I’ve had men ask me to write about my methods on how to make a girl orgasm since 2007, when I first mentioned the results I get with sex online… and I’ve always declined to write them.
I didn’t mind sharing what I did to pick up a girl. That’s just a process.
But sex… that’s an experience. And I’ve somewhat jealously guarded how to create the kind of experience I like creating for women through sex.
My goals with sex were the same as my goals with seduction: sex to me should be
Efficient to execute, and
Easy to do
Once I started working on getting sex down as a skill, I was able to give girls relatively hard orgasms within 10 or 15 minutes, on average. I gradually cut this down to about 5 to 10 minutes or so.
And right away, I was stacking powerful multiple orgasms from penetrative vaginal sex, one after another – the holy grail of sex performance for most men.
All those other guys out there were talking about giving girls orgasms with their hands or mouths… I laughed at that. I was giving them orgasms with ME.
And I didn’t want to talk about it… because sex is the great differentiator. If everybody else knows how to do what I know how to do in the sack, well, all those rip-roaring orgasms I just gave her aren’t really anything all that special… she can go get that from anybody.
But what I’ve realized over the years is, no matter how clear you make something for someone, no matter how simply you present it to him… if it requires even a little bit of work, most men are unlikely to ever use it.
If you use these techniques with the women you sleep with, it will change sex, women, and relationships for you forever.
But most men are never going to bother.
So, fears of getting out-competed by men using my own techniques against me set aside, I’m going to share with you how you can make girls orgasm hard, fast, and multiple times, using nothing but your member – and a little bit of work.
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I usually like to start off articles like this with some theory, so that you understand a) WHY we’re doing things a certain way, and not another way, and b) how to improve on them yourself, and how to change courses and improvise on the fly when you find yourself in novel situations I haven’t discussed in an article.
With a good grasp of the theory, you wind up not needing a whole lot else.
So here’s what you need to understand about sex that virtually nobody tells you (because virtually nobody is aware) and that makes all the difference between being okay at sex and being rock star good in bed.
Just like attractiveness and seduction have certain underlying fundamentals that – if you’re hitting these notes right – make these things a breeze, so too does sex.
Most of the sex fundamentals I learned as a teenager without ever having sex. At the time, I was trapped by my own social phobia without friends and without girlfriends or lovers, and I figured if I ever got a girl I really liked, then I REALLY wanted to make sure she didn’t ever want to leave.
One of the keys to this, I knew, was sex.
More specifically, giving a girl orgasms. Lots of orgasms.
I heard a lot of things growing up, about how sex is something you’re supposed to work through or talk about with your partner or whatnot, and it’s important, but the bond between too people is more important. I never put much credence in the things people say though, and from what I could tell from looking at people’s actual relationships, sex seemed to be all-important.
In fact, it seemed to be THE most important thing there was.
A woman could HATE a guy… but if he gave her incredible sex, she’d keep coming back for more.
Or, she might think a guy was the most wonderful fellow in the world… but if he couldn’t perform, she’d soon be gone, off in the arms of another man who could.
So, I studied. I needed to be not just good at sex, but incredible at it, as soon as I got going.
I wanted to land on my feet as quickly as possible.
I learned how to give women orgasms manually, orally, and anally. I learned these so well, in fact, that the first time I ever gave a girl oral sex, she orgasmed quickly, and angrily called me a liar for telling her I was inexperienced. She never believed me that I’d never done it before, and never really trusted me after that “lie.” I told her I’d just watched a video on giving oral sex; she told me no one gets that good from watching a video.
But most of all, I studied how to give women orgasms vaginally.
The stuff I was reading about the “G-spot” was a bit too complicated for me… I couldn’t really figure out where it was or what to do with it (in fact, I’ve never really sat down to figure this out… Ricardus talks about it fairly in-depth in his article on how to be a good lover, though, and it does seem to be pretty useful).
I eventually decided that, based on everything I’d studied and read, these were the fundamentals of sex:
Passion is key. Sex is every bit as much a mental and emotional experience as it is a physical one. Women had the most exciting, fulfilling experiences with passionate men… and by nature, I am one of the most dispassionate individuals you will meet. I knew I needed to simulate passion, and eventually learn it for real.
Physical contact is best maximized. Another thing I suspected was extremely important was maximizing physical contact – getting your skin contacting as much of her skin as possible. This makes the sex much more personal, and much less clinical, and increases the release of pleasure and bonding hormones that occurs with skin contact between a man and a woman.
You need both clitoral and vaginal stimulation. What I was reading again and again and again was that women wished more men would stimulate their clitoris during sex, and so many men were ignorant of this. Yet, the clitoris was outside and above the vagina… and I didn’t want to be just using my hand or my mouth, because
Penetrative sex is REAL sex. Just like she’s not really your girlfriend if you’re not having sex with her, it’s not really sex if your penis isn’t in her. Women know this, and while they enjoy men who give them orgasms with other parts of their bodies – tongues, fingers, hands, sex toys – these men aren’t real men the way men who make women cum with their penises are. If you want to maintain a woman’s respect and attraction at the uppermost levels – and in my mind, that’s the #1 reason to bother giving her orgasms at all in the first place – you need to be making her cum with your penis, not your tongue / fingers.
Rhythm is non-negotiable. Hidden deep within the tomes I was reading on sex, I discovered an emphasis on rhythm that seemed largely devoid from much of the lighter and more mainstream sex advice stuff I perused. Rhythm was why women found men who danced well sexy and suspected they’d be good in bed – and it was also why once a girl went black she didn’t go back. Black men – on average – had rhythm; white men – on average – did not. I further learned that women enter a trance-like state during good, rhythmic sex, that is necessary for and precedes orgasm. The men shifting around and thrusting arrhythmically prevent women from ever entering this trance – and prevent them from ever climaxing, too.
Dominance is mandatory. Women want to be taken… not asked. I learned that asking her, “Is this okay?” or, “Was that good for you?” are big no-nos that make you seem inexperienced and like you don’t know what you’re doing. A woman wants to feel like you know her body better than she does, and know what’s best for her better than she does… she wants to be able to just relax, enjoy the ride, and let you do what you know how to do so well without having to worry or think about anything other than how good it feels and how good you are. You must know what you’re doing, and tell her what to do / move her around dominantly and confidently and self-assuredly.
There were other things I found that were useful and important, like using your voice during sex, and doing things like gripping and pulling her hair (when behind her), smacking her butt, etc.
I also read about how important foreplay was – but I didn’t consider that a fundamental, because my belief was that if you’re incredible at penetrative sex, once you get there she’ll be having so much pleasure she’s not going to care if you didn’t tease her for 15 minutes first.
I do use foreplay – sometimes – if I want to build up a girl’s anticipation and get her cumming faster and harder than she would without it.
But it’s certainly not mandatory. If you know what you’re doing in bed, you can go in with no foreplay and still have her cumming hard in minutes.
DELIVERING THE GOODS
make a girl orgasmAt first, I was pretty average at sex. I ran into fairly normal guy problems like:
Girls weren’t climaxing with me, except rarely (and weakly)
I was getting tired fairly easily (even though I worked out)
The sex was boring enough that women would sometimes start talking to me during it
… but then one day I needed to pull off a miracle.
I’d managed to pull off a remarkable turnaround with a gorgeous girl I’d wanted to make my girlfriend, who’d earlier decided she wanted nothing to do with me, and I’d managed to sleep with her while on a tour overseas with a bunch of other people.
But she still disliked me and thought I was no good (I was going a little too far with the bad boy image then and hadn’t learned how to balance it right), and told me there was zero chance of us having a relationship or seeing each other after we got back from the trip.
I shrugged this off, trying to seem nonchalant, because if I knew if I chased her I was done for sure. But I knew I needed to give her a reason to keep seeing me after our return if I wanted her as a girlfriend – and the only thing I could think that could possibly do it was sex.
Except, I was pretty ordinary at sex.
So, on the last night of the trip, with her turned on and lustily grasping at me as we rode around town in a taxicab, I finally got her back to the hotel, and decided to try something new. I’d come up with an idea that would hopefully let me last longer without getting tired, maintain better rhythm, and give her both clitoral and vaginal stimulation at the same time.
I tried it out on her, and 10 minutes into sex, she achieved climax – hard. I couldn’t believe it… I started grinning. And kept going.
Then she came again.
After the fourth orgasm – all right in a row – she breathlessly said, “I think you are the best.”
Like a dork, I asked, “The best ever?” She didn’t answer… she just came hard again.
And then again.
And then again.
After the seventh orgasm – by this point, she was screaming so hard I literally thought she was going to start crying, and I was afraid the hotel staff would break down the door thinking her limbs were being sawn off – she yelled, “I don’t think I can LEAVE you!” and I knew I’d done it.
She came two more times, and then I finished.
We’d been having sex for only 15 or 20 minutes.
We ended up dating for 2½ years after that.
HOW TO MAKE A GIRL ORGASM, HARD AND FAST
I don’t know if there’s a common name for this sex position; in the years I’ve shared it with close friends, I’ve had one person show me something that described the same position. I forget what it was called there.
I’ve never seen it anywhere else.
Well nigh everyone I’ve asked to try it out has reported having his girls orgasm off of it, usually on the first try. In fact, the first friend of mine who tried it out, I was hanging out in the other bedroom in his house when he did – he didn’t know I was there – and I listened to him make a girl scream at the top of her lungs for five minutes.
Here’s the position – I call it “adapted missionary,” and it looks very much like this:
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The only difference between the position itself and the picture above is that normally you’ll have your hands not holding her hands but holding her shoulders from underneath.
Here’s how this differs from an ordinary missionary position:
Forearm and elbow support. Ordinary missionary position entails a man raised up above the woman’s body, supported by his hands and wrists. For obvious reasons, this is a pretty tiring position – it takes a lot of work to hold yourself up that much! When you’re supporting yourself with your forearms and elbows instead though, you tire out much more slowly – and can last far longer. This also allows you to maintain much more control over your bodily motions, making it significantly easier to keep a steady thrusting rhythm.
Full body contact. Unlike ordinary missionary, where you’re holding yourself above the girl, in adapted missionary your body is on top of hers, creating a much more intimate experience, and prompting the release of more pleasure and bonding chemicals in her brain, increasing her enjoyment.
Altered thrust angle. The one “complaint” I’ve had from friends who’ve tried this position out is that they enjoyed the sex somewhat less. That’s because this position gives you a very “clean” angle of entry into a woman’s vagina – you’re going right in, with little in the way, which means less pressure on your penis shaft, and a bit less pleasure for you. On the other hand, it allows for deeper penetration, which means you more easily reach the back wall of her vagina with the end of your penis – and vaginal back wall stimulation is how you trigger the most powerful vaginal orgasms.
Pelvic rubbing and clitoral stimulation. Because of the position your body is in, your pelvis slides back and forth against hers – stimulating her clitoris in the process. Rather than an up and down motion, like you’d have with a standard missionary position, where her clitoris gets virtually no stimulation, in adapted missionary this back and forth rubs her clitoris constantly.
Shoulder grip for added oomph. As you get closer to orgasm, you’ll want to thrust into her harder while maintaining the same rhythm, to hit the back wall of her vagina harder and to rub her clitoris harder. Because your hands are wrapped around her shoulders from behind and underneath, you’re able to not just thrust forward, but pull her downward as well. This roughly doubles the strength you can thrust with, and is pretty exciting for her too. You can feel the difference just by letting go of her shoulders and thrusting, then grasping them and thrusting. Big difference in power.
Orgasms happen for me with this position with most girls within 8 to 10 minutes, maximum – often faster, when they’re excited.
The neat thing about this position is that it takes care of everything for you, short of rhythm. Rhythm ends up being the only thing you need to concentrate on – everything else is automatic.
If you’re starting off with standard white guy rhythm (that is to say, NO rhythm) like I was when I first began using this position, expect four to six months of sex several times a week while concentrating on rhythm to get your rhythm down tight. You’ll struggle a bit at first, and she likely won’t climax every time, but once you’ve got it down, you’ll know how to make a girl orgasm like no one else she’s ever met… or ever will meet.
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Let’s say you’ve got adapted missionary down, and now you want to find more ways to make your girl climax hard and fast. What else is there out there?
In this section, I want to show you a couple of other sex positions that you may or may not have seen before, talk about how to make a girl orgasm with them, and review a few more tips that are generally going to make you better at sex and more adept at giving a fulfilling sexual experience to girls.
LEGS OVER SHOULDERS
One of the better positions for deep penetration in a girl is this one:
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You can do this similar to missionary, but with a girl’s knees crooked over your shoulders. This one gives you great, deep penetration – which you may find is too much at the start of sex, especially if you have a longer penis.
Tips on this one:
The more you bend down over the girl (and the closer you bend her knees back towards her chest), the deeper the penetration you’ll get with her, and the more exciting the position becomes because of the strain you’re putting on her legs
If you have a large/long penis, try this one out, but you’ll often find you can’t use it until your girl starts getting reasonably close to climax, or else she finds this position too uncomfortable – she’ll complain or pain or discomfort in her lower abdomen (that’s you pushing too hard on her vaginal back wall). You may also sometimes find that while she’ll have really powerful, exciting orgasms, she’ll also be pretty sore after cumming this way, too
Some women enjoy this position more than adapted missionary, others less so – it depends on the girl. Try both with her, and see which one you get more miles out of
Legs-over-shoulders is typically best as a “finishing move” – once she starts getting close to orgasm, shift her into this position to make her cum harder.
Or, if you’ve already given her a few orgasms in another position, switch her into this one to keep the orgasms flowing by stimulating her in a newer and more powerful way.
I first got really interested in this position after watching the scene in the immortal classic Showgirls where Elizabeth Berkley straddles Kyle MacLachlan in the pool:
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I saw that and said, “Let ME try that”… but then I realized I didn’t have a pool handy.
So, I improvised; I couldn’t make a girl float without water, but I could do my best to hold her up.
make a girl orgasmThe next time I was having sex, I raised up on my knees out of adapted missionary, grasped my girls buttocks, and hoisted her pelvis up into the air. Then, holding her pelvis up with one of my hands beneath each of her glutes, I started thrusting hard, and she was cumming in minutes.
This has since become one of my favorite positions for blowing girls minds but, unlike adapted missionary, this one is HARD and WILL tire you out. Don’t expect to do it for long unless you’re in fantastic shape (on the plus side, it’s certainly good exercise).
You’ll see guys talking about shagging girls with pillows under their butts; this position is that, on steroids, with a can of Red Bull to boot.
Tips for maximizing the experience:
If you need to up your own excitement, watch yourself thrusting into and out of her. It’s a lot more visually stimulating when you see your penis in her vagina
If you don’t mind the strain of holding her lower body up with one hand for a moment, you can use your other hand to slap her clitoris or rub it… both very enjoyable for her
If you start getting winded but want to continue in this position, ask her to support her lower body with her toes, or have her prop her butt up with her hands beneath it and elbows on the bed
This position’s a lot of fun, and women tend to find it pretty exciting, but it’s so much work for you that you shouldn’t expect to get a great deal of personal satisfaction out of it yourself.
However, if you really want to show a girl you know what you’re doing in bed and can give it to her in very novel and pleasurable ways, this one does the trick.
MORE SEX TIPS TO MAKE A GIRL ORGASM LOADS
Here, more general sex tips that will make generating quick, powerful multiple orgasms in women much more of a snap than it was before you started using them:
Syncing up sensation. One of the secrets of sex I realized sometime back was that when you do what feels physically best for your penis during sex, it tends to get the most physically pleasurable reaction out of your partner. Thrust one way, and she’ll like it; thrust another way that feels better for you, and she’ll love it. Focus on maximizing your own sensation, and you maximize hers, too.
Dirty talk on the high points. I’m not much of a talker during sex usually (although I did mention one use for this when a girl’s been giving you trouble in the “Am I still…?” thread on the discussion boards), but one time I do enjoy using it is in amplifying a girl’s pleasure and helping her achieve orgasm more quickly on the high points. Just as she seems to be peaking, enjoyment-wise, you can ping her with a, “Your pussy feels so good,” or, “You love my hard cock inside of you,” as you thrust into her (said in a very sexy voice, of course) and watch/listen to her peak higher.
Teasing around her anus. The anus is a very sensitive part of the body, and you can increase a girl’s excitement levels (and proximity to orgasm) by playing around near and in it. When you’re having sex with a girl from behind (doggy style), you can run your hand along her inner buttocks, just near her anus… and if you really want to drive her hard, use your thumb to start dipping into and out of her anus, and stick it in and play around a bit. The combination of your thumb in her anus and your penis thrusting into and out of her vagina will drive her wild.
Sex from behind / doggy style. Sex from behind can be a very solid option for getting orgasms, but you need the right angle for this – if she’s around your height, that’s perfect; if she’s much shorter than you, you’ll have a harder time with this one. Use beds / sofas to try and get the proper angle. Some women orgasm easily from this position, while others do not. Doggy style causes the vagina to tighten, which is good, but can also lead to chafing if you stay in the position for more than 5 to 10 minutes and are having hard, rough sex without lubrication – so have a bottle of lubricant or petroleum jelly handy just in case.
Rough sex – hair pulling, biting. A surprising number of women really enjoy rough sex – things like biting them (lightly), or grabbing a fistful of their hair (easiest when having sex from behind) and yanking it backwards, hard. Some of the roughest enjoyable sex can be choking, because cutting off the oxygen flow to the brain heightens the sensation of climaxing, but I personally won’t touch this one myself, even though I’ve had a few girls request it, because a few people die from this every year in freak accidents – there are enough other ways to heighten her enjoyment that you probably don’t need to risk giving her an aneurism. Hair pulling and biting are great though, as are slapping her buttocks or breasts during sex.
Using foreplay to heighten anticipation / enjoyment. I’m a “let’s get to it” kind of guy who doesn’t enjoy foreplay a whole lot, so I use this only sporadically, but you can really get a girl lusting for you with good foreplay. Some of the most powerful orgasms I’ve generated in women have come after extended period of foreplay – e.g., riding around in the back of a taxi making out and teasing her sexually, etc., before we finally were able to get alone and get to it. The more you build her anticipation of the act, the more explosive it is for her when you finally slip inside and go to work on her.
Switching up sensations. When I discussed the sex fundamentals above, I mentioned that one of these sex fundamentals is that you maximize skin-to-skin contact – the more of your body touching hers, the higher the enjoyment. One thing you can do for variety during the act – that heightens pleasure by way of contrast – is going from a very high contact position to a minimal contact position; for instance, switching from adapted missionary over to sex from behind, and then taking your hands off her completely so that the only part of your body she’s touching at all is your penis in her vagina (and your hips against her buttocks when you thrust forward into her). The difference in sensation is huge, and spikes her pleasure… and once she’s acclimated to that position, you can turn her on her back again and go back to adapted missionary, and again the shock of suddenly maximal skin-to-skin contact sends waves of delight through her body, too.
Taking her to the point of orgasm – but not taking her over. I was a “break taker” by necessity while getting good at sex, to stop myself from cumming too quickly or to take a break if I started feeling a little tired. Just stop thrusting and relax, penis still inside her. What I noticed, however, was that if I routinely got a girl just to the point of climaxing, then had to stop because I was about to finish before she was, then started up again once I’d calmed down a bit… then had to stop again, just shy of her orgasming… then finally brought her to orgasm after all of this build up, the orgasms she’d experience were tremendously powerful – akin to what you’d get with some pretty good foreplay. This bringing her to the point of orgasming, then not letting her orgasm, then bringing her to the point of orgasming again, then not letting her orgasm, then finally bringing her there really makes the effect much more potent.
Sex in public. You can have even mediocre sex, but if you have it in public, it can be very exciting and pleasurable for many women, because of the uncertainty, excitement, and anticipation of not knowing if they’ll be caught, if they’ll get in trouble, and who, if anyone, will see. Check out the article on sex logistics for more on where and how to make this happen.
You can use some of these, or a bunch of these (or maybe ALL of these, if you’re feeling frisky and ambitious) in concert together, or you can use them one at a time. That’s up to your discretion.
However, each of these tactics will up her enjoyment – and her perceptions of you as a talented, amazing, top-caliber lover.
HOW IMPORTANT IS GOOD SEX?
make a girl orgasmGreat sex is the key to your romantic relationships. If the key to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the key to a woman’s is through her vagina.
Every girl I’ve given strong, hard multiple orgasms to in any kind of relationship capacity has fallen very quickly in love with me, even women who’d never been in love with anyone before and were otherwise very rational, unemotional people. It’s almost to the point where it’s become ridiculous – a girl seems like a total independent hard case, but a few rounds of screaming orgasms later and she’s looking at you with doe eyes and little hearts swimming around above her head.
Great sex turns lionesses into kittens, just like what we talked about when we talked about horny girls.
In fact, it can get to the point where you start NOT wanting to be too good in bed… so women don’t get too addicted (and then hurt). When I was still drunk off the amazing power of adapted missionary and telling my guy friends to try it out on girls, one of my more experienced friends at the time told me he didn’t need it… because he didn’t want the sex to be TOO good… just good enough to keep women coming back.
He didn’t want them getting addicted, falling crazy in love, and becoming drama-causers.
So, use the ability to make a girl orgasm with caution, and use it responsibly. One-night stands are fine – give them the night of their lives. And long-term relationships are good – they’ll never be with anyone as amazing as you.
But, I’d suggest you refrain from blowing the minds of your casual relationship partners… unless you want to turn a cool-headed sometimes-lover into a jealously possessive head-over-heels in love kind of gal.
Great power? Great responsibility.
Use it well…