Thoughts on hickeys?
Ok this is so simple that a feel lame but I (22f) have been with my bf for over 5 years. We have a great sex life. Although neck kisses have always been in the picture, he had never given me a hickey which I was unbothered by.
A few weeks ago, though, he gave me my first one sort of accidentally and holy shit I loved it. I never thought it would be that big of a deal but not only did I love getting it, I loved having to parade it around like he had marked his territory. I told him how hot it was, and he’s done it a few times since.
Of course there’s the stigma that I should want to cover them up while they heal but I like having his mark left on my skin. I love the reminder of the awesome sex we had the night before. I love the thought of someone else seeing it on me and knowing I had awesome sex the night before.
I always felt hickeys had a juvenile reputation since they were always a thing in middle/high school but I don’t care, this little change has made me want him even more than before.
Anyone share my sentiments?
Just wanted to share lol.
tarjanian: I love them, it’s such a thing from a moment of passion, a fun little reminder of how lost in the moment they were
JackAquila: I love giving them, I love receiving them, I loove seeing them and I love parading them
IndependentRasberry: I find them trashy. Very “im 16 and just got my first bf and I want everyone to know it”. I like getting them though, so my rule is that they must be in places that dont show when im wearing regular clothes
nothanksokthenyep: I love biting and being bitten on the neck and chest a lot and therefore often end up getting and leaving hickeys. It’s not intentional it just happens in the moment from the biting and sucking. I find it pretty awkward afterwards (especially when they last for days) and I think other people find them a bit trashy so I cover them up if they are in a visible spot. I wish you could bite and suck without making hickeys.
Eulenbaby: I don’t remember when I last saw a hickey on a grown woman. Around here it definitely is considered rather juvenile. You can always make them in a spot that’s not visible when you’re clothed, if you’re worried about what other people may think.
TinkerBob7926: I’m obsessed with being marked by my partner. I love having that physical reminder that I’m his and he owns my body. I don’t want other people to see it but I love going out dressed all smart, knowing that I’m covered in them underneath. We both mark each other and we love it
concave_spelunking: I cringe at the thought that I once gave hickeys on purpose. My SO and I have never left marks even when we’re not too careful. It kinda takes a conscious effort to leave a mark, and that’s not something that I consider a turn-on.
What turns me on is him discreetly checking for marks around my neck and shoulders when we’re out and about after a long night.
Megapsychotron: I like neck kissing and licking, but hickeys are tasteless IMO. Really tacky look. But that’s just me.
one2z: I love them – love the feel of receiving them, and the thrill of the reminder, and I absolutely love giving them. Sadly I’ve had to tell my bf not to give me visible ones anymore in order to maintain a professional appearance, but he encourages me to leave marks on him
throwitaway1596: I love getting them, but only in places underneath clothes. My bf’s fave spot are my butt cheeks, as I currently have four there. It hurts so good and is such a hot reminder of him. Especially since I won’t see him for two weeks 🙁
buggerd: I love them. The person who gives them to me tends to keep them out of sight with a t shirt on . however sometimes it gets questionable. Which i also really enjoy.
Something about catching a glimpse in the mirror while out and being like ” woops” or catching people staring. I enjoy it.
Kit4000: Neutral. I discovered I had one recently. Which i weird. because I hve a dark complexion and its hard to bruise me including hickeys. But it was jst out of sight thanks to my hair.
Unless i see someone covered with them, I really wouldn’t give it much though.
nycukiss: I like them too. We do this too, and is so lovely and makes me smile when i think back. I dont care about what others say, so we are all in for this. Is that kind of plasurable pain. I love it.
MeepoXL: Don’t really think much of Hickeys.
A girl I know loves to parade around her bruises because she loves to basically be beaten during sex. Apparently she sees her bruises throughout the day and just gets wet from it..
I’ve found all the subs I’ve known tend to love being marked by their dom.
half-blonde-princess: I don’t get hickeys too frequently since high school, my most recent was definitely a territory marking thing, and it’s super hot. Unfortunately, it’s impractical, because I have to find a way to hide it at work. If it’s not visible, great, but if it’s on my neck or higher on my chest, more trouble than it’s worth.
MadeleineKeys: HUGE fan.
LittleCowGirl: My ex-fiancé was really into big obvious neck hickies, and it should have been a red-flag for his disrespect for my own body/opinions/thoughts. I was embarrassed by them (especially as I was working at my grandparents church) and he would laugh it off.
Honestly I feel like they fall into the “you don’t have bystander consent” thing. I don’t want or need to know your partner sucks your neck; if it’s under clothes that’s fine & it’s your own sexy little secret & I get that (I like having “reminders” under my clothes), but it shouldn’t be on display.
sagtastic: I’m a huge fan of biting, so to me hickeys are just a part of that, with some suction added. I love giving them more than receiving them, I think, and I like the aspect of marking my partner. I also give him other kinds of marks like scratches on his back and spanking marks… he seems really into it.
My_Frozen_Heart: I like the pain factor, but don’t usually bother because I’m a lazy mofo and don’t feel like having to cover them up.
BlackGabriel: No offense just answering the “thoughts on hickeys” but they’re pretty cringy on adults. Very teenage inexperienced kinda thing. I feel that’s how 99 percent of society is going to see it as well so no no for work and such
thepopperguy: I love them. I love getting them and giving them.
Sadly, only one of the gals I’ve dated liked them at all, so it’s kind of a thing I go without.
yezoning: Hickeys are not my thing. I’ve never really been committed to a partner for a very long time (my longest real ‘relationship’ lasted for two months)so, I personally feel like hickeys are that sort of thing that should happen between long-term / committed couples. However, everyone has their own preferences but that’s just my opinion.
TheFalkirkToon: Hey I’m 50 and my wife can bring tears to my eyes doing one, hurts like hell but soooo good. I love getting them.
They stay for ages, but she always does it out of sight, like lower neck / shoulder.
AcceptableSalad: Nasty as fuck.
iMissErin: I love when women give me hickies, I just ask them to make sure it’s somewhere it doesn’t show.
Not sure why I like them so much.
mac8517: I once hickeyed my initials on a girl’s back
Orangecabbage: I love giving them, because my girlfriend goes crazy whenever my lips meet her neck. I don’t care for the mark as that doesn’t matter, and I would prefer there to be no mark anyways. I hate receiving them as it just hurts me.
CommieStoner: Love receiving and giving.
A single one? Passable. Loads in public? Trashy, cover them with clothing or makeup.
bluepotatoes66: Love ‘em. To me they’re a primal thing. Is sad that only one of my partners is into giving them but he’s also into receiving them, so yay!
sangetencre: They feel good. They look terrible. I prefer them in places that the public won’t see.