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Anyone, when you want sex are you craving that or [intimacy]?
Sometimes when I want sex, I think oh I need to get off, but it always seems to be more than that. I (30sM) really desire intimacy, to feel wanted and loved. Sounds hokey, but looking to see if anyone here feels the same way.
Within the last few months I’ve tried a Yoni and Lingam massage with my gf, after I saw posts on here about it, and it was mind altering. Being touched slowly and sensualy was like a whole body orgasm that didn’t stop. Once I got to the actual climax it wasn’t the best part of the night.
solidad: Depends on the partner. With my fiance it’s a combination of closeness and sex (since sex for me is a kind of closeness and a connective bond).
When I was a swinger I had a very clear divide between closeness and just outright sex.
beccamoo518: It depends on a lot of things, who it is, how much time we have. Sometimes I just want to be fucked, right here right now. I only really have that craving of intimacy with my husband. I’m in a open relationship, 9 out of 10 times with someone else, I kinda just want there dick and to get off on it. It also depends on the timing, are the kids around, are they busy enough to have enough time for intimacy. But ive never had it where the best part wasn’t the orgasm. I like the intimacy with my husband, I get really turned on by him, but the sex is the best part. I love the cuddling, playing with his body, looking at his body, looking at him in just boxers, his little chest hair, his smell, his eyes, his ass, his touch, his hands, his moaning but the sex is ALWAYS the best part.
SquishyButStrong: Mostly my sexy times are inherently sexual and for pleasure rather than intimacy. Intimacy usually isn’t the initiate. Maybe cuddles if I want intimacy… and then that leads to sex. But the sex isn’t for intimacy, it’s a product of cuddling naked together for an hour while we chat.
Sex can be very intimate and vulnerable. I explore bdsm and find it to be wonderfully intimate. But not inherently or initially. Intimacy follows the actions.
But I’m grayromantic so…
mikecg2: When I’m having a lot of casual sex it seems like I crave intimacy more, then when I’m with a gf it seems like I crave the casual sex. I’m in college. So I don’t know if that’s normal. But that’s how I am. Currently I am just hooking up with girls, have a regular fwb that I would like a little more intimacy with, theres another girl that I had sex with the other night, and then again yesterday, but she comes with complications. So at the moment I wish I would just find that one girl that I could go to bed with each night, and be like the one. I want to find that one girl that shes enough for me, I’m enough for her, that we think about each other all day, and cant wait to get home to see each other and have sex. But I haven’t yet. Lots of girls but no one where shes the only one I want intimacy with. Casual sex seems like that’s all I’m good at.