He kisses very Fast. How do I handle this?
Just hooked up with a new guy I really like. I like his kissing style overall in that he doesn’t use tongue, his lips are kissable soft, good breath, and good mouth shape. He kisses in short soft kisses, not quite pecks but definitely not deep. I would prefer some deeper kisses but I could do with our that. The problem is he kisses SO FAST it’s like his life depends on getting in enough kisses per second. Lol. It was honestly a bit stressful because he was So enthusiastic that I couldn’t keep up and felt like I couldn’t just relax and enjoy it.
I don’t want this to become something I hide that festers and ruins the relationship so I feel like I should handle it sooner rather than later. Towards the end of the last time I tried to stick to slightly slower kissing and he did seem to mimic that a bit and slow down a bit for a while. But it didn’t last. Now, I could just try to do that for a while since he did seem somewhat receptive to it.
I’m wondering though if I should just come out and say it. But it will only be our 2 hookup session and third date. If I say something I want it to be tactful and not hurt his feelings.
Does anyone have advice? I recognize that his enjoyment matters too, and I am willing to meet him halfway with medium speed of kissing.
difficult_vaginas: How old is he? He may not realize that slow kissing feels better, or he might not be confident in his kissing skills. The latter would explain him trying to get in and out, before you notice his lack of skill. So, talk to him.
I had a partner who kissed like that, here’s what worked for me. When he kisses you really fast, put your hand up to his mouth to stop him. Simply say “Slow down” with a smile, and it will sound like a delicious invitation rather than a rebuke. Then draw him back to you and show him how it’s done.
Coidzor: Tell him you’d like to kiss him a bit more slowly.