Spit or Swallow, Which Do Men Prefer?
I don’t know how to answer this in technical terms, so allow me to tell you a story.
Once upon a love motel moment…
“In the US, girls are either the spit or swallow type,” my boyfriend said a few minutes after I gave him head. “Which are you?”
I shrunk. Everytime someone asks me a question about what I do during sex, I have a non-verbal way of telling them that my sex life is private and so they should mind their own business. They should get the message; if not, I flash my Medusa eyes.
But my boyfriend is part of my sex life. Besides, he’s a I-asked-a-question-you-should-answer type of person. No matter how you deflect, he remembers and asks again. He doesn’t let go of a question until it’s answered. (Trust me, it’s annoying, but it’s weird that I find that cute.)
“Uh…spit?” I answered.
One time, my boyfriend mentioned that sometimes he’d peek and watch me give him head. (Yes, his eyes are closed most of the time.) He must have discovered I spit his spunk into a tissue. This might have hurt his ego, so when he opened this topic, I thought it was his way of telling me he’d like me to swallow — of course without sounding like it was an official request.
So what’s the big deal about swallowing, anyway? My boyfriend told me that if you ejaculate inside a woman, you develop a certain closeness. (I guess he meant closeness with me.) If that doesn’t make sense to you, trust me, you’re gay.
I’m neither endowed with the female reproductive organ nor have sex with someone who has one, so no matter how I tried, my brain cells just couldn’t comprehend my boyfriend’s claim that swallowing his fluid would make us close (or closer).
But I was desperate to understand him. I wanted to please him. So to put myself in my boyfriend’s shoes, I asked myself if there was something in my context that was equally incomprehensible to him. There was, actually! How about the fact that he also doesn’t understand my claim that the pleasure one gets from giving blowjobs is emotional in nature? You know, when you give your man head, you want to make sure he moans because you get satisfied from seeing him satisfied? If this makes sense to you, blow me a kiss, sister.
So when I convinced myself that both my boyfriend and I are sailing across the same ocean but it just so happens that we are not in the same boat, I decided to want to know how to swallow. I surfed the net and after many weird articles, I finally found some tips and advice that I was willing to follow. The others were just so… porn.
“Are you gonna swallow this time?” my boyfriend asked when he was about to squirt his sperm into my mouth on our next date.
I didn’t say anything.
That time, my larynx chose to concede to my esophagus. And after many sessions, my boyfriend and I got closer and closer. (Wink!)
Why Swallow Your Partner’s Cum
If you didn’t get the moral of the story, swallowing a man’s cum is all about building a certain connection, a certain bond that is brought about by the sperm getting inside of you. Well, at least that’s what my boyfriend told me. And if you ask other men, some would say it just blows their mind. And others would find it very, very sexy.
But aside from that, did you know that swallowing cum has health benefits? You can read about them here, Three Cheers to Semen! Health Benefits of Blowjob.
How to Make Swallowing Your Man’s Cum Easy
Understand that semen doesn’t taste or smell good especially for first-timers. It will make you cringe, feel uncomfortable, and even puke. But once you get the hang of it, you’ll be begging for more. There’s something about semen that’s invigorating, empowering, and…sexy.
Now, for the tips…
1. Know when your man will explode.
In the homepage, A Beginner’s (or Even Advanced’s) Guide: How to Give the Best Blowjob, I mentioned two signs that signal ejaculation. First, the head of your man’s penis will grow bigger like a bulb lighting up. Second, the dick is brick hard, and so is your man.
Now, knowing these signs will make you prepare yourself for the big explosion.
Remember, when your man comes, you’ll feel the throbs several times. Continue the up-and-down motion but when the throbbing ends, stop. At this point, your man’s penis will be sensitive.
2. Swallow the spunk without tasting or smelling it.
The first time I attempted to swallow my boyfriend’s cum, it was awful. The bleach-like odor seeping through my nose, the bitter and salty taste of it, and the thought of swallowing something gooey just kept telling me to spit it out. But somehow, I found a way to erase all these things in my head and just swallowed. It was such an achievement on my part because I thought I was going to puke. But I didn’t so I know you can do it too.
So my advice is, as soon as your boyfriend has ejaculated all his semen, swallow it right away. Don’t give yourself the opportunity to taste or smell it. It’ll just make it difficult for you. And if mind-over-matter helps, do it.
Also, one way of making swallowing easy for you is to make sure your man’s penis is lodged inside your mouth or throat as deep as possible. When he explodes, the semen will get to your throat right away and won’t have a chance to reach your taste buds first.
3. Practice, practice, practice.
If you don’t get it the first time, do it again the next time. Trust me, before you know it, you’ll love the taste and smell of spunk.