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I think I am afraid to write this , but I am gonna try. I love my boyfriend, I love the sex with him, we are from 2 years together. Is really hard for me to disconnect myself during the act, is really hard to get a orgasm. I am feeling afraid and shy is I found something what I like, and I stop him.
Where is the problem. What I can do to relax ?
Thank you guys.
Ohpenmynde: It helps but it isn’t helpful to realize this is pretty common. Do you really want to relax though or learn how to overcome/drop your inhibitions. Can you rechannel your tension to something more useful? What if you told your partner you were wanting to push your comfort envelope and were choosing him and wanting him to help you with that? Wouldn’t that be a massive turn on for him and wouldn’t seeing that it was massively boost your confidence? If nothing else, if would help him understand your switches from hot to cold.
Roxyandbambam: It’s common! I have maybe 5 a year, and never with my boyfriend. I can enjoy sex though, just don’t pressure yourself. The goal of sex isn’t to have an orgasm, at least not for me. It’s about being with my partner, and with acceptance of that and communication, it’s more enjoyable.
thepurpleminx: I was with my ex a long time and even orgasm wasn’t something to easily achieve no matter how frequent. It is a common issue for women and it’s cuz we “think” too much…one thing that worked pretty well wa she’d have me talk about something I read (I do a lot of reading) while we did foreplay and had sex and for some reason redirecting my focus helped. Give it a shot if you’re interested cuz I know it’s hard to NOT THINK for me so maybe redirection will work for you too.
GreenCricket: Do you get orgasms when you are alone? Do you masturbate at all?