: Iv’e definitely had this problem before.
You’re just going to have to outright tell him there’s a time and a place for dirty talk. It’s not beneficial to you, or even him if he want to do it at random times. It’s embarrassing and a turn off to you, so it also does nothing for him.
So yeah, flat out tell him dirty talk is literally only for the right time.
I hope to god you don’t have to spell it out to him even further.
Alpha_Bit_Poop: Ah you know, we all have to be bad at something before we can be good at it. Sounds like your guy is on the right track though.