Tamara Gorro Instagram [Sept 2018]
Ladies! Your worst sexual experiences (For Men)
I was on my social media when the topic of worst sexual experiences came about. I think it would be beneficial for myself and other men as well to know what that experience consisted of so that we can learn and grow from the other man’s mistakes and make the world and sex life of women a better place.
It would really be helpful if you included the nature of the relationship i.e one-night stand, tinder hookup, longtime partner, etc. And whether after the ordeal did you stay or leave right away? did you give the guy another chance?
Vent it all out on this thread and let’s hope to all learn something!
midmarch: The first time my boyfriend face-fucked me. It’s something he is very into and when he would tell me about it it sounded sexy so I agreed. Boy was I unprepared for the reality. First of all, what people don’t realize, is that without numbing spray or painkillers, it hurts a LOT. My boyfriend does this thing where he pushes my head down so my lips are all the way at the base of the shaft and then starts thrusting. It feels like your throat is being stretched open and after like 30 seconds it starts to feel like a sore throat. After a 20 minute face-fuck your throat is on fire. The other thing that’s rough it is that you can’t breathe — people think you can breathe through your nose: you can’t. When the cock is all the way in your throat, it blocks your windpipe completely. This was manageable for me when I was on my knees and knew I could push him away, but on my back with my head hanging off the bed and no control, it was panic-inducing. I still haven’t learned how to control my anxiety enough to do it in that position. Honestly, the almost-throwing-up stuff, which I thought would be the hard part, was the least difficult thing.
sagtastic: It was a hook-up with a friend who turned out to have feelings for me despite me telling him I just wanted to have fun. He’s a self-proclaimed dominant but he wasn’t good at dominating in my opinion. He went down on me for like 5 seconds (no joke!!!) and then started fingering me super hard starting with two fingers at once, which was painful. The PIV sex was okay and he even made me orgasm, but the face he was making was AWFUL! I had to look elsewhere or close my eyes. I also hated the way he kissed. At one point he started choking me, without having told me first and I ended things right then and there. Next time he wanted to hook-up I pretended I was on my period.
zihuatcat: I have two from earlier this year that come to mind.
First was a guy I was really interested in for something more than a hook up (and he claimed the same). The first time we had sex it was pretty rushed because he had a flight to catch. So we didn’t mess around with oral. It was pretty much making out, tit sucking, then doing the deed. He was on the small side and came within a few strokes. But in addition to that, I full on started my period during sex and blood was everywhere. He freaked out about that, which was a huge turn off. He claimed the sex was amazing (which concerned me). I knew he hadn’t had sex in a while so I was willing to give it another shot. He ghosted me 2 days later. Fast forward a couple of months and he came back around. Sex the 2nd time was no better. He didn’t even undress me, just moved my panties over. No tit play, no fingering, nothing. I asked to give him oral and he said no. Same thing again with cumming after a few strokes. Total waste of my time. It was the first and only time I let a guy come back after ghosting. I was done.
Second guy was a hook up. We were doing it doggy style and he started playing with my ass. He didn’t ask first but I was ok with it. Apparently he took that to mean anal was ok because he just rammed it in with no warning or prep. I stopped him but next thing I know, he put his dick back in my vagina with no clean up. I told him afterwards I didn’t want to see him again and why and he was shocked.
taDaCapo: He was too lazy to take off his boxers before inserting his penis. I was wondering why it felt so odd and dry. Then I noticed he was penetrating me while a piece of his boxers covered the tip of his penis. I said: ‘Would you mind taking that rag out of me? That would be nice.’
piesR: A friend who became FWB over a short period of time. First time we had sex he put one finger on my clit and violently rubbed it back and forth for like 30 seconds, jack hammered me with his finger for another 30 seconds and then PinV jackhamered for like a minute or two. Once he was done he said,”whew, so how many times did you cum?” I said not at all. He was legitimatly confuesed, he was a dew months out of a long term relationship and she would say she would cum like 10 times during sex like that.. I gave this poor misguided man another shot and taught him what to actually do and what he could do to makesex more enjoyable for women.
zeebopbiddlywop: A threesome I had with a couple. The guy just shoved his dick in my ass without any warning or warm up whatsoever and couldn’t understand why I was mad. I immediately ended the threesome. Never contacted them again but ran into them at a swinger party.
A guy I was with who showed no affection whatsoever. He came, then immediately got up and walked away to smoke. He came back to finish me, did so, then immediately got dressed and went outside to smoke (which from my room to go outside is a 2 story walk). Came back in and said “bye” and left. Never contacted him again.
A guy I was with who I made the clear boundary of we are only going to do oral. I was blowing him and he pushed me off and got in top of me and said he couldn’t “hold back anymore” and started to fuck me. I told him no and tried to push him off but he wouldn’t. Bro, that there was not sex. It was rape. He continues to message me a year later. I haven’t responded to him ever since that night but he messages me every other month or so.
Years ago I was with a man who just kept saying “oh sweetie. Oh honey. It’s so nice.” Over and over and over again from start to finish. A gigantic turn off (and creepy as hell to boot). It was like a tape recording of a loop of him saying it. Never contacted him again.
And there’s a lot more but those are some of the good ones.
PM_Me_GoatsnOats: I have yet to have a good sexual experience.