Lady Fay gives us a some tips on how to get the best out of anal sex toys.
While it seems to intrigue lots of people, anal sex has always been a topic that’s engendered very definite opinions amongst our female customers. They either love it or hate the very idea of it, and never the twain shall meet.
But occasionally one finds someone who was dead against it and then, having been persuaded to give it a try, becomes a real fan. One such regular Lady Fay’s Boudoir customer recently ordered the Fifty Shades of Grey Official Collection Something Forbidden Butt Plug.
She started out by getting the Fun Factory Bootie Butt Plug and was more than ready to extend her repertoire. She also asked for the Fifty Shades of Grey Pleasure Intensified Anal Beads and the Fun Factory Bendybeads, both of which consist of graded beads from small to large.
When questioned as to the reason for her change of heart, she explained that ever since introducing the first anal sex toy in to her love making, her orgasms had been so much fuller than before. “My orgasms have been remarkably enriched through this additional channel. I used to only be stimulated by my centre front and now it’s like listening to music on surround sound. The sensations encircle my entire body and provide me with stimulation in a 360° radius around my horizontal plane.”
Such eloquence certainly comes from a place of delicious pleasure and might just convince those of you who have not as yet ventured in this direction, to do so. As with any exploration of this nature one should take it slow and, if doing it with a partner, make sure that they understand that you call the shots and will let them know as soon as you’re not enjoying it.
How do you ensure it is safe and clean?
Firstly, rest assured that anal sex is safe and when pleasurable does not cause any harm. The anus is a sensitive erogenous zone which contains significantly more nerve endings than the vaginal wall and is just as sensitive as the clitoris when it comes to being exquisitely sensitive to touch.
Although the rectum is made up of delicate tissue, it is capable of stretching enough to accommodate fingers, the right toys and any penis size. Sperm and semen will do no harm as long as you’re well lubricated with spermicide free lubricants like Whet Very Slipberry or Nature Fresh Tea Tree Lubricant.
All anal sex toys should be made of something pliable like silicone and have a gradually narrowed tip and a flared base to ensure that they slip easily in to the rectal area. It is also advisable for each person to keep their toys to themselves and cleanse with Nature Fresh Tea Tree Cleanser before and after use. Once a toy has been designated for anal use, it is a good idea to purchase an alternative toy for your vaginal area so you never use the same toy in both areas in quick succession.
How do we start?
We recommend that you take is slow and don’t start with penis penetration. Get your man to massage your back and buttocks to help you relax and build trust. Then, after stimulating the outside with his finger or tongue, encourage him to gently insert and remove a butt plug that is very well lubricated at the tip. Work together, squeeze the muscles when you breathe in and relax them when you breathe out. Using toys is a fun way of giving you both a focal point around which to play.
Once the muscles are warmed up and the toy is comfortably in place, you can go ahead with vaginal intercourse with plenty of clitoral stimulation as well. After a few sessions you might like to introduce beads as these encourage the anus to open up and will have you swooning as he slowly insets the string, one bead at a time until they’re all inside and you’re deliciously brim-full.
Having your man then remove your anal sex toy gently mid-orgasm will undoubtedly also have “quite an effect” as Christian Grey describes it, and will unquestionably give you that complete body experience that our enthusiastic convert so vividly expressed.
Lady Fay’s Boudoir is an online lingerie and adult toy store created by a team of women as an antidote to the type of websites that make sexual exploration scary, tacky and generally unappealing to real women.